The Venting Out Thread

That comes with time. At this age ther only so much of a deep connection you can have. And when I first got into this relationship it was just like being friends with a good night kiss. But being in a relationship makes you open up to the other person and makes the other person open up to you. You also begin to take each other more seriously and spend more time together. And that's how that connection is started. Going into the relationship, honestly, I didn't have much feelings for her except "liking", but I liked 6 other girls aswell. Six months later, I really do have feelings. She's currently on a week long trip visiting her relatives and I really miss her, her company, hanging out, everything... And if you just remain friends with someone, you're never gonna establish something more. I have some girl-friends that I occasionally hang out with/text but I couldn't give a shit less at where they are. Point is, nothing's gonna happen if you don't try. And if you only start trying when you're in college or something, you're gonna suck at relationships at a time when you're searching for a soulmate.

And I'm not even gonna say anything about establishing a "physical" connection if you're not in a relationship.

 

Wow. So deep. You opened my eyes

Seriously , i think i could agree with you know. It there a person that belongs to someone it should be the only one. I wouldnt ignore some experience stuff, but i damn doubt it that this cold happen soon

 

You both have fairly the same point (it's not a bad one), so I'll reply to you both.

The truth is, I don't care enough to do anything. I don't care enough about her or about being in a relationship, whatever it might bring me. If it happens, I'll embrace it, but I'm way too uninterested and lazy to go get it myself. I know it's not some attitude, but I'm too lazy to even try to overcome that attitude, because the end goal, having a deep connection and a great relationship or whatever, isn't that attractive to me and not some accomplishment I really seek to achieve, not right now at least. I'm basically just elaborating on what I've already said:

Thanks for helping out anyway.

 

General piece of advice:

Don't try to get too connected too early on. Like what Filip said, the connection should come overtime during the relationship. Too many times before have I put too much hope into a relationship only to have the person just dump me off before it ever got serious. That's a mistake I hope not to make again.

 

Thanks for the advice, but I'm really not planning on doing anything that you warned me not to do. I don't bear hopes, they're just subtle wishes that don't necessarily have to come true.

 

I'm sick of still being in love with my best friend with whom I'm really close but already rejected me two times and she and I however want to stay really close to each other but it's hard and I want to remain one of her foundations just like she said I am.
Phew, feels really good !

 

Cut the ties. There is a very, and I mean very slim chance that you two remaining just friends is gonna be healthy for you. If you're just gonna sit on the sidelines madly in love with her while she's out living life just wanting you as a "foundation(........)", it's not gonna be good in the long run

 

I know it sucks to hear but he's right. Because either you're going to be chasing a shadow for forever or she's going to end up hurting you one way or the other. You need to seperate yourself from her. I know it's hard, I've been there before. But it's the best choice for you. And trust me, once you get rid of her from her life, you'll see how many great friends there are to hang around with. Before, I used to only hang out with this girl I liked whenever I could, but once we parted ways I realized how many awesome people were around me that I could hang around and talk too.

 

Fuck
Cornell
Notes
So
Hard

 

Fuck you, you piece of shit school. I can't wait to leave this place in two months. Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck Fuck. Bag of filthy piece of shits. Arghhhhh.

 

I'm so fucking pissed at my teacher. He expected us to complete three different t-shirt designs in class (since no one owns a Mac with adobe illustrator at home) during the course of less than a week. I was only able to complete one cause I missed a day due to being sick, plus the shortened time to work on the project in class due to 2 hour delays and the lack of our school pushing back the marking period because of snow days. So I failed the project. Bullshit.

 

I'm pissed about the class ranking system. I go to a really competitive school when it comes to valedictorian. Right now I'm at #5 with a 4.4777 G.P.A... The top 5 are separated by 2 hundredths of a point. So to compete we will basically have to take every single AP/advanced class possible. I don't want to take things like AP art. I'm not good at any hands on art forms. The thing is that 2 of the top 5 are extremely artistic so that's basically free GPA points they'll get over the other three of us. So it's looking like I'll have to drop out of athletics and go to ART. Freaking ART to compete for that top spot. This is really frustrating as I don't like art and am not talented enough to succeed at it. I am in a digital design class. We use Photoshop and Illustrator to create pieces of art. That stuff is fun because I'm able to use the computer to create what I have in mind, but when it comes to using my hands I just can't do it. For some reason the school doesn't consider the digital design 'art' enough for an AP class. Now I'm having to take classes I don't like because of this 'competition'. I'll have 6 AP classes and 2 advanced next year. I just want to be able to take classes that I have interest in. I'm going to have to study nonstop. There goes my social life. My dad is the one pressuring me on it. Ugh. Sorry this seems like rambling, I'm just not very happy right now.

 

I couldn't disagree more. I have had feelings for very close friends only to learn there is no shot, but I deal with it because I don't want to lose my best fucking friend. I'd rather have the friend than nothing at all, even if it means the relationship can't be all that I want it to be. You just have to come to terms with the fact that you'll have to find someone else. Not to be cliché, but there will always be someone else.

 

Agreed with Pidgey completely.

 

Fuck my brother, making me walk a quarter to a half mile home when it's night with wind speeds of over 30 mph with wind chills at -10℉ cause he was too damn lazy to move my dad's truck to go and pick me up. Fuck him.

 

I shall agree to disagree

 

Thanks for all your replies guys, it feels really good to receive your different opinions and point of views, I'm here to update the situation !
So now I have a girlfriend since two weeks now, and my friend and I are less close than before. She knows it and it makes her sad... But she doesn't want me to know it, since she really cares for me and my couple and don't want me to care more about her than my girlfriend... Let's see how the situation develops. Thanks, I will inform you !
(And, a new time, sorry for my poor english...)

 

So considering you're now dating someone else, I'm guessing you've finally let go?

 

Most times I don't know if I've moving on finally or if I've just become more apathetic in general. Other times it seems I make up for the distance by putting all the rage into bursts on the internet.

 

Yes, far below.
But yes, honestly I've finally let go.