Wow, that would be great. Thank you so much. After reading all the advice I received, I listened to Gurdeep (Hybrid_Soldier) and signed off to find a less stressful activity. I ended up watching "A Walk to Remember" and eating. I was craving a bagel with some deli meat, tomato and cheddar cheese. I ended up eating supper as well. I felt a little guilty afterwards about having both gravy AND ketchup on my french fries but I'll let it go. Thanks for the help guys. And I intend to talk to all those who offered to.
Wow, that would be great. Thank you so much. After reading all the advice I received, I listened to Gurdeep (Hybrid_Soldier) and signed off to find a less stressful activity. I ended up watching "A Walk to Remember" and eating. I was craving a bagel with some deli meat, tomato and cheddar cheese. I ended up eating supper as well. I felt a little guilty afterwards about having both gravy AND ketchup on my french fries but I'll let it go. Thanks for the help guys. And I intend to talk to all those who offered to. [/b][/quote] Good! You aren't fat AT ALL Cassie. If you want any comparison, I'm 14 and weigh about 125 pounds, and I consider myself normal, thankyouverymuch.
Cassie I have no idea what you're worried about! You're beautiful and in no way fat. Even if you do feel that way, it's only how you're percieving yourself. If you really want to change the way you look first you have to change the way you view yourself. Know that you're beautiful and have confidence in that, then change what you think needs to be done in a sensible and healthy way, but believe me when I say there is absolutely nothing wrong with your weight. If you're that worried, just eat healthier and excersise a bit. Ask Neil to take a run with you around town or around the block, and you'll feel alot better, especially with someone with you to help you through it. I hope I helped
twicethetrouble - I often compare myself to my best gf, Lucy. She's 5 feet and 100 or so pounds. I'm 5'1" and 118 pounds. And I have a much skinnier stomach than her. I have an awfully low self-esteem. :wth: Since I posted, the support I've gained has helped me quite abit. I feel much more confident with eating breakfast, lunch and supper. Alacrity - My perception of myself has always been a little low since I became depressed. But your encouragement is extremely positive and helpful. Thanks so much for your concern for wittle ol' me. :hugz:
* knock knock again * Ok, time for me to make my post in here... Been having a bit of relationship trouble lately...might as well say "my whole life" instead of "lately"... So here's how it goes...I got dumped at the beginning of the month. Lynn didn't tell me exactly why, only that "it's a feeling I'm getting now". We're still friends. Peachy. But when she broke up with me, she said "I guess I'm not ready to date, for a long time now I guess. Sorry", and now, three weeks later, guess what? Yep, that's right, I've been replaced already... He's all she talks about now, even when I try to change the topic..."oh, Adam's so sweet, he said this, he said that, he did this, I'm going to see him tomorrow again, I'm so excited!".......... And all I can do is sit there and think "Durrr, screwed over again, I'll never find anybody who'll love me"......now, I'm going to the carnival with her tomorrow, so I guess this is the time to tell her what's going on in my head...only thing is, what to say without making me sound like an accusing little jackass? The part that's bugging me is that I'm no stranger to defeat when it comes to relationships...my longest has lasted 29 days (I think), and I've never, ever seen somebody again in a relationship setting after the first date. Period. It gets a little...discouraging...after a while. Don't get me wrong, I'm not about to do anything drastic, I'm just depressed. I know I'll probably pull out of it eventually, but for now, I'm really upset. Guess it doesn't help that one of my best friends is moving three thousand miles away in two weeks, all my exes are happy with other people (and can't STFU about them), and everybody calls me a loser (someone'll ask me "So, how's the girlfriend? Oh yeah, that's right, she dumped you. Haha, I told you nobody loves you!")......................................................... So where do I go from here?
first of all punch the guy, that told u that ####, in the face. No not really. I guess you should tell her how you feel. If you have nothing to lose you should be open with her.
Just kick those ####ers. I did nothing even if people fed me with bullshit all the time for a lot of years and had to knock someone for it to end. That may sound crude, but belive me that's sadly how it works. As for the girl, dumping you is one thing, her talking to you about her new boyfriend is an other thing. If she tells you she doesn't like you anymore well you might as well tell her to go away. That was my very peaceful advice. Don't get me wrong, I'm not violent at all, very peaceful usually, but there's a limit to some stuff, eh? Sorry for the "eh?" .
Smash: You just need to come out and tell her that it annoys you that she talks about Adam, and that you wish she would stop.
Yeah. With less ass-kicking. [/b][/quote] ** falls on floor laughing ** Hehehehehehehehe....! Advice noted. Just gotta get it out in a way that won't make me sound mean... Lynn's actions, however, are nowhere near as painful and emotionally distressing as Stephanie's actions were when she broke up with me. A day after she ended it with me, she phoned and asked me to "introduce me to your sexy brother, I have a huuuuuge crush on him". Just about shot her for that, and I still have a hard time talking to her now, cause I'm still so pissed off. I mean....what the hell?!?!?!?! Anybody else have something like this happen?
** falls on floor laughing ** Hehehehehehehehe....! Advice noted. Just gotta get it out in a way that won't make me sound mean... Lynn's actions, however, are nowhere near as painful and emotionally distressing as Stephanie's actions were when she broke up with me. A day after she ended it with me, she phoned and asked me to "introduce me to your sexy brother, I have a huuuuuge crush on him". Just about shot her for that, and I still have a hard time talking to her now, cause I'm still so pissed off. I mean....what the hell?!?!?!?! Anybody else have something like this happen? [/b][/quote] you must have really good anger management skills mate. and no, nothing like that happened to me and probably wont. unless my ex boyfriend is gay. which might be true actually.
Whoo, searching actually helped me for once... Revived the ol' advice thread... Anyways, here I go again. Same girl I'm ranting about too... Got an email from a friend who talks to Lynn regularly. It kinda went something like this (and this is actually a copy-paste directly from my email)... This was a response to me telling Shawn (the guy who forwarded this trash...actually it's OK that I saw this, cause it does give me an idea of Lynn's true colors) that he was bugging her with incessant emails (a few a day about pointless aviation stuff, which she doesn't care about). I guess she never thought that I'd ever, ever see how she talks about me behind my back, and that she'd always be riding along higher than me. Well Lynn, if you could somehow be reading this (she's not a member, but I think she knows about the site), lemme just say this: Revenge is going to be a *****. She's done it this time, and now I don't really know who to trust. I talked to her yesterday, and there wasn't anything in her voice that would ever hint that she's being awful to me behind my back...she's a good actor though. But seeing something like this written about you behind your back just hurts a whole lot. Advice? Suggestions? Support?
Ok i re-read the thread and your posts and i think that this whole melodramatic act of hers is just annoying, so i'd say ignore her. If she wants to do all this bitching and fake acting, then its her problem. From the sounds of it, it seems like she's pretty insecure over the whole breakup and is doing the drama just to cover the pain. My advice would be just take the whole backstabbing thing in your stride and be done with it... You got my support, people like this really arent worth losing sleep over though!
Need advice here. Theres this girl thath my best friend and I have been chilling with for the past 2 weeks. And he kinda started liking her but today she told us both that she really likes me. And now I kinda wanna ask her out but I know my friend would get hurt even though he told me that he doesn't care. So what should I do?
Double check with your friend that it's ok with him, and if he still says yes, ask the girl out. If he looks uncomfortable or seems it when you guys/if you guys go out, talk to him about it try to talk to him. Hope I helped..
first of all, dont feel guilty. its not your fault he's not her type. you have the right to go out with her, she likes you, you like her, and thats fair enough. i feel sorry for your friend... i say find out if she doesnt have any gril friends that uour friend might be interested in. im sure he'll forget about her soon. hold on
Hi, it's me again. *sighs* Where do I begin? The forums are quite aware of my relationship with Neil. But now it seems there's an interjection. A close friend of mine confessed to me today that he has a kinda crush on me. I won't mention names. I'm so distraught, I love this guy as a friend. He's sweet, he makes me laugh, but at the same time I can't help feeling a little attracted. I've been seeking advice from Nessa and I've come to the conclusion I'm seeing Neil's characteristics in my friend. This is awful guys. I don't know who to blame... or what. So naturally I'm the best bet, right? I cut my right hip last night out of frustration. Any words or thoughts would be dearly appreciated... thank you.
Well just because this person likes you, doesnt have to affect anything between you and Neil. You love Neil, I know you do. You wouldnt do anything to hurt him. You just need to explain to this guy that youre deeply in love with Neil and thats all there can be.