Can you elaborate your point of view a little more? [/b][/quote] I agree. Some kids talk to their parent's like their pieces of crap...I see it everyday. "Mom, do this now!!" I've seen kids that curse their parents off, order them around, tell them what to do...it's awful. No offense, but sometimes the kids NEED to be hit just to bring them back to reality.
I agree. Some kids talk to their parent's like their pieces of crap...I see it everyday. "Mom, do this now!!" I've seen kids that curse their parents off, order them around, tell them what to do...it's awful. No offense, but sometimes the kids NEED to be hit just to bring them back to reality. [/b][/quote] Ah, but see, they get what they want. It's human nature, and moreso with kids. If you give them things when they demand it, they'll demand it more. All kids go through a "rebel" stage, but if you stand firm they learn. That's exactly what's going on with my six year old brother, while he's no angel, he knows he has to be polite. When he's not, even if he's asking for something as simple as a piece of paper, he doesn't get it if he says "Give me a piece of paper, now!" He has to ask nicely. Kids will try to take as much control as they can, it's just the way they are. If you have consistant boundaries they learn.
The difficult thing to argue about this is, where do we draw the line between 'discipline' and 'abuse'? If hitting a child until he/she bleeds, then that's not right. The dad there probably hit too hard. I know from experience that a mild slap on the cheek won't cause a nosebleed. At any rate, I don't agree that kids shouldn't be disciplined by physical means. Prepubescent kids in particular don't always want to reason with their parents. Sometimes the only way to punish them or shut them up is a bit of smacking. My mom used to smack me in the past when I did something wrong. I can't say I enjoyed it, but I have to admit I learnt my lesson. It wouldn't be okay to hit children violently and on a regular basis, but I see nothing wrong with enforcing discipline through smacking. Anyway, what's more effective in punishing a child who's done something wrong? A light smack across the cheek? Or just caving in and letting it pass, because you have your hands tied behind your back? Parents these days are so powerless when it comes to disciplining their children. That's why we have a generation of rebellious, spoilt, whiny brats. You have kids telling their parents to f**k off or slamming their bedroom door in their faces when they're being fed, clothed and sheltered by the very people they're bad-mouthing.
But what if they just don't cave? What if they just say "No," and mean it? Also, I think it would be very easy for abusive parents to hide behind "I was just disciplining her!" in the case of an investigation.
http://www.lpassociation.com/forums/index....ST&f=71&t=10681 This described my childhood and what i could have done