Absolutely. My father is someone I aspire to be, and Mom can do some annoying things but she provides for me and is very helpful.
I have a strong relationship with both of my parents. I couldn't ever claim I have a stronger relationship with one over the other, though. My mom can be annoying sometimes, and my dad can be the biggest asshole on the face of the planet, but after a couple hours, no one even remembers.
I get along really well with my Mom. It's very complicated though. When I was little, my Mom and Dad used to fight all the time. When I was born, he even made my Mom do a blood test to see if he was really the father. He used to choke her, once in front of me. So once they got divorced, I was 10, I was petrified of going over his house by myself, I mean, I had my little brother and sister, but still, they were 4-5 at the time. Finally, last spring, he started screaming at me the minute I walked in the door and was like ''I'm sick of this fucking bullshit with you being late. Why don't you just go back to your fucking mother's''. So I did, I left, and I haven't been back since. He'll occasionally go to the mall because I work there, and he thinks I'm afraid of him. Funny thing is, he can't look at me. My grandparents on his side try to make me feel guilty to for not talking to them, but fuck it. I'll talk to them, but if my Dad even tries to go there when I am, I'm gone. So...yeah, I get along with my Mom fine. My grandparents are my Mom's side try to control my life too, I mean, they buy me a lot of stuff, but they are also control freaks and act like I am their child because I've spent time with them since I was 5. I've tried to break away, but nothing works. They make my Mom cry all the time too and feel like shit, and that really bothers me sometimes. Idk. My Dad was an alcoholic too, so that didn't help the relationship either.
wow the way things are going makes me look like the only one with a strong relationship with my dad and not my mom...ah well
It puzzles me that rarely anyone has a better relationship with their dad. My dad and I are like best friends. We joke around a lot, we understand each other rather well, and we bottom-line get along great. My mom, on the other hand, is rather the odd one. I mean, I get along with her really well, but her attitude at times is just stupid. Sometimes she seems to forget that I'm 16, not 6, and therefore she worries way too much about my safety [recent newspaper articles about someone attacking females in another part of the city]. I mean, yes, it's something rather serious, but I'm not as helpless as I look. My grandpa [mom's dad] and I get along great. I mean, he's a blind man and doesn't speak English, he needs someone to support him. My mom's rather the childish one and often doesn't want to talk to him directly, instead through me. So I tend to give her hell when she tries to make me do something for her concerning him [like telling him to do something, giving him food (basically she gives it to me and tells me to give it to him and tell him it's served), or whatever. I see that as absolutely childish and regardless of whatever history there is, she shouldn't be acting as that toward him, as he is her father, after all. Sure, he's a pain in the ass sometimes, but that's because she provokes it. My dad's not happy about it either and it stresses him out, but we stick together. Bottom line is, we all get along together, there's no absolute hate toward one member or the other, like I've heard in other families. *shrug*