That comes with time. At this age ther only so much of a deep connection you can have. And when I first got into this relationship it was just like being friends with a good night kiss. But being in a relationship makes you open up to the other person and makes the other person open up to you. You also begin to take each other more seriously and spend more time together. And that's how that connection is started. Going into the relationship, honestly, I didn't have much feelings for her except "liking", but I liked 6 other girls aswell. Six months later, I really do have feelings. She's currently on a week long trip visiting her relatives and I really miss her, her company, hanging out, everything... And if you just remain friends with someone, you're never gonna establish something more. I have some girl-friends that I occasionally hang out with/text but I couldn't give a shit less at where they are. Point is, nothing's gonna happen if you don't try. And if you only start trying when you're in college or something, you're gonna suck at relationships at a time when you're searching for a soulmate. And I'm not even gonna say anything about establishing a "physical" connection if you're not in a relationship.