Well, I had to do an essay on this. I don't think that one gender is shortchanged more than the other, but both sides are definately shortchanged in their own ways. I couldn't choose which gender (we had to choos one or the other ) , so I chose girls. Here's my essay, it was more of a speech so it isn't too weel written. It's very short also; Our speeches weren't alloud to be long.. What do you think, who is shortchaged? I say it is equal in different respects.
Ok. I think girls are shortchanged more. You mostly see guys treating girls unfairly. But there are still cases the other way around.
they are both affected, but, look at what we had to go through to get women's rights. we went through a rough time
Well I think that if the situation was that dramatic, girls would change it. I mean we are comfortable with the current situation because if not we'd already be trying to change it. In a way, I find that we are a bit bitches because people make all a fuss about how girl's self-esteem drops because of the media and blablabla but I think we tend to forget about the boys. When feminism began, there was the question of girls continuing to study and government of almost every developped Country made the programs change so girls could be able to study longer. Now, how can boys perform in an educational system made for girls? Just look at the statistics; the number of boys who drop school is bigger than ever! And it's been proved that boys and girls don't think the same way; to resolve a problem, girls will choose a way and boys will choose another. So, all this to say that I think we talked enough about girls and the way medias show them the way they should be. Not that it's not important, it's just that without completely ignoring it,we should begin to worry a bit more about our boys and their self-esttem and their 'relation' with school.
This is extremely true. The rate of drop-outs for guys is 3 times bigger than girls. Also.. THE SUICIDE RATE IS 5X GREATER!
This is extremely true. The rate of drop-outs for guys is 3 times bigger than girls. Also.. THE SUICIDE RATE IS 5X GREATER! [/b][/quote] You mean the guys' are 5X greater? Wow I never would have expected that.
Girls are shortchanged because they can't have penises while guys themselves could have boobs. :\ Sometimes I wish I had a male genital. (I would of been a very happy little boy) But guys do get the double-standard at times. (I.E. Lesbians are seen as "hot" while gay guys are more likely to get beaten and killed) So... yeah... I feel sorry for both.
Anyway yeah I agree with that (being a bi guy myself). I can never tell my guy friends that I'm bi but my female friends don't care and support me. Plus guys with a lot of partners are "pimps" but girls with a lot of partners are "sluts/whores". I think that's totally messed up because I don't think that way.
Nice analysis, even though the "you wish you had a male genital" part was quite disturbing. [/b][/quote] I meant that I'm a lesbian and so a lot of girls kind of look down on me but not the the extent that a guy would look down on another homosexual guy. I'm just saying that me being a guy would've made my life much easier.
That's a nice way of explaining it. [/b][/quote] You edited your post. I wonder what you put first...
You edited your post. I wonder what you put first... [/b][/quote] 'can I have a d*ck AND boobs so that way I don't have to be short changed either way?' <-- my first post. Just. Kidding. Actually, I just forgot to put the emoticon in my post, so I edited it.
Holy long post, Batman! Open your mind! I think the main reason girls are underlined are because of the media. In the eyes of a teenager, and by what you state in your information, it proves right. Not to bring down on rap, but rap is sort of the reason, too. The way I've viewed high school life so far is that the majority of males believe the females are there for only a few things, and sex being one of the major ones. I doubt this would be an issue if teens or people in general weren't expose to such material to begin with. The other major problem our media does to both sexes is another issue that DOES in fact drop many people's self esteem. The media says you must have 'bling,' and hundreds upon thousands of dollars to live. MTV portrays this the most. They give off the idea you need drama (i.e. The Real World/Road Rules) and you need bling (rap videos) to be anything of cool and they drive the underdogs/underlings into the ground as pathetic. Those of us who are in fact underdogs in our schools makes us feel like we really don't mean anything. I don't think the fact that men treat women differently is the self-estreem dropper, but more of the fact what we see is what we believe. As for the statistics, I have to disagree, well, from what I see in my school. At least ten girls in my grade dropped out this year. Why? They got pregnant. Suicide rates, I'm not sure of. There has only been one suicide this school year, and that was a boy. The fact women are treated with less respect from majoriy (mind you I am not one of those), is all because of what media tells us. It's like the game of "telephone" or "pass it on" where you say one thing, but as time progresses, the statement changes. Some add to it, some leave parts out. Women make great come backs for being underlings, but to label men, only, is not really the best way to put it. When you turn on your TV, it's likely you're going to see videos or movies or shows with women being portrayed as 'easy' or 'sex objects' and this feeds into teenagers to have them believe that talking to a girl will get you in her pants. And this is what brings women's images down. If you even view it as that men do give women the wrong impressions, what are singers like that female who sings that Milkshake song saying? From what I hear from fans of her, it's her breast milk. So now that these men hear this, they're going to go out and believe it. And as girls, without will power to fight back usually give in. Thus the girls like in my school end up having to drop out because they get pregnant. Maybe Hawaii is different from the rest of the world, but here, really, the females in my school don't care about themselves. You should see. A freshman girl can come in wearing a t-shirt and jeans, and a few weeks or months later, she's wearing a spaghetti strap and short, short shorts. When you ask them why they do it, they want to look 'hot.' This is fine, but then they're suckered into doing things they don't want to do. I know this for a fact. I've seen it happen, and there have been times where I could do nothing to help them because no one would believe me, because parents aren't really aware of these influences and what they do to their children. Maybe you don't see it, but the media is very influential. Even if you deny it, it affects how you dress, how you talk or how you act. It also affects how you think sometimes. It might not be a drastic change, but it does eventually become part of you. Now days women are treated much better than how they were back then, and even as they are respected, just like any other person on this planet, you will have those who will disrespect you. And like I said, I guess it's just Hawaii, because someone like me, a guy, is 'shortchanged' more than almost any other female in my school, so there is a lot to be decided. What I am disappointed in with girls these days are that they say that they want to be treated with respect, but then they are willing to smoke weed or get drunk and wasted so much, they get into bad situations. I'm not sticking up for any gender. I actually just hate the way our society works these days, but as women claim more rights, a large portion do nothing to improve. Look how many women are in bikinis in rap videos. I see tons of prostitutes downtown, and I've seen people I knew for how many years screw their life up by giving in. I in my opinion blame the media and public exposure of people. People who encourage the fact you need to be a certain way do not help any one but themselves. They'll tell you you need great abs, or you need muscles to be the greatest. A major part of self-esteem drops is not becase we choose to say what we don't mean. It's because people always say that we need to be a certain way. What if your parents were the media and they pressured you to say "You need to be skinny, if not, you're better off dead!" What are you going to do? Die or lose a lot that might kill you anyways? We can't blame the opposite sex for what happens to us or others, I mean, yeah, if you get abused, raped or something, there's someone to blame, but who feeds them that influence? None other than Mr./Ms. Media. Deny what you will, but who's the one who tells you that wearing something will make people think you look stupid or look good? That's the media. People are afraid of change, and they will follow something. Even the 'rebels' follow the 'rebelious media' leader, who ever that may be. Everyone is following something, there is no doubt about that. Even being naked would be following a nudist trend, and trends are made from the media. So in my opinion, why point the blame for everything we do wrong? Why not fix it for the better? How long have these questions been asked and how many women of the millions on this world actually did something about it? How about the men? We only know so much, but we all can make differences, but again, the media says if you're not on TV for it, it's not worth it. This is just but a bit, I guess, of what I think. I could go on about how much the world is in it's own denial, but this is long enough and I know a lot of you don't like to read, but eh, this is my view; partly. The main point I want to make is that it's not the opposite sex that is downing any self-esteem or any negative issues. It's those who influence us that make us feel this way that are to blame. It's like a chain reaction.
Sure sure, anya. *notices a editted by line* what you put first this time? [/b][/quote] Just typos! STALKER! God haha everyone loves to point out every single mistake of mine huh?
Just typos! STALKER! God haha everyone loves to point out every single mistake of mine huh? [/b][/quote] sure sure.... anyways...to get back on topic: i think girls are shorted (or whatever you were saying)... for example in basketball (guys+girls) the guys only pass among themselves but never to the girls.