Should Gay Couples Be Allowed to Adopt Children?

Now that we have had a topic about gay marriage, lets switch to gay couples adopting children. Should they be allowed? When i ask this question i mainly ask in the sense of male gay couples, should they be allowed to adopt. Casue female gay couples can have a kid whenever they want, so i am mainly asking the question with male couples in mind.

I think i know most of the opinions that i will recieve form this question, but I tohught i would ask it anyhow. I'll wait for a few responses then i will give my opinion.

 

yes i think they should be able to adopt children. its better for a child to live with loving parents than in an orphanage.

 

A better question is why shouldn't gay couples be allowed to adopt? Single men or women can adopt, a heterosexual couple can adopt, and a gay couple can raise a child as well as a heterosexual couple (I've seen several Dateline NBC/other news magazine articles showing that it's so). The sexual orientation of the parents shouldn't matter as long as the child receives a good home.

 

I wonder what goes through a child's mind realizing they have two mommies or two daddies. "Um...moms...where's dad...or dads?" Haha.

I say let them. I'd like to see someone give me one good reason as to why not.

 

This is my only problem with gay couples being allowed to adopt children. Since gay marriages aren't even close to being socially accepted, think about how this kid would get teased and treated in a public environment. Should they have to be subjected to this kind of abuse form other kids? I mean many kids get "bullied" and teased about many other things, but this id like pretty much giving the kid a guarantee to get picked on. So I think that until gay marriage becomes a socially acceptable thing, they shouldn't be allowed to adopt. But then again, who is going to declare when gay marriages are socially acceptable?

 

How would the other children know about his/her gay parents? I agree, he/she would be subjected to teasing but it's not worth banning the adoption over; not saying you want that. Just gotta take it with a grain of salt and move on. Nothing else. Or kick their asses.

 

the problem with that is that it really wouldnt be fair for the couples that actually want to take care of a child. just because society doesnt think its acceptable doesnt mean they should have their right taken away. but i do see where youre getting at. although i dont think you should have to hide the fact that your parents are homosexual, under these circumstances with all these biggoted and close-minded people who would actually harm someone for reasons that dont even effect them, maybe its a better idea not to inform the whole world about it. i mean its better not to expose everything than to deny rights all together.

im trying really hard to put this into words haha

 

Well i mean i'm sure it wold come out some way. Kids talk about alot of things, maybe they might ahve a discussion in class. The teacher ask what does your daddy do? the kid ultimately has to answer "well i have two daddies." I'm pretty sure it wold come out sooner or later. Like I said other than that, I don't really ahve a problem with it, I'm just looking at it mainly form the children's point of view rather than form the the point of view of the couple.

 

The kid would have a difficult time. Sad truth is, a lot of people, even people like teachers and "open minded" people would think of them slightly differently. I mean, I can imagine a lot of people who aren't bigots and honestly don't mean any harm going, "Oh, did you know so-and-so's parents were gay" or something like that. And the casual, everyday use of the word "gay" would, i think, make them feel more uncomfortable. It would also make many people conscious about meeting their parents, going to their houses, etc. But maybe all thats worth actually having parents and a home.

 

I totally agree with, homosexual couples can very likely be better parents than heterosexuals. But like I'm trying to say will these children be able to lead normal lives, growing up in the environment that they ar froced to grow up in.

 

It's not the kid's fault that our society consists of a bunch of homophobes.

I say let them. If a kid is wanted, a homosexual couple will be able to give it a better home than a heterosexual couple where the child would be unwanted.

Edit: To clarify, I meant as opposed to having no adoption at all, or living in an orphanage. Those children are generally not "wanted", I wasn't saying heterosexual couples don't want to adopt children.

 

That's why I dislike the catholic church. They really love to hate things yet tell you that they are spreading love. Hypocrites. I say let them do what they want. It's a free country.

 

Yes, but a parent's sexual orientation, given the current society we live in, could have a more lasting effect on the child. Being a person that was bullied constantly when in elementry school, I can definately say that it's had an effect on who I am today.

Then again, I may be wrong, and the bullying could faze out over the years like it did with me.

 

i just read that thread with the mother cutting off the babys arms and it really bugs that if this situation happened with a homosexual couple, who knows what people would do. its like they would have to put themselves in a higher standard than heterosexuals to prove themselves worthy. whatev, i think its ridiculous.

i agree with mark that there should be programs to minimize the hate on homosexuals. of course there would probably be angry revolting parents, but i still think its better than letting people stay hateful.

 

One apon a time you would have gotten picked on for having one white parent and one black parent. Should they have been stopped from having kids? No.

If anything I think that homosexuals adopting children will help (notice I said help, not take care of the problem itself) get rid of homophobia, because it will bring it more out in the open. Maybe the child of two homosexuals befriends your child. You don't know this right away, but the kid starts visiting your house, and my isn't she a bright, well mannered girl? And eventually you will find out that "Jill has two mommys" but you already see what a sweet girl Jilly is, her parents couldn't be all that bad. Obviously this is idealistic and a lot of people won't think that way. But some will.

And again I return to the situation I started with: Back when racism was all over the place, would you stop a black man with a white wife from having a child because it wasn't socially acceptable?

 

I strongly agree that homosexual couples should be able to have kids.

It is true that it could be better for an adopted kid to be with homosexual parents, than a kid to be with abusive heterosexual parents...but remember, that doesn't mean that all homosexual couples would take better care of kids than heterosexual kids.

I'm not trying to separate these two kinds of people...I'm just saying they are all human.

 

One apon a time you would have gotten picked on for having one white parent and one black parent. Should they have been stopped from having kids? No.

If anything I think that homosexuals adopting children will help (notice I said help, not take care of the problem itself) get rid of homophobia, because it will bring it more out in the open. Maybe the child of two homosexuals befriends your child. You don't know this right away, but the kid starts visiting your house, and my isn't she a bright, well mannered girl? And eventually you will find out that "Jill has two mommys" but you already see what a sweet girl Jilly is, her parents couldn't be all that bad. Obviously this is idealistic and a lot of people won't think that way. But some will.

And again I return to the situation I started with: Back when racism was all over the place, would you stop a black man with a white wife from having a child because it wasn't socially acceptable? [/b][/quote]
Like I said i don't oppose gay people being able to adopt children. I just see it as being a potential threat to children, who for one already are going to lead a screwed up life because they are adopted. It's been proven in studies that adopted children eventhough they might get raised by a loving family, have a harder time adjusting to society and life when they grow older. I mean they are put in a possible situation that will make them a prime target for bullying, this in turn could make them stronger people or could really damage and scar them emotionally for life.
Like Todd said alot of children get bullied, but i mean since gay couples aren't accepted, they oculd be subjected to pretty harsh bullying. Especially the way that younger children now adays are becoming alot more violent.
So I mean, by all means all homosexual couples should be allowed to adopt children. But they should wait until homosexual couples are a little more accepted universally.