Got Something You Want To Let Out Part 2

I reiterate, it's a small example.

 

With or without that example you get my rant.

 

You had a job and quit it for your child? That's some really stupid logic. If you're in any kind of dept and have a kid on the way (even if you don't have a kid) get off your ass and get yourself out of debt instead off getting money from family and government, especially for a little amount of $500. My sister is 8 months pregnant and she hasn't stopped working. She's toughing it out because she knows what's coming. I thought we only had these type of people in America, but I guess not.

And Derek, $400-$500 rent for an apartment? man, you're being too nice. Around here, I've never seen anything lower than $900.

 

As a parent, I can tell you Sarah, that unless you plan on breastfeeding, the formula alone to feed your baby is going to take close to every cent you have every single month if all you have is 400.00.

I have been in your shoes, and its difficult, and we live on just under 3000.00 a month, with a mortgage that takes 1000.00 of it and health insurance that takes 500.00. So we live on 1500.00 a month for all our food, utilities, and what ever other little things come our way, and we are a family of 4. Want to guess what I have left the night before payday? Nothing. If things are really tight, and we have an unexpected bill or whatever, I have to borrow money from my mom. She supports the fact that I chose to stay home with my children until they started school, so she doesn't have a problem helping us if we need it. I am extremely lucky in that regard, that she is well off enough to be in a position to help me out if I need it.

Don't bite the heads off of the people that are trying to give you sound advice, just because they haven't "lived in your shoes." They all have valid points from what I have seen.

You need to rethink the viewpoint you have taken on this, and not settle for the "Oh someone else did it, so I can too" mentality.

 

Sarah, no one's trying to discourage you from having this baby, but you do have to realize that you're going to need a HELL of a lot more money than you're going to have. With 200 dollars every two weeks, that amounts to 5200 dollars at the end of a year. Your baby will have been born before a year is up.

You're going to need at least 7000 dollars, just for when the baby's born.

No offense, but if you're going to rely on the government and everyone else to provide for your baby, you're going to be looked at as nothing more than a burden, and people are going to start to dislike you really really quickly. I've seen it happen.

Why did you quit your job, anyway? Unless it was advised by your doctor, you could've kept working, and had that much more help with this.

Also, just keep in mind that because we aren't in your shoes, we might have a more objective point of view. Not trying to be rude, just stating a fact.

 

They fired me because I was pregnant and couldn't carry out the tasks anymore. I can't get re-hired anywhere because no one wants to take on a pregnant woman and then give me maternity leave and that's by law now that it's compulsory. Now is that stupid logic? I don't know the market over there but I can tell you now I can get a place way cheaper than that over here.

You have no idea how far that mentality has gotten me throughout me life so I find no reason to stop now. And yes I do intend to breastfeed not for financial purposes but for the baby's health purpose.

Calling me careless is taking it to another extreme and I felt rather offended. I know how much it costs to raise a kid, my mother and sister remind me every time I see them. I don't care if people think I'm a dropkick it's routine government procedure. I think it's about $5000 in baby bonus money (government pays us to breed basically) and then a pension afterwards until I can get back into the workforce in which I do intend, whether it's here in Bathurst or in Sydney. As again, am trying to be civil with the father.

I just thought to myself it's a bit late if you are discouraging me

 

Sarah takes things too personal

 

Sarah, no offense, but whether or not you like the way things have been worded, the people on here have raised good points. You simply cannot raise a baby on the amount of money you're talking about. And please remember I live in Australia too, so I know the cost of living and such.

 

You should have said that the first time, because you initially said you quit.

 

I'm sorry but where did I say that it was going to be easy or did I just imply it?

Look bottom line is that I've made my decision and it's beyond turning back point now. I consider myself rather lucky compared to other cases I've heard of. I have a roof over my head at the moment, I have some money to live on, I have the loving support of my family, and right now I'm doing the best to try to meet ends before the baby's born. I'm already getting the baby's stuff sorted out, bordering 4 months now, in fact, I've only to get the basics which I've been advised leave it to third trimester.

end of conversation

 

I'm pretty sure it's illegal to not hire someone just because they're pregnant.

No one called you careless, that I can recall.

And all we're saying is that you're going to need a shitload more money than you're going to have, and that's right off the bat.

 

For future reference people, please do not post anything you're not willing to discuss on a discussion forum. While this thread exists to allow people to vent, by doing so you also volunteer others to chime in with their own opinions like any other thread on LPA. You can deny answering any questions you feel are too personal and/or request people respect your privacy, but please do not get upset/hostile with the community if response is not what you had in mind.

Thanks.

 

GCSE results in the next few hours. Really nervous.

 

QFT.

 

Please let this not be something really serious. Can't afford a doctor's visit.

 

What is it?

 

RAF? Police? Teaching?

those are my three main career paths right now

 

So he finally called me. Probably because I left him a bitch message last night because I was annoyed that he had yet to call me, after a week.
But yeah, last Tuesday he was supposed to come over, but he couldn't get out of work. He happened to call me when I was going into my massage appointment, so I didn't have time to talk, so I was quite short with him, plus a little upset. Then on Thursday he told me to just go to NH because he doubted whether or not he could get off of work, and I responded with "Yeah wow that's awesome." I sounded angry, but I was just upset- I cried. But yeah, he just thought I was super angry and he's one of those people that will not talk to you when you're mad. Thing is, as time went on, when he thought I was cooling off from being angry, I went from teary and sad to pissed off to whatever-fuck-you. Kinda seems like he doesn't know me sometimes, but whatever. That method doesn't work for me- just annoys me more.

But it's all good. And he applied for a new job- it would be lovely if he wasn't a pizza boy anymore.