Advice Thread..

Discussion in 'Serious Chat' started by Sam, Jun 5, 2004.

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    Will

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    Instead of assuming that everyone here is going to give bad advice, how about you keep comments like that to yourself, huh? I think that sounds like a great idea to me. If you were someone who needed advice, I don't think you'd like seeing someone reply with "getting advice from people on the internet is stupid."

    Keep it to yourself.
     
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    I doubt it, they don't listen to him either and he's nineteen. *sighs* :unsure:
     
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    Whimsicality

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    That sucks Anya.

    Talking obviously hasn't worked, so try this: write a letter. Wait until you know they're both in relativly good moods and have plenty of time to read it. Hand them each a copy, and walk away, lock yourself in your room, go to a friends house, whatever.

    I'll help you with the letter if you want--you can email ([email protected]) or IM me (Shatterday337, AIM).
     
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    That's a great idea! Wow, very smart, I like it. But no I don't need help with it I have an idea of what to write but thanks i'll try that. ;)
     
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    Glenn

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    yeah, that's a good idea. Successful and genious plan. :p
     
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    :mellow:

    So now my opinion no longer counts. I was merely exercising the point of the other side. I sure know that if I needed advice, I wouldn't ask people I have never met....
     
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    So now my opinion no longer counts. I was merely exercising the point of the other side. I sure know that if I needed advice, I wouldn't ask people I have never met.... [/b][/quote]
    i wouldnt trust people i have never ever dealt with, but i would ask for advice from you guys. i mean... if i want to help somebody, you want to help somebody as well, i guess. ok that was confusing. after all, we all listen to the same kind of music. so we must think similarly in some sort of way.

    i think i agree with will. yes, will, i actually agree with you. maybe it wasnt the best thing to say... but arent the forums all about saying what you really think?
     
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    Glenn

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    I think it would be much easier to ask you guys for advice then my friends.
     
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    I agree. I barely ask something to my friends home, because i know they wouldn't listen or they would give me useless advice. Here people are more the same and you can ask and talk about serious things. If people don't know what to say or don't want to respond, then they don't and no one ever knows. I mean, if someone has to say something wich is worth to post (and would probably be usefull) then they would write it down.
    Asking for advice can be good to do on the internet, but not all advice is good advice, I have to say that though.
     
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    ass_kicker

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    i agree with glenn as well. basically because you guys can probably understand me better than some of my friends. or even if the problem is embarrassing or whatever, you can risk posting it, because the people here dont go to the same school. so it wont ever be all over school the next day.
     
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    In dire need of advice:

    My boyfriend of nearly six months, "Mark", introduced me to his friend "Elizabeth". Elizabeth and I are now good friends, and she's often with us when we decide to do something as a large group. I trust Mark completely and have no qualms about him hanging out with other girls when I'm not there. But I recently found out that Elizabeth wants to be more than Mark's friend. He plays a certain RPG that I never really got into, and she's having him teach her how to play in hopes that she can get closer to him. Elizabeth seems to think that he and I are not happy together and will break up before long (presumably when I leave for college), leaving her free to chase him openly. This is not speculative, I heard all this from Elizabeth's sister, who heard it straight from Elizabeth herself. The thing is, Mark and I are perfectly happy with each other and our relationship, and will stay together even when I leave for college in the fall. Is there any possible way that I can discourage her from chasing him without betraying the fact that her sister told me?
     
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    RememberingNever

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    Maybe you should confront the girl. Tell her you've been noticing how close she's been getting to him. And, if you and this girl are good friends, you can maybe ask her if she feels attracted to your boyfriend. ...Tell her how much you love your boyfriend and that you don't want anything to happen to your relationship.

    You can even confront your boyfriend about this. Tell him how you feel.

    (I'm not the best advice giver.. so sorry if what I said sounds stupid.. lol :blush: )
     
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    Tell your boyfriend what you heard and ask him what you both should do. He'll need to tell this other girl that he's not interested and to back off.
     
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    Whimsicality

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    What she said.
     
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    just think about what you say....the amout of thimes i have ###### up this sorta thing
     
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    Okay my parents are bugging me to go to church, but ever since I moved to California, I've really given up on Christianity. A few years ago I went to a really cheap church that didn't even have its own building, but everything was fine. It was a tiny church and everyone got to know each other real well. On the other hand, I moved to Cali two years ago and went to a few churches here once or twice. They were all huge, professional, well-funded churches where no one seemed to care or want to get to know new people.

    So I havent been going to church for years, and I've come to realize that the whole Christianity/Bible thing is shitty propaganda. My parents haven't bothered me about church during the school year because I was busy as hell on the weekends. But now that's its summer, they really want me to go again. So today being Fathers Day, they begged for me to go along with them, but I refused and could tell my dad was dissapointed. I really don't want to hurt their feelings by telling them that I'm not Christian, because they're actually really awesome parents. So should I tell them that I don't believe in God or just play along and go anyways?
     
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    ass_kicker

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    i think you should tell them how you really feel about religion. theres no point in hiding it, it will only become more complicated later. besides, they are your parents, they are the people who should accept you the way you are. if you act fake in front of them, you'll really feel confused about your personality.
     
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    ^ Yeah, explain to them why you don't believe in God. (Make sure you have a good reason.) Maybe they'll give you advice or help you to believe that there is a God.
     
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    Glenn

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    Just tell them what you believe. They should listen to you. :)
     
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    Yeah, tell them and everything, just make sure you don't say something that is going to offend them or something.
     

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