Okay, well... seeing as his situation is pretty much like mine... I met this girl... heck, whatever, I met Brooke freshman year in my English/History class. At first I was just struck by her looks, but later in the year, we became friends, and I just became attached to her personality and she seemed to be a great person. I don't know how close we really did get, but I did like her, a lot, but I didn't want to tell her. From past experience, the people that I've liked have generally turned away after they found out, and I didn't want that to happen. I valued her friendship way too much. This Christmas, we were talking online and she mentioned wanting to go to an LP Concert with me the next time I went. For Christmas present, I got her a ticket to Meteora World Tour. Ends up she couldn't go after all, but it's the thought that counts, right? Spring Break... there was this guy who had only known her for two weeks, and he was calling her his true love. He called her cell phone 40 times in one day. She convinced me to create a screenname and pretend to be her ex. I finally met this guy at the mall (he didn't know I was the 'ex') and heard him say he was going to kill the 'ex.' Brooke was there when he said it, and she knew how much I was risking doing this (he had a knife with him and was ready to confront the 'ex'). So one day, I had realized how many of my friends used me. Got me to do anything for them... because I would... and then throw me away. I try to be as good a friend as possible and no one notices. So I posted my revelation of this on my Xanga and she says it's "bullshit" and that what I wrote is definitely not me. I was in disbelief. After all the stuff that I did for her, and she doesn't think that I would do anything for anyone? We stopped talking. I continued to post on my Xanga, and even posted about how I liked her. This Thursday, there was an Orchestra concert (we're both in Orchestra). I had been working on this huge drawing/sketch for about 4 weeks (four pages worth) and had put it in my viola case. I left my case (on accident) in the room overnight and when I came back, the drawing was gone. And in replacement was a note that roughly said this: "Hey, this is (page ripped on name) I'm telling you something but she doesn't know. Brooke didn't want me saying anything, but she really does like you but she's just scared. If you went up to her, she would completely understand. I think ya'll would be great together, so just ask (more on back) And on the back it said... YEA RIGHT HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH" I feel betrayed and hateful, but I don't know what to do. I can't just ignore it, and I don't want to get mad over it (I don't want to get her worried or frightened or anything... even if we aren't friends anymore) so I'm clueless as to what to do.
don't bother with them, just leave them alone . relationships have to end, but, let's face it, everything has to end. try not to get too mad over it.
don't bother with them, just leave them alone . relationships have to end, but, let's face it, everything has to end. try not to get too mad over it. [/b][/quote] Dude thats pretty much the pholosophy that I use about not going out with girls.
dude I thought I had problems (which I still do , big time) but yours seem to really be bad, Im in the same situation, except Im not there yet but I know im going to be, anyway I really hope it goes well for you, have you tried ignoring her ( I know it's damn hard as Ive been doing it with this girl and she keeps on asking me whats wrong, and why am I ignoring her and not saying hello back)if you do this and she doesnt say anything then you know that she is using you.Im moving really soon and Ive written a 2 page letter ( something Ive not done before ) about how I feel about her and how I dont really care anymore because I was been used all along by her, cause she didnt really see us as friends all she saw me as was a cash machine for her her to use. oh yeah and since this is a linkin park site, I was thinking about how if I had creative control over what linkin parks next video would be I would make a music video for ''pushing me away'' and it would be based on these problems, Ive already got the general idea for it.
I've already been ignoring her and not talk to her ever since the end of Spring Break (early April) and I tried to have nothing to do with her... And she goes on and gets someone to do something like steal my stuff and try to play with my mind. I mean... can't I just get some peace?
I've already been ignoring her and not talk to her ever since the end of Spring Break (early April) and I tried to have nothing to do with her... And she goes on and gets someone to do something like steal my stuff and try to play with my mind. I mean... can't I just get some peace? [/b][/quote] its obvously that she is desperate for attention,which is really sad in a way, Im assuming she got a guy to steal your stuff who likes her, in my 2 cents opinion I think you should just try really hard to ignore here, or I would play her at her own game. its pretty much obvously that she really want your attention but just doenst know how to get it.is there anyone else that you like?
I'm probably going to go with the former, as I know for a fact that I can be very harsh and mean when I try to get back. So, it'll be hard, but I'll ignore her. Although I'm probably going to confront her one more time, to tell her to stop. Is that going to be a mistake?
well call me Dr Phill but somehow I dont think that she is ganna stop , after you confront her, I mean I hope she does .
hey lsn as most of guys said ,try 2 tell her ur feelings .... & if she push u out (& i hope not) then that wasn't ur real girl .... :wth: anyways GoOd lUcK
thanks , Ive basically written her a 2 page letter (Ive not done that before), telling her about how I feel , and how I know she feels and that I care about her alot (something Ive not , nor couldnt do before). I just said that she means so much to me , and I know I mean so little to her Ive she has been using me since day one, and didnt really want to hang out with me , except when it would benefit her (like going to concerts (linkin park, evenesence (3times) counting crows (she always wanted to see them). told here how I wouldnt get upset if she had told me long ago that she didnt really want to hang out with me.
true, true *nodds head* [/b][/quote] Unfortunately. Anyways, you guys sure sound like me sometimes. I'm always the one who gets the screws put to him emotionally, and it just hurts. But what's worse is when some ***wipe comes along and tries the following: This was sent to me by Josh White, a person whom my girlfriend Lynn used to be friends with, until he got overobsessed with her and started following her around everywhere. Now, lemme just explain what this email is talking about: Nothing. In fact, I haven't seen Lynn for a few weeks, since she's been sick and bogged down with homework. So the notion that anybody would ever THINK of doing something like this to us is just appalling, and I'm more pissed off now than I've ever been...period. Unfortunately, he's probably going to spread this #### all over the place. The good think is that Lynn already knows about this doozy, and she's laughing at it as well...but still, I'm PO'ed that somebody would say anything like this to me - probably the nicest guy you'll ever meet. I'm one of those people who's never, ever a jerk...so this guy's going down. Big time. Thoughts?
Unfortunately. Anyways, you guys sure sound like me sometimes. I'm always the one who gets the screws put to him emotionally, and it just hurts. But what's worse is when some ***wipe comes along and tries the following: This was sent to me by Josh White, a person whom my girlfriend Lynn used to be friends with, until he got overobsessed with her and started following her around everywhere. Now, lemme just explain what this email is talking about: Nothing. In fact, I haven't seen Lynn for a few weeks, since she's been sick and bogged down with homework. So the notion that anybody would ever THINK of doing something like this to us is just appalling, and I'm more pissed off now than I've ever been...period. Unfortunately, he's probably going to spread this #### all over the place. The good think is that Lynn already knows about this doozy, and she's laughing at it as well...but still, I'm PO'ed that somebody would say anything like this to me - probably the nicest guy you'll ever meet. I'm one of those people who's never, ever a jerk...so this guy's going down. Big time. Thoughts? [/b][/quote] first of all, dont listen to what the email said... why not talk it over with lynn? but you didnt hit her, did you?...
I would never imply violence, just go up to him and ask him what the hell is he trying to do, just dont act scared , and make sure he can see u aint scared cause if you do he will be all over you like a fat lady on a cupcake (ok that is a bad annalogy). I really hope it works out for u dude, Its amazing Im giving out this exact adivse about confronting a problem when I cant even follow that advice about a certain girl. (arghhhhhhh!!!!)
Yesterday I went to see a film with this one girl, who's friend I really really reluctantly like ( its her that the reason this post started) anyway , she knew that I somehow had feelings for her best friend. so I admitted that I did , anyway I told her that I dont want 2 see her best friend anymore ( as much as I care for her, I feel that if I do start talking to her it will be phase 1 again) I asked her nicely not to tell her that I have odd feelings for her (love) she said that she promised she wouldnt tell her ''best friend'' so in a way I know that she will , cause these 2 girls are best friends, however she promised me she wouldnt tell her that I like her, and why im ignoring her.
Pretend you don't have a sense of humor and have her arrested for harassment. [/b][/quote] Dude I totally agree with what Cameron is saying, u should have her arrested. its obviously that she doesnt care that much about you.
Me as well, same thing here. Sometimes she can see that you are in this kind of anguish and she might just be playing around with you, messing you up, you understand? Be wary. Be alert. To find out whether she's really playing you, look out for her body language , vocal codes, etc etc etc. CONSTANT VIGILANCE!