The Advice Thread (formerly GSYWTLO)

Discussion in 'Serious Chat' started by Casual D, Dec 5, 2009.

  1. Holiday

    Holiday Married and on a life-long adventure! LPA Super VIP

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    Derek, you got taken advantage of.

    It happens to everyone at some point.

    She realized she could get you to take care of her without giving you anything in return. And now she feels like if she sees you again, she might have to explain herself or do something for you, and she's avoiding that.

    I suggest not seeing her again. She's a user.
     
  2. Andrea

    Andrea best friends. LPA Addicted VIP

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  3. Casual D

    Casual D I WON'T BE YOUR CASUAL D. LPA Administrator

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    Thanks guys. It makes me wonder why I'm such a good guy sometimes.
     
  4. Sønic

    Sønic Searching for the last Chaos Emerald... LPA Super Member

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    Derek, I've learned in my short life that you have to be a bit of an asshole sometimes to get to the places you want to reach in life no matter how it makes people feel.
     
  5. Anya

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    :hug: I'm sorry Derek. =[ That's really low of her. I hope she contacts you again soon.

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    And for my rant: Long distance relationships are so effing hard sometimes.. *sigh*
     
  6. Gloomy Mushroom

    Gloomy Mushroom Absolute Zero LPA Super VIP

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    Anya: That's why I don't bother with long distance relationships. *hugs*
    Derek: *hugs* Finding the right person is found through trial and error.

    Me? Ben and I are moving 16 hours away to Brisbane and I'm not sure if I want to leave everything here in Bathurst just yet, my friends, my family....I'm already having difficulty understanding my dad will not be around the corner in a few weeks because he's moving 45 minutes away from me, he's selling the house, he's selling my room, and he's selling my memories. I barfed in that toilet when I was pregnant for god sake!
     
  7. aki*lp

    aki*lp LPA Super Member LPA Super Member

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    Derek-She was an asshole. You don't have to deal with her again. Case Closed.
     
  8. Casual D

    Casual D I WON'T BE YOUR CASUAL D. LPA Administrator

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    @Everyone: Thanks.

    ...I'm beginning to wonder if I need to stop being so nice, stop doing so many favors for people and generally quit being such a pushover. Growing up, I was always raised by my parents to see the good in people...and lately I wonder if that needs to change. So far being friendly has got me betrayed, walked over and it's even lead to some people within the LP community to stab me in the back too. I cant even count the number of times that my ability to trust so easily has blew up in my face, and yet I continue to be the one who always gives someone a second chance, or the "benefit of the doubt", even though I shouldn't. Maybe it's time I toughen up and stop letting everyone in. There's no room in my life for this bullshit, and while shutting myself out is a negative way of handling the problem, such a change will only mean I'll be less disappointed in people in the long run.

    Being nice has only gotten me fucked. And not in a good way either.
     
  9. SecondCityKids

    SecondCityKids Hey John, What's Your Name Again? LPA Super Member

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    Damn I was about to say "high five!" Lmao jk
     
  10. Holiday

    Holiday Married and on a life-long adventure! LPA Super VIP

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    Derek,

    You can't just stop everything you were raised to believe. What you need to do is to be a little more cautious. You need to not be so open until you get to a place where you know you can start to take that leap of faith and trust them.

    Life is difficult (To say the least!). Love is so complicated that it can't even be explained. But the connections that you can make with someone is even more complicated. Don't deprive yourself of that, just be a little more guarded.

    Have a thicker shell and a tighter wallet. ;)

    Good luck!
     
  11. The Emptiness Machine

    The Emptiness Machine Out of the abyss. LPA Über VIP

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    So she wanted me to find a cute picture that described how she felt...
    about her and her boyfriend
    when she knows how I feel about her (i.e love)
    That's definitely abusing my love and my friendship
    So, I've tried to be a friend. It's just too much really.
    And what she did is wrong I mean.. it's just not right.
    I'm pretty sure it's back to plan B for me..
    Ignoring her forever seems pretty reasonable.
     
  12. Luke

    Luke Mind Your Manners. LPA Addicted VIP

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    Yeah so I'm slipping back into clinical depression, any ideas how to get drag myself back out of it?
     
  13. SecondCityKids

    SecondCityKids Hey John, What's Your Name Again? LPA Super Member

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    Yeah dude thats fucked up. She is doing it just to annoy you. I vote in favor of ignoring her
     
  14. Gloomy Mushroom

    Gloomy Mushroom Absolute Zero LPA Super VIP

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    Get help before it's too late so you can tackle the problem/s head on so you can avoid the loneliness of depresion.
     
  15. El Muerto

    El Muerto LPA Super Member LPA Super Member

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    Yep, you've got a serous problem there. You should be nice only to your family and friends. Of course, you can't be rude to others, but keep your distance, never look weak, don't do favours to people you barely know, and certainly don't pay for other people's shit.

    I realized that a long time ago. Despite what people say, being nice to everyone never gets you anywhere.

    Now, go ban a couple of people on the boards, just to show you're serious :)
     
  16. Casual D

    Casual D I WON'T BE YOUR CASUAL D. LPA Administrator

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    I will not go on a banning spree. That's bad advice :lol:.

    I did however send her a message. It's been over a week and she's all but ceased contact with me completely.

    *EDIT* She claims to have never received my prior messages. A part of me is skeptical of that, but I will give her the benefit of the doubt. It certainly would explain a LOT.
     
  17. Harlz

    Harlz More Scared Of You Than You Are Of Me LPA Super Member

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    I dunno how to feel... I know I'll never be a part of that other little world of hers... It doesn't feel good, but I don't know why it matters...
    Im confused. And I don't even know why
     
  18. Arlene

    Arlene Oh what tangled webs we weave LPA Super Member

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    Bullshit. She got the messages. She ignored them. Period.
     
  19. SecondCityKids

    SecondCityKids Hey John, What's Your Name Again? LPA Super Member

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    Agreed
     
  20. Casual D

    Casual D I WON'T BE YOUR CASUAL D. LPA Administrator

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    I'm thinking so too.
     

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