Got Something You Want To Let Out Part 2

Dude, What Bleed-it-Out said!

This will be a great way to start talking again! It's gonna be exciting! And if she really appreciates you it'll go great!

 

Hmmm, thanks guys.

i think I'll ask her, if I can work up the guts to do it

 

Good stuff man! Good Luck with it!! Happy for you

 

She's such a fucking bitch. I can't fucking stand the thought of her anymore.

She claims she's "always busy." How the fuck can someone's business cause them to forget to do something so menial as bring a shirt to school to give it to you WHEN IT'S YOURS TO BEGIN WITH?

God fucking damn it. It made me so mad when she said she could've just "thrown it away." Fuck you, cunt.

I hope all works out for you, Casey. You're a good guy.

 

Avoiding the 'Friends Zone'

Okay, I met this girl in my first year of university. At the time she had a boyfriend and I had a girlfriend as well, and I was never particularly interesting in her. We talked a bit, but that was it. So fast forward about a year, and we hadn't talked for a while. She lost her original MSN and Facebook, we had lost any means to stay in touch over the summer. We met randomly on our way to class a couple days ago. She said she'd re-add me to her MSN and Facebook. We then planned on going out to get a coffee together and catch up. I originally said we could go to Tim Hortons but she wanted to go to Coffee Time as it was "nicer". We were originally going to meet at 1, but she asked to postpone it to nearer five at around 12:30 the day of our meeting. I said sure, and wasn't too concerned (I wasn't really even interested in her yet).

So we meet and it turns out that morning she found out that her boyfriend left her for one of her best friends. She already knew they broke up, but didn't know it was for her friend. He had already cheated on her once but they got together. She told me how she had broken up with her boyfriend *for good* this time. We take a bit of a detour for a walk there and she had laughed and shown me how these pillars in the ground lined up with the CN Tower (we live in Toronto).

We had coffee (I only order water as I don't drink caffeine) and she asked if I wanted to go for more of a walk after. I said sure. We walked by a church and she noted it was right beside a sanitarium with bars on the windows and everything (she's knows I'm a strong atheist and antitheist so she really won me over doing that ). We walked around more and she wanted me to show her where I lived (not actually show her inside it, just where it was located). She then said she was going to go back to her residence and eat. I said I'd walk her back to her building (even though we were standing right outside mine) and she thanked me.

Walking home she said the leaves on the tree were so pretty and said she wanted one (she tried to reach one but was too short). For some reason it never occurred to me to reach one <i>for</i> her, and we just kept walking. I feel dumb on that now. When we get to her residence she said she's going to eat in the dining hall. I ask her if I could join her but she says she just wants to be alone for a bit (and assures me it isn't me or anything). We had been talking about movies earlier and she tells me how I have to see the original Star Wars movies (as I told her I'd only seen Episode 1). She invites me to see them with her next weekend, and I say sure. She hesitates for a moment before walking inside. I felt she might have wanted a hug, but it could just be general parting awkwardness. Either way I didn't take action.

I've tried talking to her a few times on MSN after but she has been quite non receptive, but she does have two midterms next week and is in a bad emotional spot so it is possible that she isn't just not interested in me.

So next week we are supposed to see the first (fourth?) Star Wars together. So I am looking for advice to not get myself into the friends zone here. I don't want to really come onto her or anything, as it would seem like I was just taking advantage of her after her boyfriend cheated on her. I want to show her I really care about her so she feels safe and that I won't betray her like he did (but don't want to be too much of a 'nice guy' or I might get friend zone'd). Also, I am not sure if I should keep trying to talk to her on MSN or if it will just make me look needy and I should wait until she messages me or just until we see each other in person again.
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Well I'd say go for it. Try right away, tell her you like her. The more you wait the more she'll be getting used to being just friends with you. And if she starts to look you like a friend and you fall in love with her it will hurt you much more than if she says no right away.
Just my two cents anyway

 

Well, you might want to show her that you like her, alot. But I would wait, she just broke up so she needs some space right now. Just be there for her, but keep giving her signs that you like her more than just friends.

 

make sure she knows you do not give a damn if she just broke up with her boyfriend.

 

Yeah that won't make you seem like a horny bastard.

 

I'm in more or less a similar situation, except the girl I like has a boyfriend. It's really hard to hear her talking about him all the time when I think she knows I like her.

All I can say is to play it cool and drop subtle hints that you like her, but don't come right out and say "OMG I WANNA BANG U RITE NOW" because that just won't fly. Just play it cool.

 

paradoxotaur.

confiding in her as a friend would, "oh i'm so sorry you broke up," will totally make him out to be a simp, dude.

tell me the first thing you thought when you found out they broke up wasn't "yes! finally!"
if it was, be honest with her.

 

I'm not a 'dude'.

Well if I was the girl and I just broke up and someone else starts hitting on me I'd only be disgusted from his lack of respect for my feelings.

 

go for it man, just play it cool though, you dont want it to look like your driving right in there. just see what happens

 

On the way to my great aunt's funeral some drunk-driving twat hit one of the cars and turned it 270 degrees, almost killing my other paternal great aunt and her husband. Fucking atrocious.

 

Sorry to hear about that.

 

Ahh, man, that's terrible. Hope they're ok.

 

That's horrible man. I hope everyone is alright.

 

That sucks man...best of luck.

 

Yeah. I don't think I'd ever be able to do that to a girl. I'd never want her to think the only reason I was talking to her was because she broke up with her boyfriend. Even if it was, I wouldn't tell her. I'd feel horrible, like I was just playing with her emotions.

 

First, that was not the first thing. If you read my post, I didn't like her until after she told me and we met up, so when I found out I wasn't interested in her.

Second, I don't just want to bang her, I am against casual sex.

Third, I have enough respect for her feelings not to do that. She already got betrayed by her boyfriend and close friend, she isn't looking for someone to come across as a heartless horny jerk.