Yeah. You might want to sugarcoat things a little, but be honest. It sucks that it hurts their feelings, but you don't need to be exactly how they want you.
you should tell them how you feel. it's no good to stick at somthing if you realy dont belive it. talk to them calmly and rashionly, say somthing like i dont want to hurt you, but..... give some good reseons why,
Somehow I can't really imagine myself saying that....but thanks for the suggestions guys I'll try it. They seemed to have gotten over it, even though I havent done anything yet. It might pop up again this Sunday so thanks.
ok, ive just had a huge row with my best friend, ive been feeling trapped for ages, felt useless, so i said i wanted us to go our seperate ways. she still kept clinging onto me, telling me lies to try and keep hold of me but i just went ahead and left, and it doesnt look like ill be able to go back, even if i wanted too. im not that bothered about not meeting her anymore or not having someone to talk to, because we werent getting on like we used too, never talked about deep stuff before, which was why we were best friends in the first place, and we live 100 miles away from each other anyway. but theres still something saying in the back of my mind..have i done the right thing? i just need to hear(or see) someone tell me that ive done the right thing because im sick of being in the wrong with her all the time, which is all i ever am, because it was never right.
Time will tell. I've been in a situation much like yours. My gf was somewhat depressive and it had a negative influence on me. I decided it was best for the girl and I to part. I know now I made the right choice. And I'm sure you have as well. Just stick to your decision and everything will be fine.
thanks a lot, its good to know there are people in similar situations as me. well, not that good, but its good to know you arent alone
thanks, her boyfriends just messaged me now and he said shes saying "oh we'll be friends once she calms down". all i said was "hahahaha" and blocked him. im not turning back
I have a question.... My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 4 months now, and all weve done is made out. Now I want to go a little further with our relationship, but shes never done anything (I was her first kiss) and I dont know how to present the idea to her. I dont want to scare her but I need help and I dont know what to do/say. Any ideas?
i can help you by saying what id want my boyfriend to say... if i had one obviously. its different with kissing because you dont have to ask for permission. i reckon once you get to heavy making out, you should like... i dunno start getting really close (if you know what i mean). then you should just pull away and ask her. how far does she want to go? does she feel ok with doing whatever you wanna do with her? if she says yes, then its great. if she says anything else, just get back to the making out. dont pressure her. next time you can ask her again. if it doesnt work, just say 'ill let you get back to me with that one', meaning that let her ask whenever she's ready.
The transition into going further might be scary for her, and could bring some awkwardness into that part of your relationship. I find when I give advice it helps to use an experience of my own. Neil and I never went further than making out for 5 months. The touching and everything else came gradually afterwards. We did talk some of it through. Neil was concerned with if I was comfortable enough with him to take this step. Communicating with this girl is huge. You have to let her know how you feel and you need to give her time to let her come to a decision. Don't try to rush her or put her on the spot. It takes time, wait until she's ready. It will be beneficial for the both of you. Choose a time to bring the topic up. Inbetween making out, or just a casual conversation. Make sure she's comfortable and the two of you are alone. Don't expect an answer right away. If she's ready to go further, she'll know when she's ready. I'm not sure if anything could help you out. I hope it will, and good luck. This girl is very lucky to have such a caring guy like you Nate.
The transition into going further might be scary for her, and could bring some awkwardness into that part of your relationship. I find when I give advice it helps to use an experience of my own. Neil and I never went further than making out for 5 months. The touching and everything else came gradually afterwards. We did talk some of it through. Neil was concerned with if I was comfortable enough with him to take this step. Communicating with this girl is huge. You have to let her know how you feel and you need to give her time to let her come to a decision. Don't try to rush her or put her on the spot. It takes time, wait until she's ready. It will be beneficial for the both of you. Choose a time to bring the topic up. Inbetween making out, or just a casual conversation. Make sure she's comfortable and the two of you are alone. Don't expect an answer right away. If she's ready to go further, she'll know when she's ready. I'm not sure if anything could help you out. I hope it will, and good luck. This girl is very lucky to have such a caring guy like you Nate. [/b][/quote] Thanks, and thats a really good idea too. I just dont want her to get creeped out cause shes never done any of that stuff before.
Thanks, and thats a really good idea too. I just dont want her to get creeped out cause shes never done any of that stuff before. [/b][/quote] It's awkward that's for sure. But it seems as though you're willing to make it work so good for you.
I apologize for double-posting but I could use a little advice myself. I'm afraid I've been beginning a few bad eating habits lately. I skip breakfast and lunch (the occasional time). I'm 15 and I weigh 118 lbs. I'm unsure of my weight and I refuse to gain anymore. I actually see myself skipping meals in order to drop a few pounds. The nights my mother works, I don't eat all day. But when she is at home, I'm forced to eat because she makes me supper. When I binge or eat too much in one sitting, I attempt to purge myself. I haven't suceeded... yet. Neil's noticed my eating habits and he's a little worried. He urges me to eat but I'm afraid. I'm also frightened if I continue this could be the start of something much more serious. An eating disorder, possibly. When I do eat during the day, it's only because I have cravings for certain foods. If I cannot prepare myself or find the certain food. I forget it and food all together. Side view Front view I took this pictures this morning. Unfortunately, I feel I'm a little fat for my age. I feel so lost...
Fat? Cassie, you look fine. Don't let the whole "OMG I GAINED A POUND I'M FAT" thing get to you. Every girl goes through that (or so I've heard) but it's really no big deal. You look fine to me. Just eat normal meals and excercise and all that and you'll be fine. No need to binge and purge.
:hugz: Cassie, you look perfectly fine the way you are and Neil loves you that way! You don't need to loose weight; just eat healthier and don't skip meals. If you wanna talk, I'm there, Okay?
I'm going through the exact same thing as you, Cassie. I don't eat much, I only eat at night usually. Sometimes I do eat a bit during the day but when I do that, it makes me feel really bad... even guilty kind of... and I don't eat at all the next day. I'm 15 and I weigh 108 lbs (I think). I think I'm gaining more weight all the time and people tell me I'm not but I don't believe them. I've even had a doctor tell me I'm good the way I am (I had to go for a checkup thingy and my mum told the doctor to tell me I wasn't overweight) but I still feel like I'm gaining heaps. If you ever want to talk about it I'm here.