The Advice Thread (formerly GSYWTLO)

Greg broke up with me. From that stupid fight I posted about not long ago. It boiled down to he couldn't get over the fact that it took a lot for him to make me understand his opinion. And then I didn't agree with his opinion...however, his "opinion" was not an opinion; rather, it was "about right and wrong." So basically, he broke up with me because I have a thick skull and I didn't agree with his opinion.

This hurts so much I wish he was an ass hole. Granted, this was an ass hole-ish thing to do but he's not an ass hole. Ugh. At least I told him he has impossible, ridiculous expectations.

I just don't really know what I did wrong that warranted a break up. I simply had the wrong opinion?

 

I really don't know what piece of advice I can give you but all I can do is hug you and give you tissues. *hugs*

 

Ah man that sucks. Well look at it this way if he breaks up with you over an issue like this then imagine what he would do when a more serious issue comes to light. He obviously isn't in it for the long haul if he is going to flip out over something like that. Chin up

 

Yeah that's what I've kinda come to. I'm sad but I suppose it's good I found out that he's got issues before it got more serious. Because this is purely his issue...I didn't do anything wrong. Ugh. Thank you

Sarah: Thank you

 

Arlene: He's just a [word I can't say here].

Derek: that is bad luck.

 

Derek, if you weren't all the way over there and I was already committed to someone else, I would totally date you cos of such a good guy you are. Isn't it ironic that the best ones are given the roughest times?

Gah, Mia's teething and all I can give her to help ease the pain is panadol for kids. I feel so sorry for her, cos I know how much it hurts them as I had to have all my wisdom teeth taken out at the ripe age of 18 cos it was hurting like hell and there was no room in my mouth. Gah, that's another thing I have to conquer next - getting braces.

 

So, heart broken again. Why do I ever even trust people when they say they love me? All they do is lie and lie and lie when all I ever want is honesty.
How do you you do it, hmm? What's the point? Should I even care anymore?

 

I know what you mean buddy, same thing happened to me. It can't be that much to ask for the truth can it?

 

This last month has been ridiculous. I feel like I'm not even living. Between my actual job, and remodeling the basement in our new house, painting and making the place livable (ehem, which we haven't even moved into yet), I've seriously been working 12+ hour days, 6 1/2 days a week, for the last 3 1/2 weeks or so and I am about sick of it. I'm almost finished with what I have to do, and just in time because I need to be done by the 23rd of May.

I mean, son of a bitch, I have so much gray hair and I'm only 23 (well, almost)! I'm so stressed, so tired, and always so fucking hungry, and I'm so fucking broke because of the damn house. Ooie.

Here are pictures though!

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?sk=lf#!/album.php?aid=168926&id=631742423

 

I don't normally post in here for advice, per say. Just to rant, really. But this time, I don't know what to do. It has me doubting who I am and the way I act like I've never done before, and seriously considering getting saved as a possible solution. But, anyways...

My girlfriend of 6 months recently found out she was pregnant. Except we've never had sex. Uh-oh. The story starts in December, the first month of our relationship, where she made out with her old flame from high school, who she was still madly infatuated with. He told me, to be a dick and break us up so he could have her for himself, and I promptly freak out about it, but we stay together and work it out. In February, still feeling depressed and hurt by how the guy told me about it and just generally used her whenever he wanted some, went out and got drunk with some of her girlfriends and fucked a random guy in a one night stand situation. While she was dating me. That's how she got pregnant.

She tells me last night, and we decide to break up, since she hasn't been feeling the same about me for a month, maybe a little longer. I'm thinking it's the hormones from her being pregnant, but I'm not going to say that to her. I took the mature way out, saying I'd be there for her if she needed me, and if we did get back together someday, i'd accept that child like it was my own. Too soon? Maybe so, but that's how I roll, what's done is done.

And it's weird, because we still talk like we're dating. The nicknames are gone, but I thought I'd give her some room to breathe and think things over, but we've been talking for about an hour and a half over text tonight since she got off work. I'm confused, she's confused. Bad situation but it seems crisis is adverted until now. The shock has worn off, and I'm warming up to it. I don't want to see anyone else but her, but I'm not going to wait my entire life, y'know? But I will wait for awhile.

It has me second guessing myself because it's made me realize that I'm literally doing nothing with my life. I need a change. I've avoided college for 3 years, it's time I fix that this fall. I'm stuck in a job with a grocery store. I'm asking to be bumped up to a higher position title then office associate, I want to be on the stock crew making more, or be trained to be assistant customer service manager, which I could feasibly do. Only one other person knows about this, but I recently had an intervention casted upon me for my... intense drug use. I've fallen off the wagon. I don't know whether I need rehab or Christ.

But, man, I'll tell you something.. I really love that girl, even if she doesn't feel that for me right now/anymore.

 

Casey,
To me, sounds like you need to clean up and start taking school head on. I know I "fell off the wagon" once and almost flunked out of the university and lost my scholarship. It all sucks! It's been about six years now, and I've had to go through hell and back, but now, I finally am about to graduate. ... it feels great to finally get focused and have a goal you're heading towards that's not just getting home from work to talk to someone. It is a greater goal which helps to motivate!

Unfortunately, cleaning up your act is incredibly important. I'm not sure what drugs you're into, but they all act similarly on your psyche and they all inhibit you from doing anything.

As for this girl? She sounds like bad news to me! She doesn't have sex with you but cheats on you with two different people and then gets pregnant?!?!
You're too young to have to deal with this sort of drama.

And besides! There is no way you can take care of a child when you can't take care of yourself anyway! Focus on yourself right now. Get yourself happy, healthy, and on the path to success. It's going to be hard, but you'll feel better in the long run. It was something I had to do too. Hardest thing I've ever had to do, but I'm so happy and proud of myself for doing it now!

Good luck!

 

Just for the record, I was the one denying her sex.

 

the more I know about certain things the more I wanna run away..
Like chocolate.. ugh.

Anyway. So phase ignore heart-breaker has been ignited. Let's see how I hold up.

 

Mmm Casey, let her go for a while dude. I wholly believe you when you say you love her, but sometimes that isn't enough.
At least for a while let her go, get yourself back on track. Frankly, you're life sounds crazy enough without having someone elses baby in it.

Tough situation though man, really feel for you...

 

seconded.

 

Exactly.

Why?

 

I agree with Holiday, Casey. I do believe that you love her, but if she doesn't want you in her life then how can you be there? And with your drug problems and your life being so askew right now...you can't support yourself, a woman, and her baby. I think you need to get your life on track before you try to love and support someone else.
I hope you can find yourself, Casey.

 

Casey, sort yourself out before worrying about others first. As self centered it may sound it's true.