um... Yeah, I have a boyfriend. I've known him for almost two years, we've been dating seriously for about two months now. When we first started to really like each other (a few months after we met), neither of us had a clue as to what the other felt, so he dated another girl, I dated another guy very briefly, and we stayed just friends. Then he and his girl broke up, another girl jumped right in. You can imagine how I was feeling through all of that. Well, this second girl was not nice to him at all, and when they finally broke up, she was dumping him for another guy. (This was about six months ago.) So he's pretty hurt, and I'm trying to help out, and surprise! He tells me that he's liked me all along, and just never thought that I would ever really care about him because I just acted like a good friend, never anything more. It's been really good, our personalities just seem to...match I guess. That's the closest word that I can think of. Kind of like East Coast Punk and her guy...we like the same music and both have sick minds.
I've never had a boyfriend, but I'm so close to having one now...it's such a complicated situation, but I can always try and explain it in short form. I love one of my best friends, I've known him for about two years. I had a crush on him last year, even though we weren't really that close. But this year, I got to know him A LOT better and I completely fell for him. And I told him how I felt because he seemed interested in me as well. It turned out at that time he didn't feel the same way, but he insisted that we stay friends. After I told him, we became even closer friends, and he started acting more and more like he liked me. We're able to talk about ANYTHING because we have such a strong friendship. So in January I talked to him about my feelings again, and he told me he didn't feel the same way. But ever since then, his behavior has been very contradictory to what he told me. The way he acts around me is plainly obvious to me and everyone else that he likes me...yet he says nothing about it. But I'm beginning to understand why he is afraid...he's been hurt way too many times in his life, and, judging from his symptoms, he seems to be clinically depressed. (I know a lot about of that sort of thing since my mother had the same illness a few years ago.) He told me that I was one of his few true friends in the world, and we told each other that we would always be there whenever one of us needed the other. So I'm just trying to be supportive and understanding, and trying not to let his contradictory behavior get to me. It's easier than it sounds since we are so close. We have SO much in common, I often say he is the male version of me. We have a lot of fun together, but we are also to talk about anything serious. So I can wait for him.
Ive been with my girlfriend Holly for about a month and a half now, I love her with all my heart. Hopefully we will be together for awhile.
I don't know if you want advice, maybe I'm not the best person to give you it, but I had a situation very similar to yours. Take it as you want. There was a girl I got to know back in grade 10 very well. We instantly clicked and did many things together and we always talked. I had a crush on her but I didn't want to tell her my feelings until it seemed like she felt the same thing towards me. At a party, we were lying on the stairs and she just stared into my eyes for at least 20 minutes, telling me to keep talking because she thought it was "sexy". She complimented me on my looks and I just took it and flirted back with her. We were really close that night. A few weeks later we went glow-bowling and she wrote messages on my arm like "Me + You = " and "I want you". I took it as a total come-on (who wouldn't?) and planned to give her roses on valentines day, along with an invitation to go out with me. I did that, and she agreed. I called her a few times over the next couple of weeks asking her about what she was doing and seeing if she could go out, but she kept avoiding me. I eventually caught the hint and stopped. Why did she flirt with me then instantly shut me down? How evil is that? She just likes the attention of boys buying her things and talking to her that she actually doesn't think about the other people's feelings, only their own. I later learned that she was talking behind my back to everyone, humiliating me while I was oblivious that this was the case. Case in point: As you said, if you feel a certain way about that person and you've made your intentions known, wait for him. If he feels the same way, he will come to you, because he knows you will accept any propositions he throws your way.
Wow, I can't believe that happened to you. I'm really sorry things turned out that way. But thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it. I will wait for him. I don't understand why she did what she did to you, that was just plain mean spirited. People don't make any sense. But it made me feel better to know that someone else knows what I'm going through.
My situation with someone is very painful :hypno: :hypno: :hypno: The only thing ive probably ever said to her was hi...
... just like my first-crush story... in contradictory, i'm the one who was dreading the relationship... like i fear of getting intimate - i want a freedom to love a person without being intimate with them... (and how is that suppose to happen?!! ) and now that i regret it, every single bit of it... anyway, if ur really sure that this guy is meant for u (though u cant foretell the future...) i'd say go for it, at least go for a try... dont let this guy goes his own way... (not a good idea!) he must be a very nice person to be with but with his conditions, he can be pretty sensitive and emotional too... (easily touched by his feelings over something, like that)... but think on the positive side... he'll need your support, yes... you're the one who must be the strongest person in this situation... (above all)... should there be a give-and-take situation in the relationship... you dont want to be like me... hanging 'round in stupidity that i lost in my own hatred and trust on men 'coz i've lost my guidance... yes, i'm like that guy you told... (somehow, it has become like a pleasure or some kind of numb feelings when i'd let them hurt me with the rejections... :wth: sick!! ...God, and i dont feel anything!)
Die duck . [/b][/quote] What the heck, others would die for two ppl asking them out But you're obviously too good for them :chemist:
hmm... love hurts :argh: .... I've never had a bf... do I care.. I used to, now I don't... I fell in love with a boy 2 years ago but he started going out with ne of my best friends so.... blah.. I'm single and I don't care about it....
I've never had a boyfriend, ever. Sometimes it doesn't bother me, and sometimes I get really depressed over it. I wish I didn't care, but sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on my teenage years. But then, sometimes I don't see the point of having a relationship because it's not like that would be the person I would marry. My friend recently broke up with her boyfriend, and I'm glad I've never gone through that because I see how badly she's hurting. I suppose I have mixed feelings over all of this. But I do feel really lonely most of the time. Oh well. Life goes on.
As most of you may know, my boyfriend is Neil. Go Neil! lol I've known Neil for a little under two years now. We went to the same elementary school but I wasn't aquainted with him then. He's also a year older, so he left the school a year before I did. We eventually met up in a Grade 9 academic English course. He tells me the moment I walked through the door, he was just wowed. I was seated one desk ahead of him. After a month or two, the guy behind me was placed at the front and Neil was seating behind me. Thus began an very enjoyable 4th period. I suppose Neil was embarassed because the only reason I recognized him was because of an incident in grade school where he threw up on a ski trip. Not very smooth. Neil would always talk to me in class. My first impression was he was super friendly and funny. He realized he liked me when he wouldn't stop thinking about me (even outside of school) I came into English class once after having a bad day. Neil seemed to take notice and he asked what was wrong. It sounded shallow but I told him I felt ugly because my hair looked weird. He told me that wasn't true, that I looked beautiful. I felt my mouth drop. I had never had anyone, let alone a guy call me beautiful before. It had always been, "You're hot." and well we all know how much forethought goes into thinking that. Neil and I both had crushes on each other throughout that semester. Unfortunately we hadn't the slightest clue. After our exam was completed, we figured we wouldn't talk to one another again. We didn't run with the same group of people. A few months later, I found out from a friend of a friend that Neil liked me... alot. I was in totally shock. He didn't want me to find out, because he figured I wouldn't feel the same. In May I began talking to him over MSN. Aaw geez, I still remember the line he used on me. "Talking to a really hot chick from my school..." as if he had typed in the wrong convo box. I still knew he liked me, and so I figured it'd only be fair to tell him. I also told him I had a crush on him when we had English together. He asked me what sparked that interest, so that maybe he could do it again. (Aaw ) We began to talk to each other at school again. I finally got the guts to ask him out in June. I knew he wouldn't be the one to come and ask me. When I asked him out I think he was a little shocked. He asked if I was joking and I told him it was anything but. He never said yes, just "awesome". We went through a rough patch a week later and I broke up with him for 5 days. Fortunately I realized what an amazing guy I was missing out on and we've been going out to this day. It's been the best 8 months of my life. And I owe that all to Neil. Thankies Neil Neil. We're both convinced we're so so lucky to have one another. I love this boy so much. :hugz: My wish is all the single people of the LPA find their Neil, haha.
Im single I might have asked out someone this week but i cant now because my m8 has made her h8 me and we've never even spoken to each other ever. but we now each other through ppl and being set in the same classes. Im gonna drop this area for a while because whenever i try to get somewere things get shitty or my m8s find a way to mess it up
What the heck, others would die for two ppl asking them out But you're obviously too good for them :chemist: [/b][/quote] You know it B) .