Help..

A couple months ago, a friend of mine told me that she had sex with her boyfriend, twice, without ever telling me that she had a boyfriend in the first place. And then she goes and tells me that she doesn't want to be my friend anymore because I'm atheist. She's a super-christian. (or so she says..) My point being, I don't think in fairness that she should go and have sex if she's such the Christian she says she is, and then tell me that she doesn't want to be my friend because I'm an atheist. A couple of weeks later, she came online and told me that she was sorry for what she said and wanted to be my friend again. That is..after everyone else pushed her out of their lives because of what she did and said to me, because most of them are atheists as well, or Jewish. But I just can't accept that..after how much she tore me down she wants ot be my friend again? I can't tell if she just wants to be my friend again because she doesn't have any left..or she's being serious. Another issue I had with that, is that after everyone kind of dropped her, she shifted groups quite fast, and then when she tried to appologize, she dropped them. It seemed really hypocritical of her to do, and its when she does things like that that make me believe she's not even worth being my friend at all. I'm sorry if this is all confusing..I just have a very difficult decision to make..and I don't know how to handle it.

But now something else has happened. She recently came to another friend of mine and has confined thoughts of killing herself. She's come to me and told me she cuts herself and is planning on killing herself any given day. And also, not only has she had sex with her boyfriend 2 times, but she's infatuated with atleast 5 other guys at our scshool. I just feel like everything she tries to do for herself is only digging her deeper and deeper, and she thinks she's helping herself, but she isn't. I feel so low though.. because I've benifited from this situation, honestly, I think I have, which is sick, but true. I found out who I could really trust, and I found out who was real and who was fake, then i live with that, I also think this whole thing drew everyone else closer together. I think that what she did was so awful and I can never trust her anymore..but I'd be lying if I said I didn't have any benefits from this. I can't figure out whether or not I should tell someone about her problems, because I don't feel its my place. I feel like an ass not doing anything, but I also feel like "what have I got to lose?" Why do I want to be friends with this girl when she's caused me and every one of my friends nothing but pain and drama? Maybe its my human nature to want to help someone. But I feel like this is something she has to work out on her own. I went through a suicidal phase, believe it or not, but I came out of it and said "screw you, world! I'm better than you!" I just wish she was able to do the same thing.

:'(

 

It doesn't sound like she's in a very stable situation right now. Maybe thats a big reason as to why she keeps pushing you and others away. It doesn't sound like she's in a state of mind that would lead her to make good decisions. I wouldn't be. It sounds like she needs your support. And if you don't think you can forgive her, then atleast talk to your counselor or teacher or someone who might be able to help her.

 

It looks like she needs help and she also needs you there by her side.You really should give her support before she does something stupid.

 

You should probably set up a mediation or talk to counselors about it. I perfectly understand what you mean about which friends you can trust and which ones you can't. Don't be ashamed of it.

 

Yeah, I'd definately suggest telling a counselor or a parent about that. Maybe not her parents, but an adult she trusts. She's probably pushing you away because she really needs you, no matter how ass backwards that sounds. Just try to help her as much as you can without hurting yourself. Even if she has been a superbitch to you and your friends, it takes the bigger man to take the high road and help someone else in need out.

 

To me this sounds like a destructive friendship, i think you would both be better of just going your seperate ways now. But no matter what you do, if you stay friends or not, you should still talk to her, tell her she needs help, and if she dont listen you should tell someone else, someone you can trust and see if they have any advice.

 

yeah. i think you deffinetly need to talk to her. and even you arent close friends, or she is trying to ignore you. you need to let her know the you are there for her. just let her talk...vent her rage to you. and try to give her advice. and if none of that works, they you should probably talk to some adults about it.

 

Try talking to her and try to figure out why she wants to kill herself. Also remind her that people will miss her, like her parents and other friends. When you find out why she wants to suicide, find a solution to it. Ask her if what she's putting herself through is reasonable or not.

She really needs someone to talk to, and fast.