ok so Im a little confused as to how I feel about this one girl , I mean I care about her alot ( Ive not felt this way about anyone ) however I know for a fact that she likes me but not the same way that I like her, I mean we always hang out together, I took her to 3 concerts (linkin park, evenecence and counting crows whom she had always wanted to see) most of my mates say that she is using me , I somehow dont want to beleave that she is, she doesnt seem to at all call me ( im always the one calling her. my main problem is even though I like this girl very much I cant picture us involved romanticly in any form. also she has a friend whom is much hotter than her that I seem to be getting on with but she isnt the one I want, I mean the girl I really like has been cheated on 2 twice , and it really hurts me that I just cant be the one that can be with her cause I know I wont cheat, but like I said before I cant picture myself been with her at all
If you can't picture yourself with her, either you've got self esteem lower then mine, or it's not going to work. Perhaps your love for her is more like a sibling than as a partner. I suggest you stay friends, don't make any moves, and just let love take its course, if it does... Good Luck Omar
thanks for the advice bro B) , I really do care however it kills me inside when I her my other friends and guys say derogertory stuff about her ( like she has a really fine A**) and when I confront then they just laugh it off cause they know Im not ganna do anything, I mean she tell me that we are good friends but not once has she called me , asked how I am , last week she walked straight passed me at work without greeting me, then I did the same to her yesterday, and she asked me how come im ignoring her, also there is this one guy that she really likes (one of my mates) and he is well known for his womanizing at work , even she knows it, the thing is I know that he cant be trusted, and if they do end up together I know its a matter of time before she gets hurt again and comes crying back to me, when she needs someone.
Welcome to my world...except in my case, she's moving to New Brunswick...I guess that part's taking care of itself. Damn. Anyways, since she's such a good friend to me, I'm paying the full grand to fly her in next year for her birthday...should be fun...hehe :chemist:
If you really feel like making a move, decide which one who really want. I would go for the one who think we really last over which one is hotter and will make you last longer (if you know what I mean ) If you can figure that part out, tell her exactly how you feel, in such a way that if she refuses, you can still salvage your friendship. Good Luck, Omar
Ok..well, I'm a chick...and I have an opinion... She obviuosly treats you like a friend and vice versa. If you can really trust this girl, then why not tell her you like her? If she backfires, well, she was never a real friend in the first place and she is using you. I have a friend who likes me and I know it, but I just treat him like a friend and that way, our relationship will never get ####ed up. I'm here to help you. Oh, and by the way, hotter is not always better.
i suck at like advice. but still. i can only say good luck and we're keeping our fingers crossed. maybe you should try to make a move if you really love her... i mean we only have one life. if you'd have to feel like you missed out on so much without her, go for it... and dont listen to sad losers like me giving you advice because they havnt got a life themselves.
Does it really matter who looks better?? I think what matters more is the person you have feelings for, because when you like someone for their looks, it ends up being a fling. Then it's over, and you have nothing. You need to carefully consider these choices... My advice is to talk to her, tell her what you told us (minus the thing about the other girl) and see how she feels. I know it's alot easier for me to say it, but it seems like that would set things straight. Because if she is using you... you don't want to have stuck around for too long waiting for something to happen. Whatever you do, the choices are yours. You do what you think is best because you know the situation better than I do.
Hey guys thank you all so much for the advice , I basically told her last nite that I needed to be alone for some time to clear my head, she didnt seem to get the hint that it was about her (well as I could see) anyway, earlier today her friend (the hot one) called me up today and asked if I wanted to go out this weekend, which I had to decline , It just seems odd that I turned down hot chick (that does show interest in me ) for someone im very fond of that doesnt seem to actually know whats going on in my head at the moment. I mean I would like something more than a fling , then again I dont , as I know that these things dont last forever.
Well all u guys have been great, I did however found out that she sort of knows that I am fond of her. I got that info from her friend last nite, I told her that its really hard for me , cause there is one part of me that wants to be with her, and another that cant cause I know it wont last. anyway thanks to all that have helped me u guys rock
Go with me on this one, looks shouldn't be your number one priority. If there's nothing behind that pretty face, a relationship doesn't get any deeper than it. Letting this girl know how you feel is important. I can tell you from experience you could feel "lighter" from saying so. If you do know for a fact that she is indeed using you, that should be enough. Some guys don't see it, because they're so blind in it all. If she's using you, that's trouble. And she's certainly not worth your time, because you deserve the best. Never lower your standards for anyone. And it's ok to wait around for the right person. Just be patient, love grabs you when you least expect it. Good luck. :hugz:
*cassie being late* a bit on the sloooow side cassie. [/b][/quote] *gawks* Katie... me... s-l-o-w? Only on my off days. I only wanted to give my opinion and presto!
*gawks* Katie... me... s-l-o-w? Only on my off days. I only wanted to give my opinion and presto! [/b][/quote] hahah