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    Tomi

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    How do you ask a girl out? Yeah, I know. Odd question.

    I'm slightly stuck here. I know she likes me [her friends have been telling me that, and she also did ask me to dance at the Halloween dance...] and I like her. But she's got a slight problem. Her friend's described it to me that her brain freezes up when she sees me, nervousness, so that leads to her usually not talking to me or ignoring me [we only see each other in tech ed and in the halls and outside]. But then I get nervous too somewhat because I don't know what to say, like how to ask her out... :blush:

    If you could help me, it would extremely help me and probably others too embarressed to post a topic. lol.

    Thanks. :hugz:
     
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    Mark

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    Be casual. Don't overthink. Try a "Hey, would you like to see a movie with me some time?". Rehearse it and repeat it to yourself if you feel nervous. Act confident, and look her in the eyes. Stumbling over your words doesn't look great.
     
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    Vampire

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    Oy vay.

    Letter.
    AIM.
    Phone.
    Msn.
    Yahoo.
    Text message.
    Pigeon.
    Shout from across the field.
     
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    Chris.

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    Great Advice. I've done it before, it helps.
     
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    NickelNine

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    haha.. i was in the same situation and i know exactly what ut talkin about.. just do anything to try to get her to talk even if ur shy.. u should just work on not being shy or whatever..
     
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    Leslie

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    :lol:

    Mark's advise works... just talk to her casually and bring it up. I hope that helps. =)
     
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    $pvcxGhxztCasey

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    Blackmail always works well.
     
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    Tomi

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    Thanks Mark. But I'm not worried about stumbling over words. I'm pretty confident, everyone's rooting me on to ask her so I will. I just don't know what to say.
    She's been practically the only thing on my mind since she asked me to dance.
    I just don't want to ask her infront of other people. Dunno why. Just don't.

    Great advice Vampire. [sarcastic smilie]
    Casey - hah. I know she'll say yes, so I don't think blackmail will be needed eh?
     
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    $pvcxGhxztCasey

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    If you know she'll say yes, then you shouldn't need our help. If the two of you like each other, then it should naturally come up if the two of you talk.
     
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    Tomi

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    I hope you read my whole post. Note where I mentioned her getting brain-freeze?
     
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    $pvcxGhxztCasey

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    I think that's why the phone or instant messaging programs were invented, fella.
     
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    The Doctor

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    Just do what I do. Just ask her if she's busy sometime. If she says yes, then say, "Well I was just wondering if youd wanna do something." Go from there. Its a pretty easy thing to do.
     
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    Kate

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    Rehearse.
    Be casual.
    Don't overdo it.
    SMILE.
    Call her by name. (Girls love that.)
     
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    Evi

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    Maybe MSN is the best way, she can't see how nervous you are.
     
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    matttheskwirl14

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    Great Advice. I've done it before, it helps. [/b][/quote]
    it helped me too
     
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    iamrighthereandnow

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    if both of you are nervous about it, just get chatting, make her feel comfy with you, when you talk to her, see how your nervousness goes as you see yourself being good at what your doing.when you are more comfy with each other, say it. if you are afraid to ask her out in front of others, arrange situation that there arent any of them around. watch the scene, grab the situation. go for it.....
     
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    Tomi

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    Casey, fieke - errm, i'd rather ask her face-to-face

    Nate - Thanks for the idea...i'll ask her what she's doing for the christmas break [we've got 2 weeks off of school]

    fairladykate - What would I call her if then? "hey you" pfft, yeah right. Of course i'd call her by her name ;)

    Just after school today I saw her at the lockers with everyone and said 'Hey Jen' and then she turn to me and said 'hey' and turned back. That's another example of her 'brain freeze'. But of course first her friend had to tell her 'Well say something, Jen!'. Meh, I'm used to it. I'll get her outta it once I ask her out.

    One of my friends is getting everyone together to go tobogganing and other stuff during the holidays. Since I missed my chance at school, i'll ask her there.

    Oh and just so you guys know. I'm barely nervous. I just don't know what to do. >_<.
     
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    What if her friends didnt tell u that she like ya?
    How would you know that she liked you?
    Just a question that benefits for both of us . :D
     
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    If you can ever get her into a conversation and you're both enjoying the conversation, sporadically ask her. That's a good approach.
     
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    As a girl who suffers from "brain freeze", I'd say that conversation is the best way. Make sure she has no way to leave because honestly, she'll regret it if she likes you and you'll regret it.
     

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