Got Something You Want To Let Out Part 2

Thanks. I'll tell you on msn.

 

My final school exams ever start on Monday.

*Streeeeeessss*

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to Marj-dear.

 

Relationship troubles

Okay, this is a somewhat lengthy story

My boyfriend's ex dumped him and now she really regrets it. They are on very good terms with one another, like really good friends. They have admitted that they still have some feelings for one another (her feelings for him are much stronger). I can understand that, there's always some feeling that you have towards people that you've been very emotionally close to in the past (unless it ended really badly). I also have 100% confidence in my boyfriend, I know that nothing is really going to happen between them. What I am not comfortable with is the way that they talk to each other. She's living in America at the moment though so their conversations are usually on MSN. They both use the L word very often with one another. Here is an excerpt:

Boyfriend: I love you.

her: i love you too, (his name)! =D

Boyfriend: Your (his name) loves you moar =D

her: i needs my (his name) ._.

her: <3 i love (his name), i love (his name) he makes me a happy (her name). <3

Boyfriend: <3 I love my (her name) <3

her: <3 i love my (his name) moooore :]] <3

Boyfriend: nah you don't <3

her: ahh, yeah i do =D



That was their comments to each other on Myspace. The L word comes up sometimes numerous times in a day whether it's on MSN, Myspace, Facebook, SMS messages. About a month ago he sent her an SMS saying "I love you with every bone in my body". MAN that made me uncomfortable I'm afraid if this L word talk continues as it is now that the feelings that they have for one another may develop. I know that if I was in my boyfriend's shoes I would feel rather weird about having feelings for my ex like that (even a little guilty) and would try to block those feelings out because my significant other is more important (I hope). I've talked to him about how I feel about the whole situation. He spoke to her about it and she said that she understands where I'm coming from with this but is also a little bit annoyed that I've been paranoid for quite some time now. They both agreed that cutting back on the L word is unnecessary. I think there's a slight lack of respect for my feelings here.

I would love to hear comments about this, whether I'm a dick for complaining, whether I ought to be Any comments would be very appreciated.

 

hmm...you have every right to be worried i mean i'd be just as worried if something like this happened, if its really making you uncomfortable you should talk to your boyfriend about it

 

I think you have every right to complain about that. I would be so pissed if I were you, seriously. I mean, I understand he may have feelings still for his ex but you don't say you love them when you're dating someone already.

It's just plain wrong really.

 

To ask her to the formal, or not to... That, is the question...

 

Thanks guys. The thing with the L word is that it's thrown around loosely with the people that I know. He tells a lot of his friends that he loves them regularly. But it's the frequency of the L word and other intimate comments that he says to her that bothers me. I was going to speak to him about it tonight but he went home

 

I don't think I'd be able to handle the situation you're in.

I think you definitely need to sit down and have a talk with him. Try not to make it seem like you're mad, because it doesn't seem as though you are anyway, and just let him know how uncomfortable it makes you.

 

100% agreed.

This is just my opinion, but I think it's never good to start a new relationship if you still have feelings for your ex. When you start a new relationship you need to be 'blank', because that is the only way to grow and truly love someone. Corny, I know.

 

And you'll do fiiiine, just keep on studying.

 

I probably could have stopped some bike thieves today but I didn't, probably for the sake of being able to make some smart remark. Now I almost know how Spider-Man felt... seriously though, I do feel bad about it the more I think.

 

I hate bike thieves. My bike was stolen when i was younger and it was my only means of transport cant stand those fuckwits.

 

I know if my wife was talking to an ex with the L word i would definetely feel disrespected. I dont like where your story is heading and i feel you need to offer your boyfriend an ultermatem like hes going to lose someone good like yourself if this sort of thing keeps happening.

 

I got arrested around midnight on the 30th. After it was all said and done, I was charged with marijuana possession (there was 15.50 grams in total in my car when it was searched and seized), a DUI (for marijuana), Sch. IV drugs (Flexeril, a muscle relaxer) and paraphernalia (a broken bong bowl, a grinder, papers and blunt shells).

I go to see my lawyer, "Snortin" Norton, on Monday. He's the best drug related lawyer in the county. I could be looking at 1 year probation and my license suspended for a year/6 months, unless my DUI is thrown out because I consented to a blood test. My bail was $3500, but I posted $390 bail thanks to a bondsman.

So, let's recap... lost my car, lost my license, might lose my job, the sheriff wants me to help find drug dealers, and I have to pay back all the money my parents are spending on my case (which, when it's all over, will probably be around $6000). Oh, and apparently this whole ordeal has drained my parents savings account.

Fuck drugs.

 

Ah shit dude. That shit is the reason why I quit, I didn't want to get that shit on me.

Well, hugs and kisses to you, and hopefully everything works out the best for you :]

 

Whoa! You guys are having a formal now? Mine happens in year 12, 2 years from now.

Far out that's a tough one! Depends on what you're gonna be doing. You guys gonna be having dinner?

 

Yea we have a year 10 and a year 12 one. Kinda dumb I know.

Yea, it's like a formal dinner-dance kinda thing.
I'm pretty sure she'd say yes, but it might turn out pretty shit. We don't talk all that much these days.

 

Ask her!!!!

 

Thanks people. I have spoken to him since then in a calm manner, even though sometimes it does make me quite angry. The feelings that he has for her are stronger than I thought they were As you said Pooky, for him to love me as much as I love him he needs to let go of his feelings for her. He says that he's trying to now, although ideally I would have preferred him to have wanted to let go of those feelings by himself I've told him that he ought to speak to her about it and that I'll be there if he needs me. He'd prefer to speak to her on his own though.

Since they spoke to each other the first time I asked them to about cutting back on the L word, she's still showing a lack of respect for my feelings I think. Saying that it's ridiculous that she has to cut back, and she says "I like you" instead of "I love you" to my boyfriend. I think she has the attitude 'What he doesn't know won't hurt him' which I don't like.

 

I just don't wanna wreck the night for both of us... We just can't seem to keep a real conversation going much these days.

I probably should ask her though...