Do you stand up for yourself?

I'm not fighting or trying to be mean. Sorry if I come off that way. [/b][/quote]
I know, Im just saying it happens often.





and Keaton: EWWWWW

 

Some people find the way to solve a certain prob is to fight while others don't. If you find fighting to be a way to stand up to yourself, than the more power to ya. I ended up having to fight to stand up to myself. Sometimes its the only way to gain respect. And I did gain respect. Maybe some people didn't like me. But they sure as hell respected me. There are giong to be situations were you can't back down. Because if you do, for hte rest of your life, you'll be beaten down like a dog. (Thats how it works down where I'm am)

 

Yeah, man... I'm totally opposite from my dad. When my dad was younger, he beat the crap out of anyone who dared to make fun of him.... I'm totally not like that .

 

That reminded me of a story my step-dad told me once..

It was almost the end of his senior year and he was taking a drink from the water fountain. A teacher came up behind him and for no reason pushed his head down so my step-dad's teeth hit the little metal spout thing. So my step-dad turned around and punched him. He wasn't allowed to attend graduation then. I found the story pretty funny.

 

Do I stand up for myself...hmm....not really, but I'm trying.

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The problem is, I just don't like fighting. A good debate, that's differernt. I like debating. But an all-out verbal war, I hate that. I'd rather shrug and stay quiet then get into a fight.

Strangers, it's easy for me when they try to put you down, because, to me anyway, their opinion doesn't matter much.

But what about when it's one of your friends? I had a friend for most of my life, who was the kind of person who always needed someone to put down. She had to make sure there was someone below her in the food chain. But she did it in a way that it was hard for it to really seem offensive. If you got mad at her she'd just say "I'm sorry, I was only joking! You know that." But she wouldn't stop, not for long.

But, even if she never said anything that really stung at first, hearing "You're so stupid" all the time starts to take it's toll. But we were "best friends." In theory, anyway.

Now, it may seem like it would be easy to drop her, once all these mini-insults started adding up. But every once in awhile, we would do something, go shopping together, go out to lunch..and we would get along perfectly. She'd be the nicest person in the world.

I might have been able to stop it, if I'd really confronted her about it, instead of all these half-confrontations once in awhile...But I never did. I hate confrontations, stupid me.

I didn't really drop her as a friend, but I sort of made her drop me. I just stopped cooperating. And it didn't take long for her to drop me in favor of her new "best friend."

So yes, I guess I am starting to learn to stand up for myself. I'm trying, anyway.

 

I don't like nor believe in fighting either but if someone is going to say something to me that insults me, I won't hold back and I will say something back but not get into a physical fight. Physical fights just make everything worse.

 

Wow. You just completely described the situation I'm in right now.

 

I remember in my elementary school were i was picked on because in my early youth (i mean before high school) I had bad verbal skills and couldn't come back at them good enough to stand my ground.

Well, especially in the past few years I've gotten better and gained a lot of confidence. If anybody does bug me or test me (which is almost never anymore) I usually ignore it or can respond in a way so that they don't keep on bugging me. I will only get mad if they are dissing me friends or something I believe in STRONGLY

 

If people come up to me and said "hey, you're fat" or "you're ugly" I'll reply back "so are you", because I'm not too bothered to come up with a comeback for idiots. But if it's like deliberately bumping into me (you just know- they give you a milisecond of eye contact and then just whack themselves into you for no reason at all) then I'll lash out at them. It's usually verbally though, I don't really fight back physically. There was once in my German class where my teacher was in a foul mood and she started singleling (sp?) me out for no reason, so everytime she said something to me I would reply. I got detention for that. The whole class was surprised because I'm usually that "good kid who's always friendly".

I don't really reply back to my parents unless it's the worse kind of foul words that come out of their mouth- only then I'll reply back. Normally, if I reply back they'll accuse me of being a "smartass" (which is often the case) and yeah... they put roof over our heads and give us food and money, but there's more to life than that. There's human contact and the love and the warmth you need from that, and I tried telling them that, but they don't really listen to me.

My "best friend" told her best friend about my most intimate secrets and I just lashed out at her. I screamed at her, which I didn't need to do, cause my other real friends shouted at her for me. She was a prefect by the way, and I told her there was no point wearing a blue and white uniform if you're going to act like a retarded bi.tch. She never touched me after that.

Before I came to UK, I'd always hold myself even if someone called me names and so on, but then I came to UK and there it's like "kill or be killed". The school there is quite controversial and even the good student fight back. Everyone there has been sent out at least once. So you have to learn to stand up to yourself, not let everyone walk over you like a doormat.

 

I stand up for myself. If someone says sh*t to me, I say sh*t back. Someone hits me, I hit them back twice as hard.

It works out well in the end .

 

Hmm...I kinda do what Bryan said. But after the push I really don't do anything, usually my best friends are there and they are like "Dude, just back off before you go against all of us." See my problem is that I'm afraid of hurting the person. Yeah...I mean I'm not an excessively strong person, but I could pack a punch, and if I break the guys nose, I don't feel its worth getting suspended or expelled...or worse, sued. And if I was just really pissed..and got into a fight and killed the person..I mean like that would ever happen, but its possible. And I'm definately not out to kill anyone.

 

I stand up for myself if someone takes the micky out of me but then they take the micky even more. They seem to think i'm acting all hard around them when i stand up for myself so then they take the micky out of me for that. I just can't win no matter what i do. If i suffer in silence things get worse, if i speak up things get worse.

 

If someone calls me names I'm too shy to say anything.But for me it's worse that a lot of people just don't notice me.They act like I'm not there and that makes me upset and sad.

 

People are always making fun of me. I just take it in. It doesn't hurt, anymore.

I used to be called names and made fun of and I still am to this day. They call me gay all the time at most. I'm not a homosexual in anyway, nor am I afraid of a homo. If anything I would like to at least have one gay friend in my life. All my friends are homophobics and I'm constantly standing up to them on it. Other than that, everything else just hits a bouncy wall and goes away with the snap of the fingers.

Some people just don't understand the im-mature humour behind the stuff me and my friends do so their instant reaction is: "He's gay", or "They're gay."

As "gay" as me and my friends act, I assure you we are anything but it.

(Just to make it clear, I am not bashing on homosexuals in the least way. I'm simply giving examples of what they say and what I go through everyday. If there are any gay people on the forums and are offend, I appologize.)

 

I hate that so much. Even people whom I know that are really nice use "That's gay" as an insult. It's so narrow-minded...gahh.

 

well.. i am bad at standing up for myself.. i usually let people walk all over me.. somehow.. i dont really realise it until my friends tell me that it happens. i dont know, i guess i am just weak.. but i dont really get put down a lot.. or anything.. heh.. i think the only person who brings me down is myself.. but then again i can control that.. .. yes.. but i think i have gotten better at standing up for myself against other people.. but really slowly.. a quater of a step at a time...

 

there is only so much abuse i can take before i have to do summit for example right hook the little *mumbles*. but really i dnt do alot if someone verbaly abuses me. but if its physical well dont get me started on that.....


To A*****es

 

There are just too many people around,who doesn't care about the feelings of other people,and that's really sad...

 

if it isn't a foreigner, i kick them in the knee.. if it IS a foreigner, i run away


If a teacher says im dumb and stuff, then i'll say that ur mother said something else last night