Ok, i recently found out that my little bro, aged 13 and in grade 8, bought some drugs (marijuana) today. this also isn't his first time. i feel a sense of loyalty to my brother, yet i want him to get help. my contact who told me this is very reliable, because he saw the deal go down. now, i don't know if i should betray him and rat him out, or if i should talk to him, or anything. i don't usually dip into my personal life on these forums, but i'm in a real jam. and i'd like some suggestions on how i could possibly resolve this.
well first u actually wanna make sure that it was him.....and that it wasnt someone else who looked like him. then if it is...and its really botherin u, u could possibly tlak to him first, and if he just gets mouthy w/u or whatever and he isn't complying, then yeah i think u should tell ur parents or somethin.....cause it IS a big deal. and if it bothers ya that much then u cant let it go on for much longer, and u gotta tell someone. i know someone who is in 7th grade who does marijuana.....and it usually would be a big deal, BUT his bro and his mom kinda got him into it soooo to them it dont matter i guesss :wth: hope that helps!
thanks alot gary! that helps quite alot. my contact knows him, and he also spoke to my brother when he saw the exchange happen. "swear to god you won't tell mark.".
Man, what is it with kids and drugs? DRUGS ARE STUPID I think you should talk to him first. And ask him why hes doing it, and what he benefits from doing it. Tell him that eventually he'll become addicted to the feeling, and hes going to start spending 40$-50$(rough estimate, that'd be about an 1/8 of weed) a week for a feeling that lasts an hour. Weed might be the safest of the illegal drugs, but it does ruin people's life(that probably sounded corny, but its true). I've seen it happen to my former best friend. Me and him used to be together all the time, you wouldnt say one of our names without saying the others. But, I "lost" him to drugs and now thats all hes worried about.
First, like everyone else said, talk to him first. After you figure out what's been going on, sit down with your parents with your brother and talk about it.
blackmail :chemist: Best idea would probably be to talk to him first, if he doesn't want to talk, then you might want to tell your parents so he can get help before the problem gets too bad. one of my ex-friends started using pot. We were in 7th grade when he started. He rarely used it, I talked to him on the phone a couple times while he was high and he was ####ed up, but nothing bad. 8th grade was the same, but in the summer between 8th and 9th, while he was high, he was sexually harassing girls at summer school and asking all the hot girls to blow him (i guess it was the drugs, or severe horniness) and he got expelled from summer school. Then he nearly got him and me arrested at a Red Hot Chili Peppers concert. He was brining in pipes with the intention to buy weed, but they found them when they searched him at the entrance, they found nothing on me, but they could have arrested him and taken me in as a suspect as well, but they didnt. In 9th grade, his grades dropped, he was high more often than not. The last day of 9th grade was when I last talked to him and something happened between 9th and 10th. I dont know if he started using other drugs, or just smoked himself retarded. In 10th grade, he came to school stoned off his ass and dressed like a Jamacian pimp (keep in mind he's American and white and never has ####ed anything besides his hand because I do not know of one girl in that school who didn't think he was good-looking at all) and was just wierd. I didnt talk to him at all 10th grade. Now it's 11th grade, and I havent seen him once this year, I dont know if he dropped out or what, but I know they didn't move because I've seen his dad at the grocery store I used to work at a couple times. His entire life went down the toilet and all started from what seemed to be harmless drug use. Now if you wan't something like that to happen to your brother, than don't say a word, but if you don't want that to happen, then you need to talk to someone who can get him help before it's too late.
yea i have a little brother who has a lying problem and i dont know what to do so i just yell n try to knock some sense into him, kids these days are becoming punks
I'm probably going to be saying the same thing as everyone else...but I'll try to elaborate on it a little more... You have to talk to him...some kids do these things for a reason...there could be something/someone that's making him do it, such as pier pressure or the need for a thrill...I don't really know how to explain it, since I've never been in a situation such as this one. Talk to him and find out his reasons, that's the most important thing...it might take some time to actually get it, but you'll get it soon enough... If it's only a minor issue then you'll have to talk him through it in the hope of turning him out of it...if it's a big issue...then you'll have to give him all your support...either way...the parents will need to be involved... If you don't tell his parents....then the blame could be thrown over to you threefold...making you feel guilty and all that kind of c**p that you feel when you know you should tell someone what's happening... Also...be careful that this doesn't lead onto other, more powerful drugs, because after a long time, the feeling of being "high" is less effective, so other drugs that are more powerful and more dangerous will seem more "attractive" to him...just be careful.. All's I can say really is good luck mate...and I hope you can get this all sorted out soon
Wow. I'm almost the same age as your brother (15), but i think u SHOULD be involved in that. What's that about "soft" and "hard" drugs? they're all drugs! Maybe u could try to talk to him about this at first, showing him that u won't tell mom, but, if he resists, tell yous parents. U should use even "bad" means (u know what ) so as to dissuade him from doing that. My best friend has done thi with his brother who just smoked, and in a week he stopped(it's not the same thing, but the same addictive) I think it is quite wise of you to get interested in your little brother's problems... :chemist: