Derek, you got taken advantage of. It happens to everyone at some point. She realized she could get you to take care of her without giving you anything in return. And now she feels like if she sees you again, she might have to explain herself or do something for you, and she's avoiding that. I suggest not seeing her again. She's a user.
Get your money back and go Stewie Griffin on her ass: http://video.adultswim.com/family-guy/you-got-my-money.html ...but in all seriousness, get your money back and kick her to the curb....
Derek, I've learned in my short life that you have to be a bit of an asshole sometimes to get to the places you want to reach in life no matter how it makes people feel.
I'm sorry Derek. =[ That's really low of her. I hope she contacts you again soon. --- And for my rant: Long distance relationships are so effing hard sometimes.. *sigh*
Anya: That's why I don't bother with long distance relationships. *hugs* Derek: *hugs* Finding the right person is found through trial and error. Me? Ben and I are moving 16 hours away to Brisbane and I'm not sure if I want to leave everything here in Bathurst just yet, my friends, my family....I'm already having difficulty understanding my dad will not be around the corner in a few weeks because he's moving 45 minutes away from me, he's selling the house, he's selling my room, and he's selling my memories. I barfed in that toilet when I was pregnant for god sake!
@Everyone: Thanks. ...I'm beginning to wonder if I need to stop being so nice, stop doing so many favors for people and generally quit being such a pushover. Growing up, I was always raised by my parents to see the good in people...and lately I wonder if that needs to change. So far being friendly has got me betrayed, walked over and it's even lead to some people within the LP community to stab me in the back too. I cant even count the number of times that my ability to trust so easily has blew up in my face, and yet I continue to be the one who always gives someone a second chance, or the "benefit of the doubt", even though I shouldn't. Maybe it's time I toughen up and stop letting everyone in. There's no room in my life for this bullshit, and while shutting myself out is a negative way of handling the problem, such a change will only mean I'll be less disappointed in people in the long run. Being nice has only gotten me fucked. And not in a good way either.
Derek, You can't just stop everything you were raised to believe. What you need to do is to be a little more cautious. You need to not be so open until you get to a place where you know you can start to take that leap of faith and trust them. Life is difficult (To say the least!). Love is so complicated that it can't even be explained. But the connections that you can make with someone is even more complicated. Don't deprive yourself of that, just be a little more guarded. Have a thicker shell and a tighter wallet. Good luck!
So she wanted me to find a cute picture that described how she felt... about her and her boyfriend when she knows how I feel about her (i.e love) That's definitely abusing my love and my friendship So, I've tried to be a friend. It's just too much really. And what she did is wrong I mean.. it's just not right. I'm pretty sure it's back to plan B for me.. Ignoring her forever seems pretty reasonable.
Get help before it's too late so you can tackle the problem/s head on so you can avoid the loneliness of depresion.
Yep, you've got a serous problem there. You should be nice only to your family and friends. Of course, you can't be rude to others, but keep your distance, never look weak, don't do favours to people you barely know, and certainly don't pay for other people's shit. I realized that a long time ago. Despite what people say, being nice to everyone never gets you anywhere. Now, go ban a couple of people on the boards, just to show you're serious
I will not go on a banning spree. That's bad advice . I did however send her a message. It's been over a week and she's all but ceased contact with me completely. *EDIT* She claims to have never received my prior messages. A part of me is skeptical of that, but I will give her the benefit of the doubt. It certainly would explain a LOT.
I dunno how to feel... I know I'll never be a part of that other little world of hers... It doesn't feel good, but I don't know why it matters... Im confused. And I don't even know why