Age gaps

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    Jamie

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    Age...is just a number..I'm currently trying to snag a girl 2 year younger than me..and I dont care what other people may think..Age doesnt matter. As long as the two people are happy then it shouldn't matter.
    For the record I'm 16. ^_^
     
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    age difference does matter in a way. i wouldnt date someone whos like 4 years older than me. i dont want to. kind of because he wouldnt be able to fully understand my needs, i guess. something like that.
     
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    i'm always dreaming of marrying a man younger than i am but that would make me one of the member of the "fellowship of them teenies"... :D well, just can't get enough from the regular "old-fling" i guess... :D

    seriously, what's on my mind is people shouldn't be judged based on their physical appearances, looks, races, living conditions, religions, or any "obstacles" that'll hinder them from overcoming the reality, which is pretty sucks, i think... and in this case, age should also be part of the list... yes, we live in the Matrix but how could we isolate the people around us... people will keep talking, man... i mean, constantly... until the day they died, then they'll shut it!!... :shifty:

    there's nothing wrong with dating or, even worse, marrying a man/woman younger than u r :D ... i wont underestimate the potential of a younger boyfriend... it's what's on his mind that counts and how he "build up" his characters, the way he handled problems and stuff - if it's matured enough, i guess it's fine with me... it'll be the most important thing i dig from a man, well, i tend to speak as in randomly...

    btw, the only true colors is start being urself and to be proud of who u ought to be... (you cannot neglect opinions but it's just a guideline...)the true freedom is to use ur mind instead of ur heart... (yes, not much of a freedom but it's ur choice, as well as ur regret!) not a good one but i try my best to make it through u... :mellow:

    hmmm, whatever...
     
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    I don't think that age in a relationship isn't that big of a deal. as long as it's not that huge of a gap.....like Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones (shudder).....he could be her dad..... :lol:
     
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    I don't care about age.

    My parents are 20 years apart and have been together since my mom was 16. They are now happily married with 3 children of their own. I see nothing wrong with this.
     
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    I generally don't mind age gaps as long as it's nothing ridiculous like a 50 year old and a 15 year old. I personally wouldn't date a guy younger than myself but if other girls choose to, that's fine. Again, the age gap should be something reasonable. The problem is, somebody's who much older than yourself might not have anything in common with you and if that happens, the respective partners might drift apart over time. Just my 2 cents. :wth:
     
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    Neil

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    If it makes you happy, and its legal, who cares. It's your life, not theirs
     
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    Why's it immoral? I just think it's a bit awkward.
     
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    Exactly. As long as what you're doing is legal and it makes you happy.
     
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    It seems to be that the older people get, the less they care about age differences. 14 and 18 would be fine.
     
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    I could never date a guy who's really younger than me. A few years younger is fine. Guys are are older however, I don't want to date anyone older than 19 as I'm 16. 16 yr old girl dating a 27 year old guy=not right. Now, when I'm older, the age gap for older guys can be as much as 15 years older. That's my view, anyway.
     
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    yeah i think i agree with what hybrid_theory said. its my point of view as well.
     
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    nah, important thing is love.. ..:p wow that was simple....
     
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    i dont know 'bout u guys, but i think when it happens, it happens... just like that!... falling in love is like falling from a skyscraper, i mean, the 'gravity' isn't yours... out of your hand, unmanageable! well, maybe because most of the time we spend in our lives, relatively, we tend to mix around people of our equivalent or average... that it (age) eventually become our basic foundation of every decisions we make throughout our lives... - our future, our career, who we are suppose to marry...

    i realized that sometimes we feel uneasy talking to other people that's older or younger than us, or richer, or smarter, or superior than us like our boss, our principal etc... or someone so charismatic that sometimes they tend to make us feel we r below their average... (though they dont mean to make us feel like that...) ...for example, "u cannot talk to me, ur just a kid... dont tell me what to do" that kind of stuff... like, they own u, intentionally...

    there's a code to be followed and it seems like we have to obey the 'unwritten' rules of the society as a whole... like, u cannot be with someone that's of ur father's age! it's forbidden love... (well, it looks a bit awkward the first time u see it, having to see that kind of relationship going on... i mean, it's nasty!! we dont want to see our dad or mom get involve with a younger boyfriend/girlfriend aren't we? i'd dread it myself!! but i dont have any problem with this idea of dating or marrying an older or younger person than we r... as long as that person is not engaged or a husband/wife of somebody else...)... people involved in this kind of love deserve some respect too... as long as they follow the 'rule', it's 'legal'...

    the point here is, u cannot tell what'll happen in the future... i mean, most of us r not psychic!! :shifty: well, u can say that u dont wanna get involve with this sort of person, that type of man, this kind of girl and stuff but the more u open ur heart and mind towards what's in front of u, u'll be close to know people from different level, then all the obstacles (race, religion, age... etc) could be eliminated and the obstacle u face should not be a problem anymore... :) (well, not for u...)

    i'm deep and philosophical, that's why this kind of 'conventional' thoughts doesn't work in my head... hey, it's just an opinion... i'm not saying that i'm maturing enough to say this kind of thing... but i'm not young either... i'm not radical, my mind is...

    just another bad side of me... :lol:
     
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    Age gaps don't really bother me atal. I go for either one year younger or one year older. Sometimes someone who is a few years older is alright but it would be weird to me because i am only 14. It shouldn't matter about age when you are older in my opinion. I'll put it that way :)
     
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    Im 15 and I 'date' a guy of the age of 21. Ee dont have sex or do anything illegal and we really love each other, but most adults dont see it like that.. I dont see how it is appauling. The age gap doesnt really matter as you get older.
     
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    Age doesnt really matter to me, Im 18 and my girlfriends 15, but were happy so it doesnt bother me
     
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    nah i dont mind age gaps like 3 years. id say its alright up to 6 years. then, its just too much... thats what i think.
     
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    Rachel

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    I think its ok, as long as they people are happy.

    While I don't agree with the age gap, my aunt and uncle are 14 years apart. 14 YEARS! And they are quite happy... 4 kids... a nice happy family.

    I think if the couple are happy and don't care about the age difference, that's all that should matter.

    Currently, I am trying to snag a 16 year old and I'm 13. Oh well. It's all a matter of personal opinion, in the end (and no I really didn't mean to use an LP reference there :blush: )

    - Rachel
     
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    That is very true. Sometimes it happens and there's nothing you can do.
     

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