Would you want marriage to last for life? I don't know how I feel about this. Pro: It would teach people especially celebrities to be more responsible in choosing who they will marry. Con: People in unhappy and even dangerous marriages would have no choice. It also might result in more murdered spouses.
Forever? That's a long time. I do think about marriage and stuff like that and i'm just not sure whether i would be able to make it last a long time as much as i would like it to. I might feel different when i meet someone who i don't just lust over for a year and then forget about though. The longest i have liked someone for was 5 years so... But yeah, i'm just not sure about marriage being forever. It just seems a bit long to devote yourself to one single person
I think a marriage can last forever if you really love that person and that person really loves you. Sounds simple, but that's how I see it.
I don't think that you should ahve to be bound to a marriage forever. I mean it happens everyday where two people "think" they are in love, jump the gun get a ring on their finger. Then it comes time ot living with each other and you realize you are totally uncompatible with the other person. Therefore you should be able to get a divore, because people are always making the wrong decision, and divorce basically just gives them another chance to find someone they are compatible with.
Nothing lasts forever, so I fail to see how one could make a marriage last 'forever'. Because you eventually die, and I don't believe that love (or anything like a soul, etc.) transcends death.
yeah i agree. ppl got married way too fast. they don't know what they are getting into. <!--QuoteBegin--J Money Posted on Nov 16 2004@ 09:54 PM I think they need a certain date you have to pass before you can have a wedding. Maybe a year or so. [/quote] a year is WAY too little time. you dont really know the person in a year. i was w/ my bf for a whole year, and eveything was amazing one month, then he broke up w/ me the next. you never know when someone is gonna change thier mind. it is best to wait a long time. if you are willing to be bound to that person "till death do you part" then you should be able to wait 5 years to get married and live together.
I would love marriage to be forever, but thats only in an ideal world. In reality, that just doesn't work.
Didn't we basically have this debate in the "Divorce" thread already? But I'll state my opinion anyway. Yes, it would be beautiful and wonderful if people would stay happily married forever (my parents have been married for over 20 years, my grandparents over 50) but that's just not practicle. Life is not that simple. People change. You and your signifigant other may be completely different people at 45 then you were at 25 when you got married. Moreover, why should we guilt people about divorce? People say divorce weakens marriage and that people get married to young, but put some perspective on it. Once upon a time, when divorce was either illegal or just not done, girls were getting married in their teens to men old enough to be their fathers. You're telling me that's a happy, healthly marriage? You're saying that's a strong institution? Yes, divorce is hard on the kids. When my Uncle and Aunt got divorced one of my cousins wouldn't speak to her Dad for almost a year. She wouldn't speak to her Dad's new wife for even longer. But people healed, and they're all happy now. We're told from a young age that marriage is a sacred thing, where two people unite and never leave each other's sides. It's a sweet story, and if that's how you want marriage to be for you, fine. I'm not condeming it. But it's not practicle to just say "Divorce bad. Marriage good." People all have their own personal interpretations of marriage. To some people it's a life long unitement (is that a word?) between a man and a women. To others it's just a few legal benefits. And to most people it's somewhere inbetween the two. Sure, it would be nice if everyone had fairytale marriages and stayed together forever. But it's not right to impose that definition of marriage on everybody else. x3r09-would you say that even with an abusive relationship?
That kind of a system would be way to hard to control. It's not like there are any laws that govern how long you've been dating someone. It would be rediculous to have to report that to the government just so you can get married in a year.
Isn't marriage supposed to be forever? It'd never happen because people change, its natural and sometimes people cant deal with other peoples' changes.
Exactly, it's supposed to be forever. If there is a man or woman who can make marriage last until death (Until death do us part) then i will admire them greatly.
is it a fear of loosing something that people wish marriage to last forever? but does it matter how long you love a person? isn't it the quality of that love that should matter more then its quantity if you wish to call it that, even if you had 2 days together, but loved each other like mad wouldnt it outdone it if you married and lived till death but in misery, because maybe living together might turn into hell, and lets face it, love can be corroded in many ways.. jealousy, living in poverty, anger and violence, drug/alcohol addiction etc for example. you might love somebody but if you go thru these things, you might eventually loose respect and no respect does kill love slowly but surely, you cant take it no more. and if you do take it, you loose respect for yourself and are as result unhappy, martyr= maybe, but unhappy. and if it was enforced by law or whatever to last forever, i for one would never want to marry for sure! its like loosing a free choice, you know you are born alone and die alone, that is the scary thing, if your choice to understanding this fact of life is taken away by fake security of enforced forever marriage when you can delude yourself for eternity, where is the freedom of release from this fear which is always gonna be there however deluded one is, however much fake security one builts around oneself. of course there may be couples who might be able to be together and just with each other for 30 or however many years and make it in love and respect and be able to grow as individual, without loosing themselves in it, and beign supportive towards each other etc. but its a minority and for minority adjust laws for majority is creating one hell of a challenge.
Whoa, a little exaggeration there about murdered spouses. That's what marriage is: a vow of eternity shared between two people. If you're not ready to marry, don't do it. You can't go into marriage with a half-ass attitude thinking, "I think I'll spend forever with her/him."
In my eyes, a couple should have lived together for atleast a year, maybe more, before even consider getting married, that way they know eachother well..and before moving in, going out for about a year or so.
I tottaly agree [/b][/quote] agree on that too...the longest ive been in a realtionship is just under a year (I was 10 days away) The second I hit a year with a girl...I'm doing a jig