Age gaps

For some people, age means everything in a relationship, but for others, it's solely a number. Whether both partners are approxiametely the same age, or one is much older than the other, it's always a topic for debate.

Feel free to give reasons for your choice, and to bring up anything you feel is appropriate to the topic.

I for one am curious why it is that it seems uncommon for a relationship where the female is much older than the male. I realize that it's usually the other way around because of the fact of maturity, but it still seems odd to myself. Would you ever date a younger person?

 

I could care less about age.

Way back when, females always got married when they came of age, and it was almost always to a male who was much older than her.

I cannot really see why that is such a big deal anymore. It was perfectly fine by now, but now it seems like anything that used to be perfectly normal is now seen as disgusting.

I mean, there are some circumstances where it is ridiculous (i.e. someone who is 70 dating someone who is 20). But other than that, I do not see any harm as long as the gap is reasonable.

If I had a girlfriend who was, say, 13, I would not care at all. That is only a 3 year difference, which is just fine.

 

Your right about how age is a number but it mostly depends on the age really. If I ever dated a 20 year old man, that would be wrong. I'm 14, I have no idea what is running through this mans head. I don't mean to sound like i'm judgemental or anything, but it is in fact true. 20 year old men have no business with anyone that's at least 10 years younger than them.. they find someone thier age.

But I dated a guy who was 15 but was in the 7th grade, he failed. But I don't consider him as a failure.. I never really dated anyone younger than me but seeing a girl dating a guy who's younger than them isn't that wierd to me really. My brother is younger than his girlfriend, they've been dating for 5 years now and that was his very 'first' girlfriend too. Must be love at first sight I guess, lol cute. But no, I see nothing wrong with dating anyone 'slightly' older than me or younger than me. Just as long as he's not a 5 year old at least, i'm fine.

 

What about a 5 year difference, like an 18 year old and 13? I know some people like that, and I dont see a real problem, their relationship isnt purely sexual, theyre so happy together and I think thats great

 

What about a 5 year difference, like an 18 year old and 13? I know some people like that, and I dont see a real problem, their relationship isnt purely sexual, theyre so happy together and I think thats great [/b][/quote]
Like I said, if it's reasonable, then it's fine. I don't see what's wrong with an 18 year old and a 13 year old.

Now, if it was a 30 year old and a 13 year old............

 

Damnit Will, you beat me to the first post!

 

Age differences aren't a big deal to me as long as they're reasonable, like Will said. I think if there is more than 10 years between people, then you're starting to push the envelope. As people get older, I think the acceptable age gap increases. Like if a 25 year old was dating a 45 year old, then I don't really think there's anything wrong with that. But if there was a 15 year old and 35 year old, then that wouldn't be right.
Personally, I tend to stick to people who are of my age, or slightly older (no more than 4 or 5 years). I just find that things work better for me in a friendship/relationship when the ages are fairly close. However, for some people that is not an issue, and that's their preference. So I really don't have a problem with age differences, as long as no one is being taken advantage of.

 

I totally agree with that.

Personally, I have only dated younger guys in the past. I don't know how that worked out, but they were all within 3 years difference. (In the last one I was 17 and he was 14). Now I have started to look more at older guys, but somehow I still get caught being interested in younger guys. :wth: I don't knowwhat's wrong with me...

 

Like the saying goes, "Older women are like fine wine"

Actually, it's just a matter of likability. I don't get how people set these "numbers", like "5 years older or younger is ok" or "half of your age plus blah buh blah blah". So, if a guy is 14, it's ok to have a relationship with an infant of no more than 6 months old?

Setting "appropriate" age gaps is a bit unnessecary. If one person has a feeling for another, they should try to build upon the relationship, regardless of age, and see how it pans out.

 

its ok for me as long as there both over 16

 

I won't go out with anyone 2 years younger then me, or 2 years older then me...so basically it's just 2 years in both ways for me, but that's just my opinion.

 

me too

 

I don't really think age should matter that much. But I would rather date a guy who was older than me for some reason. I think a five year age difference would be nice, or maybe less than that. A difference of more than twenty years is kind of weird to me, but it's just my opinion.

 

I won't go out with any girls older than me since I know it just wouldn't work out. Many girls my age already act way too mature and to me, it gets annoying quite easily since they'll never understand my humor. I guess the youngest girl I'll date is 2-3 years younger than me for now.

 

I think that a 21 year old dating a girl in say high school or middle school is appauling, even if they're not doing anything sexually. It seems morally wrong, but what can I do about it?

 

If someone is dating in high school, I think there should be no more than a 3 year age difference either way (women or men being older). But I think that if it's a 21 and a 30 year old its ok.


This will probably be edited later as I'm extremely tired right now..

 

I don't really care about age differences with other people, as long as its not a huge difference.

But for me... I wouldn't go out with a guy younger with me. It just seems really weird to me. People say it's probably because I'm pretty mature for my age (when I want to be). I would only go out with a guy 1 to 3 years older then me at the moment.

 

I agree, the age gap does get wider as people get older. About not seeing relationships where the girl is older than the guy, it is uncommon, but I'm older than my boyfriend. True, it's only by a few months, he's a junior, I'm one of the youngest seniors in the school, I don't see any problems. Whatever I guess.