While the opinions stated in this rant may come off as negative, I must take the time out to say that I have absolutely no hatred or negative feelings towards women as a whole and that I am merely stating a rant fueled by personal experiences. So in summary, I love you ladies and don't be offended by the rant ahead. “Nice Guys Finish Last” by Derek J. Oswald Whether they’re model material or an Average Joe, every man on the face of the Earth, will experience the pain of heartbreak through some form or another. When the moment comes they will turn to their friends for advice, and will unknowingly be fed the biggest line of bullshit ever created by man. Yes, I’m talking about none other then the classic, overused, one-liner: “Nice guys finish last.” While it might have its merits, and serve a purpose for the men who are on a one way ticket to heart break hotel, as many unfortunate men throughout history have discovered, nothing could be farther from the truth. I’ve seen it happen so many times before. I’m going through life minding my own business, when suddenly like a bullet straight between the ass-cheeks, true love comes and takes me by surprise. Too many times I’ve met an attractive young female who shared the same interests and lifestyle as me, only to find out that when the time comes to develop feelings towards her, that she doesn’t see our relationship in the same light as I do. That would normally be all fine and dandy, except SOME (not all) girls have a bad habit of leading you to believe there is more to your friendship than meets the eye. A strange habit of leading you on to think something is going to happen, only to shoot down your hopes of ever starting a relationship, the minute you even begin to display feelings towards you’re so called “soul-mate”. Now no offense ladies, while I am aware that not all girls are deceitful or misleading, I still have yet to find one that doesn’t have a hidden agenda behind it all. Guys will often find that when a confrontation arises about the girl not feeling the same way as the man, the argument can result in some pretty humorous questions that in all respects would be better left unsaid. Could you imagine the reaction if I had the nerve to say, “Okay then, if you don’t see me as more than I friend, do you mind explaining these pictures you’ve sent to me that appear to be a little more, then just a friendly gift between friends?”. Her expression would probably be priceless and her answers would probably contain more stuttering then Howard Stern’s former lovable and slightly-deranged sidekick. But moving away from personal experiences and more on to the subject at hand, a common problem is that just when you believe you actually have a chance to succeed with your angel in disguise, some lucky illegitimate offspring of unmarried parents comes and steals her away from you and takes all your dreams of ever having a chance along with him. Often you will find that except in rare cases, the guy who took your place is a chauvinistic ####### who would enjoy nothing better then getting in bed with the girl of your dreams (and sadly? The majority of the time he gets his wish). But rather then sit back and grit your teeth in disgust, you try to warn her only to find out that ‘she loves him too much’ to ever believe the ‘lies’ that you’re spreading around about him. So you decide to grin and bear it and follow the premise that “nice guys finish last”. But after waiting for what seems an eternity for your chance to come by, you discover that rather than look in your direction your ‘true love’ would prefer hopping from pig to pig for the rest of her life, then ever be caught dead giving you a chance. Yes it’s true, when the girl finally dumps the sick illegitimate offspring of unmarried parents and realizes who he really was behind it all; rarely does she ever fall in love with the guy who warned her about it from the start. Instead, she’s more likely to find someone who shares the same mentality as her previous boyfriend who decides to hide it by acting like a sweetheart for the first couple of months of their relationship, leaving her to fall for the same set of lies she fell for in the last relationship. So what’s the moral of the story children? It’s simple. If a girl does not show interest in you the first time around, it’s better to move on and forget then convince yourself to believe that just because you’ve been the greatest friend in the world, your chance will one day float down from the sky. The underlining message of this whole rant is that nice guys will never finish last if they never had a chance to begin with. It’s better to go with a woman who loves you or accepts you from the beginning, then parade around after a girl who has absolutely no interest in being anything more then just good friends. Nuff’ said.
Thanks . Like I said, this post is in no way "Anti-girl", it is simply a warning to other guys out there to not allow themselves to get obsessed to the point their life depends on getting a chance with the 'girl of thier dreams'.
That was good, Derek. I think you've got it figured out... Not saying I'm like that, but yeah. Most of the guys I know will let you know right up front whether they're interested or not. Why should it be any different with girls? Oh yeah, mind games. Niiiice.
I only have this much of an insight because I've experienced heartbreak with almost every relationship I've ever had. And usually it's the same old same just with a different girl.
Have him read this and tell him that I poured my heart into a girl for over a year and then she totally avoided me and that we havent talked for over a month now because of it (yeah, true story). (why did I originally post this in 3rd person?)
Have him read this and tell him that the author drained his heart into a girl for over a year and then she totally avoided him and that he hasnt talked to the girl for over a month now because of it (yeah, true story). [/b][/quote] Awww....Yeah, I'll do that. I mean, he's completely obsessed with this chick [who I strongly dislike] and she's playing him and he won't listen when me or my cousin tell him that. It'll get to him eventually.
Awww....Yeah, I'll do that. I mean, he's completely obsessed with this chick [who I strongly dislike] and she's playing him and he won't listen when me or my cousin tell him that. It'll get to him eventually. [/b][/quote] He might have to find it out by himself to be quite honest. I didn't listen to my friends when they warned me about this one girl because she so had me thinking that we had a chance, and now that the truth is revealed, she blocked me to avoid any more confrontations about it.
He might have to find it out by himself to be quite honest. I didn't listen to my friends when they warned me about this one girl because she so had me thinking that we had a chance, and now that the truth is revealed, she blocked me to avoid any more confrontations about it. [/b][/quote] Yeah, he'll probably figure it out on his own anyways. I mean, their relationship isn't going to last forever, obviously. They've been on and off again and right now it's off but he's still obsessed with her. Someday he'll clue in.
I'm with you Derek. You are like a philospher of the modern age. We should build a digital monument to Derek on the net. I'll pay for the domain and the host, and then we'll get other people to make a website that is totally dedicated to the study of Derekology. But really, that one hits close to home. I see all my friends who are the chauvenistic ######s going out with the girls I like. And they're just in it to say they're going out with someone who's really hot. The people I like I like because they are smarter than the average bear and have a personality that makes them enjoyable to be around. Unfortunatly, they're usually "out of my league". I guess I'm so used to it by now that it doesn't bother me like it used to. But it still kills me, every damn time. Thank you, Derek.
If you'd really go to the length to pay for a domain just so people can regard me as a "Not so pissed off Maddox" then of course I'd do it. Never think a girl is out of your league or "too hot for you" because unless she's a complete snob who wont even talk to you unless you are a musclebound jock, you could be missing out on a potentially great friend. Sure, I just lost a girl that people would think was "out of my league" but up until things crumbled down she was one of the coolest friends I ever had. Just too bad she had to have a b*tchy side behind it all.
Even sarcastically that's wrong... [/b][/quote] This isn't intended to be my last rant btw. I wanna make this a weekly/monthly thing. I'm just not sure on what to tackle next on my list of issues. Suggestions? It can be about another untrue saying..