Do you stand up for yourself when someone verbally takes a shot at you? Or are you shy and afraid to speak up when someone is bothering you? Do you let others bring you down? Do you let others fight your battles? Have you ever asked yourself these questions above? Personally, all my life people have walked all over me and I've been taken for granted. A lot of people in the past and present have bullied me and I was the one who took the crap and never said anything back to defend myself. Ever since this past friday, I have changed a bit. Instead of people walking all over me, I now stand up for myself. On Friday in Spanish class we were playing a game and I wrote the wrong word down and it caused my team to lose. Everyone in group didn't care that we lost but this one girl got all up in my face about it. I didn't take her bullcrap and I got right back in her face and yelled at her. She was surprised and so was I because I have never really stood up to a lot of people. Last night my mom was getting on me about my Chemistry grade. She was saying how I don't know anything and that I won't be able to bring it up, which I know I will bring it up. I asked her repeatedly to stop but she didn't and I yelled at her and got grounded last night. I'm not grounded anymore but I didn't regret standing up to my mom. So anyway, does anyone here stand up for themselves?
I stand up for myself sometimes. Most of the time I just think it's not worth standing up for myself, because by not standing up for yourself, you're the better person because you're not calling someone else names and things like that. *shrugs*
I don't stand up for myself... Well, used to not. After I had a breakdown, I got this new tougher attitude. I've been sticking up for the things I don't believe in in school lately, and it's been getting people pissed off at me, so I don't really get it. People tell me that I will get respect if I stand up for myself, but it's just like... Now I'm the punk who used to be quiet, but now has the smartass, annoying mouth. I don't understand, but I try to stand up for myself. It's hard when it feels like you're out-numbered, though .
If someone gets in your face about something it's like, manditory to do something back I think. What I do is if they're in my face shove them once...after doing that you'll see whether or not it's just going to be a yelling fight or an actual fight. Most people after being shoved will come at you with a punch or they'll get back up in your face and start yelling again. If they do that...just say a smart ass comment and walk away. But if they would come at you with a punch or a shove back...then it's on.
I get called names all the time. I guess its easy to take shots at me. I honestly don't care what those people have to say. I'm not going to waste a couple minutes of my life just to female dog someone out. Screw that. Once a girl came up to me and called me a lesbian. I found this really stupid, especially since it was true and she knew it. I don't see how calling a lesbian a lesbian, is a diss. So anyways, I just winked at her and said, "Yeah, I am baby and I"m single too." This usually keeps the girls at bay. Guys on the other hand just talk ####. But after it gets physical, they leave me alone too. (I got in a fight with a guy once and kicked him in the nuts. No one has said anyting to my face ever again) If someone is not going to have the balls to say something to my face, than I find it not worth talking back at them. Let them have their fun, I say. I mean, at times I talk #### about people too. So, who am I to be a hyprocite?
Where I come from guys like lesbians. [/b][/quote] Yes. Valley loves lesbians. Anyway, lately more and more I stand up for myself, because I figure hey, I'm a senior now, I really don't care. So I do it.
You know, I don't know if this happens anywhere else in the world, but a fight can start by one guy saying "What?!" in some way to piss of the other guy. Then there's the whole point where they look like they're about to kiss saying "What?!" over and over to eachother, then it becomes an egotistical race. I find fighting stupid, and it's all for ego. I noticed fights only happen in public, around other people. People don't like to be the better person and back down... In my opinion, and what I do, I be the better person and step down. I admit, you know, all right, you're better, now leave me alone. If that doesn't work, leave, and go somewhere you feel safe. Don't do it for the people around you, do it for yourself. I think the reason I don't stand up to people as much is because it's just the way these people decrease their own insecurities, and me, being the better man, can take more of that ego of theirs by being better than them, than trying a few swings and losing my own personal dignity. Just my opinion, though.
Yeah, we have that here, but instead of "What?!" they often use phrases like "You won't," "Do something," or other slurred speaches. Then people egg them on until, boom, someones lying on the ground.
Yeah, of course. Fighting is the way to go. [/b][/quote] People are differen't...the way they are are differen't. I'd think you would respect that and not come at me with a smart remark.
People are differen't...the way they are are differen't. I'd think you would respect that and not come at me with a smart remark. [/b][/quote] I don't respect people who fight to resolve conflicts. It does absolutely nothing to help any situation whatsoever and it just makes the people fighting look really, really stupid because they aren't smart enough to walk away and be the better person. I'm sorry, but that's how I feel.
Yea...I get that. Everyone thinks differently. I think one way...you think another. But I didn't respond to your post with a smart comment because I disagree with you. I didn't mean you should respect what I think...but you should at least respect that I have my own opinion.
I somehow see this turning into yet another topic where Bryan and Will start fighting and it eventually closes.
Yea...I get that. Everyone thinks differently. I think one way...you think another. But I didn't respond to your post with a smart comment because I disagree with you. I didn't mean you should respect what I think...but you should at least respect that I have my own opinion. [/b][/quote] I respect you have your own opinion, but I don't agree with it. I was just feeling really sarcastic then and had to post what I did. I'm sorry. Anyway, carry on with the discussion.