My Best Friend died

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    FreeYourMind

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    Ehm. yeah. I don't know how to say this or why I'm saying this
    but I really need to let this out.

    :':)'(
    Yester 3dec. my best friend Dreda called me and asked If I would like to go with her to ValleyHall ( A party place) I didn't really wanted to go, so I said that I was at my grandma's house and that my grandma was very sick. (wich was a big fat lie)
    She kept begging me to go and I still said no.
    She said that then she had to go all alone ... and she said that I was very sellfish and that sort of stuff and she got very upset.
    And we had a fight
    So last night, Dreda did go to ValleyHall all by herself.
    And this morning her mother phoned me and said that Dreda had died In a car accident last night and that her last words were; Tell Heidi (that's me) that I didn't mean all these things that I said.

    Now I realllly feeeel so bad. I shouldn't have lied to her and I should have just go with her last night.
    I really do not know what I have to do.

    I wished that I could turn back time.
     
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    erasethepain

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    I'm sorry.

    If you would have went, you would have been in the car, too. I'm sure she forgives you and understands why you didn't want to go now.

    I'm very sorry.
     
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    Razan

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    :mellow: ...I'm very sorry.

    She said she didn't mean it so you shouldn't be angry at yourself for too long.

    This sounds selfish but I'm glad you didn't go, what good would it have done?

    Her last words must have made you feel bad, but you know she said it to make you feel better.

    You can't turn back time...
    I'm very, very sorry :(

    My deepest condolences.
     
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    Messy Marj

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    I'm deeply sorry :(

    But just like J Money and Razan said: You would've been in the caraccident too if you went to ValleyHall.
    I'm sure Dreda would've understand you.
    Good luck *hugs*
     
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    Luke

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    I'm sorry to hear that,Something liek this has happened to me before and I blamed myself but there's no point on feeling guilty because these things happen.Plus if you had gone you might of ended up in that accident yourself and that probably would of been 1 more person gone.But cheer up because death is mearly a path we must all chose,its not the end of that person by a longshot
     
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    FreeYourMind

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    Thanks you all.. I 'feel a little better now. :)
    I surely do hope she can forgive me.
     
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    Burningsoul

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    Im terribly sorry that you had to experience that, its not easy to lose a loved one. But as people have already said you cant blame yourself, being there with her would of only meant one more injury or worse. And though you did have a little argument, it is obvious that you both loved eachother dearly. Just try and remember all of the good times you had together, the memories will always be there.
     
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    Mark

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    That's horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that. :hugz:
     
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    Leeuwnie

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    I'm really sorry for your loss... Sterkte!

    I think she has already forgiven you. Look at her last words.

    :hugz:
     
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    Evi

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    That's so sad. But remember, It wasn't your fault! I'm sure she forgives you! :hugz:
     
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    Dedicated

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    Damn. I'm so sorry :hugz: :(
     
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    Leslie

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    Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that. :hugz: I'm sure she has already forgiven you and just remember all of the good times you two had together.
     
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    Glenn

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    I'm very sorry. :(

    She does forgive you though...look at her last words. :)
     
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    Adam

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    I'm sorry to hear about that :hugz: .
     
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    albi

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    i'm so sorry that is terrible i dont know what to say
     
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    art_geek

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    I'm sorry for your loss. I recently lost my uncle a few weeks back, and my family still feels his lost. Though there a ways an accident can be prevented, sometimes we have to go when it is our time. If I learned one thing from my uncle, it's too not be afraid of dying.
     
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    Canadian Joe

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    Oh God...I'm so sorry to hear that... I hope you'll be fine and all...if ya need to talk, PM me and I'll add ya to MSN or somethin...
    :hugz:
     
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    Mechanical Christ

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    She has forgiven you, let it go. You'll relax once you clear it up with yourself. She has forgiven you. Just as your name says, free your mind.
     
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    Ryan

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    I'm really sorry to hear that. There is nothing better in this world than friends. But yah remember, it wasn't your fault no matter what.
     
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    FreeYourMind

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    hey.. thanks for all the support and stuff.
    I just came back from her 'funeral'. and it felt good to be with all those people, who also like really knew her.
    we talked about the times that we had so much fun with her....
    and that really made me feel lot better. :)
     

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