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    Married or not, please read this and share.

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    **Married or not you should read this...

    ďWhen I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, Iíve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

    Suddenly I didnít know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didnít seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

    I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didnít talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didnít love her anymore. I just pitied her!

    With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

    The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didnít have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

    In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didnít want anything from me, but needed a monthís notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a monthís time and she didnít want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

    This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the monthís duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

    I told Jane about my wifeís divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

    My wife and I hadnít had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; donít tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

    On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadnít looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

    On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didnít tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

    She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

    Suddenly it hit meÖ she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

    Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, itís time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

    But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadnít noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to officeÖ. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mindÖI walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

    She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I wonít divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didnít value the details of our lives, not because we didnít love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, Iíll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

    That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.ó At least, in the eyes of our sonó- Iím a loving husbandÖ.

    The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

    So find time to be your spouseís friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

    If you donít share this, nothing will happen to you.

    If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of lifeís failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up..


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    Forward this to 20 friends or the ghost of loves lost will come and haunt you.

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    This may be considered as spam. Ask an admin.


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    Moving this to Random Chat.

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    Yea I read the first sentence and got bored.

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    tl;dr

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    My parents' divorce was the best thing that has ever happened to me.

    On a unrelated note, people still do chain mail? ._.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Vriska View Post
    My parents' divorce was the best thing that has ever happened to me.

    On a unrelated note, people still do chain mail? ._.
    Unfortunately, Yes.

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    I'm not gonna read the wall of words. Nothing personal, just not my thing...


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    Quote Originally Posted by cradle View Post
    Yea I read the first sentence and got bored.
    i don't blame you

    but it's good that you posted this for people who are interested (i don't count as people)
    ALL FOR NOTHING -

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    I'm a five star general infantry controller, need a lesson, let me show you.

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    What the hell? How is this considered spam or chainmail? Did I say something will happen to you if you dont send this to 10 people?

    This is a fb friend's true story, please define your version of spam before you accuse me of spamming.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZoeLinkingal View Post
    What the hell? How is this considered spam or chainmail? Did I say something will happen to you if you dont send this to 10 people?

    This is a fb friend's true story, please define your version of spam before you accuse me of spamming.
    Here is the part indicating chain mail, in addition that you just now admitted that the story is your friend's (or friend's friends? ) and not yours:
    If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

    If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up..
    Found on Facebook:

    **Married or not you should read this...
    Last edited by Vriska; 05-11-2012 at 03:55 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by + / Ė View Post
    Forward this to 20 friends or the ghost of loves lost will come and haunt you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vriska View Post
    Here is the part indicating chain mail, in addition that you just now admitted that the story is your friend's (or friend's friends? ) and not yours:
    Of course it isn't mine because I'm not married yet.

    It is only considered a chain mail if I asked each recipient to send copies with the same request to a number of people with the threat of something happening to them if they don't!

    I don't understand what is the negativity against this thread. It is just sharing an experience my friend has. it is like sharing a past fault so that others may know and not make the same mistake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vriska View Post
    My parents' divorce was the best thing that has ever happened to me.
    Yeah. I know quite a few people who would have had a much rougher childhood if their parents stayed together. Staying together for the sake of the kid or any other bullshit like that is just wrong. How would you feel as a kid going, "My parents hate each other and forced themselves to live in the same house because of me?" I know I'd much rather live in an environment where everyone is happy than a forced one. I've seen what that does to people.

    "Oh and by the way, she had cancer the whole time." I'm sorry, but I'm finding it hard to believe that in the whole month leading to this guy's wife's death that NOBODY seemed to know that she had cancer. It doesn't work like that. What did she do, tell all her friends "Don't tell my husband I have cancer. I have to get him to love me again. Luckily he hasn't looked at the medical bills for the chemo I've been going through for the past year!" Either that or she found out about her condition and... decided not to treat it?

    Also this guy must be a crappy husband. "My wife has lost so much weight in a month that I can actually NOTICE it on a day-to-day basis. I'm falling back in love with her. Let's NOT discuss her unhealthy weight loss. It's okay to lose that much weight in a month just because of what I assume is stress."

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    I am not the writer but she did pass away and what more can be discussed when she's already not here anymore? What more do you want him/me to say when he regrets it already? I'm sharing this so that others would not take their spouse for granted or neglect them.
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    Each marriage is different. If reading the story of someone else's marriage coming back together is enough to save THEIR marriage, they probably weren't at risk of getting divorced in the first place.

    I'm just saying. I've seen many a broken marriage. A story read online doesn't change the status of a marriage. Counseling does. Clear lines of communication. That's what this couple should have done. Overly pointless romantic gestures swinging on a medical condition that causes DEATH are fairly ineffective compared to actually talking your problems out.

    That and I wouldn't want to take the word of any man who would publicly admit to all of Facebook that he was cheating on his wife with a girl named Jane in a story about staying with his wife. Classy move.

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    He did state only may.

    Most adults are conservative of talking to a family counselor about their issues. Listening an experience from another can spark them into thoughts (hopefully) of course, not everything is 100%.

    It's ok, I get it that you do not think this is a true story but you are not even present here so it's ok.

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    Most adults are conservative about talking to a family counselor about their issues. But they're perfectly fine admitting to all their friends and family on the internet that they were openly cheating on their spouses and considering getting a divorce.

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    In the process of their marriage spiraling into divorce obviously they would not reveal anything outside. The deed is done now, what is there to feel ashamed/hide about? He doesn't want others to be like him, how many out there have used the internet to share their own experience and broadcast a message to help others? Many! Given a choice, most people will rather talk to their friends/relative/online friend than going to a counselor.

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