Cheating In Relationships

[Gloomy Mushroom]

How do you feel about cheaters in relationships? Any experiences and stories welcomed.

[Dean]

I've been cheated on and finding out made me feel fucking terrible

[Messy Marj]

I've been cheated on and finding out made me feel fucking terrible
/thread.

[Derek The Infamous]

I feel if you have trouble being loyal to someone you shouldn't be in a relationship with said person. True relationships are where both people are madly in love with each other, would do anything possible for their lover, and would never dream of hurting them or doing things behind their back. It's a simple concept.

That's why I've never stayed with people who have cheated on me, because I feel...if you're a cheat then you really don't love me that much in the first place.

[travz21]

I've been cheated on a couple times in high school. Neither relationship was serious obviously since it was high school lol, but I'm pretty sure those experiences have kept me from getting into a serious relationship since then. It hurt like hell. I'm also pretty sure those experiences don't make me feel any remorse when I fool around with girls I know are in relationships. Although in the few relationships I've been in since then, I have no problem at all being loyal. Probably just because they were nymphos, though. Who knows. I just need to find the right girl that makes me feel like I want to be with her more than I want to be single and playing the field with no chance of getting hurt.

[Dean]

I feel if you have trouble being loyal to someone you shouldn't be in a relationship with said person. True relationships are where both people are madly in love with each other, would do anything possible for their lover, and would never dream of hurting them or doing things behind their back. It's a simple concept.

That's why I've never stayed with people who have cheated on me, because I feel...if you're a cheat then you really don't love me that much in the first place.
Yeah. If you feel the need to see other people and you aren't in an open relationship or anything like that, nine times out of ten there's probably no reason why you can't just break up with the person you're actually with.

[Ryo Hazuki]

Yeah. If you feel the need to see other people and you aren't in an open relationship or anything like that, nine times out of ten there's probably no reason why you can't just break up with the person you're actually with.

This.

Don't see other people if you're not in an open relationship. A person should break up with the person if they are considering cheating on, because if you think you are going to protect the person from being hurt, cheating on them is going to hurt a lot worse than just breaking it off. I've been through this many times and the best thing to do is to be honest with your partner.

If it's not working, and there's a consideration of cheating on either side, break it off, it's not worth the time.

[Pidgeon]

I think open relationships should be talked about more openly, because I think trying to get people to stick to one person over large amount of time, even a lifetime, is asking way too much of people in my opinion. It goes against our basic instincts. It may not be right for everyone but being monogamous is really hard

[F-ck Casey]

So, what, nobody on this forum has ever been the cheater instead of the one being cheated on? I find that really hard to believe.

[Derek The Infamous]

So, what, nobody on this forum has ever been the cheater instead of the one being cheated on? I find that really hard to believe.
The purpose of the thread is not to find out who has cheated, but what people's thoughts on cheating are.

[travz21]

So, what, nobody on this forum has ever been the cheater instead of the one being cheated on? I find that really hard to believe.

It's more fun to get cheated on obviously.

[ThaHandyman]

I had a 'first love' girlfriend in high school for the better part of two years. I never cheated on her or even watch porn and I know she was faithful to me. But after we broke up a second time and I wouldn't get back with her before college, she got another boyfriend, because she's not very independent. She moved in with him, but he went on business trips a lot. Soo I went to see her and she cheated on him with me and then she started stayin with me when he was away.n She said she never had sex with this dude though, but me and her were. Thing is we weren't just doin stuff and I was in love with her. So they ended up breaking up, then had sex (for the first time according to her) and she never told her ex anything about us, and we started bein on and off again this past summer. Anyway I start hearing stuff and things start adding up, and it turns out she was messing with other dude(s). So she's a whore lolz...

Sorry if that story doesnt make a lot of since, just be venting. I didn't technically get cheated on but I played with fire and got burned.

Anddd never have cheated on anyone, never will. If they cheat on you even once, I suggest dump them.

[Jeff]

I tend to avoid relationships, so I don't really know what it's like to be cheated on or cheat on someone else, not that I would dare cheat on someone.

[Benjamin]

I haven't been in a relationship yet, but it seems obvious to me that if you actually have the urge to cheat on your girlfriend/boyfriend, she/he isn't for you.

[travz21]

I had a 'first love' girlfriend in high school for the better part of two years. I never cheated on her or even watch porn and I know she was faithful to me. But after we broke up a second time and I wouldn't get back with her before college, she got another boyfriend, because she's not very independent. She moved in with him, but he went on business trips a lot. Soo I went to see her and she cheated on him with me and then she started stayin with me when he was away.n She said she never had sex with this dude though, but me and her were. Thing is we weren't just doin stuff and I was in love with her. So they ended up breaking up, then had sex (for the first time according to her) and she never told her ex anything about us, and we started bein on and off again this past summer. Anyway I start hearing stuff and things start adding up, and it turns out she was messing with other dude(s). So she's a whore lolz...

Sorry if that story doesnt make a lot of since, just be venting. I didn't technically get cheated on but I played with fire and got burned.

Anddd never have cheated on anyone, never will. If they cheat on you even once, I suggest dump them.

Lol. That sounds a lot like my first girlfriend and me. Almost the exact same thing. The thing I've learned is that women that are willing to cheat on their boyfriends with you are very possibly doing more than one guy on the side. Plus if you ever start dating you can be damn sure she can cheat on you just like she cheated on her ex. I've been pretty sure I was one of at least two dudes this one chick was doing on the side, but I didn't let it bother me. It's not like I'm hooking up with her because I like her as a person lol.


I haven't been in a relationship yet, but it seems obvious to me that if you actually have the urge to cheat on your girlfriend/boyfriend, she/he isn't for you.

You'd think this is common sense, but most people don't think that way. If you're thinking of cheating on your girlfriend, just break up with her. And if she's too good in bed to break up with, there should be no reason to cheat on her.

[Puresque]

I don't get the sense of this thread. How could anyone say cheating would be a good thing? Don't be in a relationship if you're not interested in being loyal to your partner. Eh.

[Benjamin]

I don't get the sense of this thread. How could anyone say cheating would be a good thing? Don't be in a relationship if you're not interested in being loyal to your partner. Eh.

No one is implying that at all. Not even in the slightest. The op was asking if you've ever been cheated on, not the other way around.

[Puresque]

No one is implying that at all. Not even in the slightest. The op was asking if you've ever been cheated on, not the other way around.

sounded more like "what do you think about cheating? good or bad?" to me.

[Ryo Hazuki]

I felt the same way Anne.

It does seem like a good/bad type question to me because if it was a "Have you ever been cheated on?" thread then, why was that question not asked?

[travz21]

It sounded more like OP wanted input on our experiences so she can better know how to deal with a situation in her life.

[Benjamin]

Lol I messed up the OP actually didn't say that. But still, no one here said cheating was good. And I agree with Trav.

[Puresque]

I know no one said that. That's why I'm asking, because I can't imagine anyone stepping in here to say "Yay, I think cheating is great!" because as I said, the Topic sounded like "You like cheating or not?". If it's about experiences though, everything's fine.

[Pidgeon]

what do you guys think defines cheating cause I have friends who struggle with this. Me and my friends have a very close and "physical". Ya know, we're all very touchy and flirty with each other and when my friends come to me conflicted saying "being flirty and physical is just who I am but my "partner" doesn't like it, what do I do?" I never know what to tell em. Where do your guys' lines stand

[Ryo Hazuki]

It really depends on what type of relationship you have, it could be an entirely monogamous relationship, or an open relationship, or causal, or it could be a "Friends with befits" sort of thing.

In my opinion, it's best to talk about these sort of things before the relationship starts so that all involved know how the other feels. One person may not feel that being flirty is wrong while a partner may disagree then it is best to not get involved with that person.

To define Cheating:

Going against established rules (sometimes unspoken but generally known) that (all) parties in your relationship have agreed upon.

[ernieball003]

Despise the action itself but without it I would not exist.

[Gloomy Mushroom]

It sounded more like OP wanted input on our experiences so she can better know how to deal with a situation in her life.

Bingo.

[iamsatan]

I've only been in 2 relationships, I didn't cheat and don't think I was cheated on, at least I hope not.

I say if you're cheating/going to cheat on your partner just end the relationship ASAP, you're only going to hurt your partner even more the longer you wait. If I ever got cheated on, it would be an instant "fuck you, you're dead to me for life bitch"

[Theazninvasion68]

I've been cheated on and finding out made me feel fucking terrible


/thread.

I second this.

In fact, I wouldn't put it past me If I developed a slight-distrust for people I like. Just a small wall or barrier to protect myself from it ever happening again. Being cheated on sucks and cheating is just wrong. Nobody really wins at it.

[F-ck Casey]

It's ironic that after I posted in this thread, my girlfriend cheated on me with my new roommate, and now they're "dating", or something. They're in his room, right now, naked. I know this because as a bro, I still have to offer a bong rip, because, I mean, everyone needs it. But it was weird. At least she had the stoner bitch etiquette of asking if it was okay if she took a rip too.

Oh well. Shit happens, and you just wipe your ass of the situation and move on.

[travz21]

Swag on.

[Rocky]

I'm not sure if i'd be playing the devil's advocate by saying this but.....


If you're gonna cheat on somebody that you claim to care about....

1. Be good at hiding it. If you really think you are in a good relationship that just has a few quirks, then don't fuck it up because you feel 97% happy

2. If you feel guilty, don't do it.

3.If you tell the person, and you know that it will hurt them. You are a douche. You are only telling them so you won't feel guilty.

4. Last but not least, evaluate your damn relationship. If you aren't happy, break up. If you are happy but have some weird fetish or some shit that they aren't down with doing, if you have the balls, find someone who can do it. *shrugs*



I've been involved in all types of infidelity lol, but I'm in a great relationship now and can't really see myself doing anything with anyone else. #WINNING

[Gloomy Mushroom]

what do you guys think defines cheating cause I have friends who struggle with this. Me and my friends have a very close and "physical". Ya know, we're all very touchy and flirty with each other and when my friends come to me conflicted saying "being flirty and physical is just who I am but my "partner" doesn't like it, what do I do?" I never know what to tell em. Where do your guys' lines stand

Good question posed. Most girls I know consider flirting or kissing as a form of cheating. I don't. I think cheating is when you openly go out of your way to fuck the other person. I haven't done that. Oh trust me, I did really think about it for quite a while but when push came to shove I never did it.

[Puresque]

Lol. Kissing is not cheating? Yeah well I would tell my partner to get the fuck away if he would kiss another girl.
Plus, it's disgusting to tell people to go fuck someone else if your real partner isn't into your "fetish". Seriously, what are some people thinking? Don't get in a relationship in the first place, urgh. Sorry if I'm offending anyone, but I really hope that I will never get to know someone with a similar opinion.

[Derek The Infamous]

I'm going to have to side with Anne here. If I saw a girl of mine open mouth kissing another guy, that shit would be over. I don't know where some of you came from, but when you're locking lips with someone else and you have a relationship already that's certainly being unfaithful. You don't just kiss every person you know on the lips. On the cheek maybe (as some cultures greet by a hug and a kiss on both cheeks) but actually making out? That's not something I do with any of my friends. The only people I've made out with are people I've been in love with.

Kissing (romantically) is most certainly cheating.

[Gloomy Mushroom]

Lol. Kissing is not cheating? Yeah well I would tell my partner to get the fuck away if he would kiss another girl.
Plus, it's disgusting to tell people to go fuck someone else if your real partner isn't into your "fetish". Seriously, what are some people thinking? Don't get in a relationship in the first place, urgh. Sorry if I'm offending anyone, but I really hope that I will never get to know someone with a similar opinion.

Actually most of the cheating happens when a party involved isn't happy with their relationship with the other person and is finding an easy way out without trying to resolve it. Or on the other hand, just bluntly do it without reason. So the whole basis of "don't get into a relationship in the first place" only applies to the first half of my post. I'm not condoning it, I think it's really wrong and I agree with a majority of the posts in this thread.

And I do apologise, I did forget to add in the fact that I don't consider flirting as cheating but more so kissing.

[Rocky]

Lol. Kissing is not cheating? Yeah well I would tell my partner to get the fuck away if he would kiss another girl.
Plus, it's disgusting to tell people to go fuck someone else if your real partner isn't into your "fetish". Seriously, what are some people thinking? Don't get in a relationship in the first place, urgh. Sorry if I'm offending anyone, but I really hope that I will never get to know someone with a similar opinion.
I kinda don't think you understand where I was coming from. There are plenty of people who cheat, and it isn't all for the same reasons, nor do they all have the same mindset and/or values.... I'm just saying, if you're one of those people who do it, please evaluate why you want and/or are doing it. But honestly, I suggest not sticking to a relationship that you aren't 100% happy with, but for the few people who really love their "97%", don't fuck it up.

Oh yeah, I'm really into psychology.

[Puresque]

I kinda don't think you understand where I was coming from. There are plenty of people who cheat, and it isn't all for the same reasons, nor do they all have the same mindset and/or values.... I'm just saying, if you're one of those people who do it, please evaluate why you want and/or are doing it. But honestly, I suggest not sticking to a relationship that you aren't 100% happy with, but for the few people who really love their "97%", don't fuck it.

Oh yeah, I'm really into psychology.

Don't worry, I did understand what you tried to say perfectly. Doesn't make it less disgusting.
Btw, acting like a douche has nothing to do with psychology. Be in a relationship and be faithful, or break up. It's simple as that.

[deftonesfan867]

Lol. Kissing is not cheating? Yeah well I would tell my partner to get the fuck away if he would kiss another girl.
Plus, it's disgusting to tell people to go fuck someone else if your real partner isn't into your "fetish". Seriously, what are some people thinking? Don't get in a relationship in the first place, urgh. Sorry if I'm offending anyone, but I really hope that I will never get to know someone with a similar opinion.

It takes a strong couple who has alot of trust in eachother to be able to do the threesome thing, but most of the time it's not done unless both parties feel comfortable with it.

[Puresque]

It takes a strong couple who has alot of trust in eachother to be able to do the threesome thing, but most of the time it's not done unless both parties feel comfortable with it.

what has that to do with cheating?

[deftonesfan867]

what has that to do with cheating?

Some people see that as such because you are being intimate with someone else.

I've known people to do it and break up afterwards because they blame the other of infidelity over such matters.

[Puresque]

Some people see that as such because you are being intimate with someone else.

I've known people to do it and break up afterwards because they blame the other of infidelity over such matters.

how is it cheating if your partner agrees and is involved? Oo I just don't get what that has to do with what I wrote.

[travz21]

I don't get it either lol.

And threesomes never ever work out. One or both members of the relationship will feel resentment, and if you don't, it's a fucked up relationship that won't last anyways.

[Duragon]

I believe that you actually love someone as deep as possible, even if you did cheat.
But normally if that ever happens, one usually break up because the person loves the other to much.
Confronting the person you love, telling the person you have cheated on her/him is the hardest thing to do.

(If you tell it off quite easily, without any regrets... Then there was probably no love there in the start)

I have been cheated on, i became mad, but i overreacted, there was a reason behind it all. Not just because she wanted to fuck around..
But a person who had a rough time with his/her ex, and then gets in a relationship with you. It's hard.
Feelings usually popps in, even cheating may occure. But you take that risc when you get in the relationship in the first place. .
Cheating often occures when one is feeling lonely, in need of contact when the counterpart is away.
I know people who has done that, and had the worst possible feelings afterwards.

Short: Just don't judge a person JUST by his/her actions. Talk to the person, figure it out. There may be a reason for it.
I think it's immature to just give up on the relationship if it happens, it's hurtfull i know.
Not everybody deserves a second chance. But someone actually does.
You never know, it could end up as the best releationship you've ever been in.

Or... it could go straight to hell, and you'll end up feeling like an idiot.

[travz21]

There's too many people in the world to be with someone who cheated on you.

[Duragon]

I know that too.
Just sometimes that tought is hard to accept.

[Puresque]

I agree with travz. If my boyfriend would cheat on me, I couldn't care less if he had "good reasons". I don't think it's immature, but someone should deserve to have a faithful partner. There's no "good reasons", and if my partner would tell me he was lonely I would just send him to hell even faster.

[Duragon]

Not exctly what i ment...
But if my girlfriend cheated on me. I don't think i would have ended it.

[Ryo Hazuki]

I believe that there are times when threesomes work out, same as foursomes and whatever. If you're in a open relationship and all parties are attracted to each other, what would be the problem with that?

I'm certainly not the type of person who would seek an open relationship, I've been asked to join one before and I declined, for several reasons. What I'm saying is, I don't find anything wrong with them and I don't think they're good for me but if a chance came up again in the future I won't immediately turn it down.

That goes back to the cheating-kissing thing, if you are NOT in an open relationship or you do anything that breaks the agreements that all involved decided on, you are cheating, no matter what. There are boundaries to every relationship and if someone breaks them then break it off with them. Simple as that.

[Rocky]

Don't worry, I did understand what you tried to say perfectly. Doesn't make it less disgusting.
Btw, acting like a douche has nothing to do with psychology. Be in a relationship and be faithful, or break up. It's simple as that.
Sorry, but reality isn't all "THIS or THAT", and that is why there is a such thing as psychology in the first place.


Funny enough, (and REALLY ODD) I met Eli Roth last night, and we had a conversation about what is "evil" and the Milgram experiment. Put a person in a fucked up situation, and watch the choices people make...they'll do what they feel is important...and sometimes what they is important may seem really horrible, but in their mind, they are doing the best thing. We also talked about how some people think he is a sick fuck for making really violent films even though he isn't a violent guy...kinda like how you might think I'm a sick fuck *shrugs*

[Puresque]

Sorry, but reality isn't all "THIS or THAT", and that is why there is a such thing as psychology in the first place.


Funny enough, (and REALLY ODD) I met Eli Roth last night, and we had a conversation about what is "evil" and the Milgram experiment. Put a person in a fucked up situation, and watch the choices people make...they'll do what they feel is important...and sometimes what they is important may seem really horrible, but in their mind, they are doing the best thing. We also talked about how some people think he is a sick fuck for making really violent films even though he isn't a violent guy...kinda like how you might think I'm a sick fuck *shrugs*

When it comes to cheating, there IS only THIS or THAT for me. Oh, and btw, I studied Psychology for quite some time, so don't tell me about it. Maybe just try to accept other opinions and stop telling people "you just don't know what you're talking about", because that's basically what you're doing right now. Thank you.

[travz21]

An open relationship is not a real relationship. It's basically fiction. Somebody always gets jealous. The fact is that people want to be exclusive with each other and feel wanted. Society has made us this way. When you're in an open relationship, no matter how instinctual and polygamous you feel, you'll also feel jealousy when you think of your partner doing the same thing. It's impossible not to or else you wouldn't be together in the first place.

This whole open relationship thing is just a myth. It's experimentation that never works.

[F-ck Casey]

Nah, it's just a matter of trust, really. Open relationship is the non-marriage version of being a swinger.

It can work, but it never lasts.

Then again, what does?

[travz21]

Herpes.

[Rocky]

When it comes to cheating, there IS only THIS or THAT for me. Oh, and btw, I studied Psychology for quite some time, so don't tell me about it. Maybe just try to accept other opinions and stop telling people "you just don't know what you're talking about", because that's basically what you're doing right now. Thank you.

Your posts in this thread have pretty much been like "wtf? what are you guys thinking?" to people who do not share your same viewpoint and I quote, "Btw, acting like a douche has nothing to do with psychology. Be in a relationship and be faithful, or break up. It's simple as that." "...and if my partner would tell me he was lonely I would just send him to hell even faster"

I really find it hard to believe that you've studied psychology.

I'm not here to judge or belittle anybody, just here to give a different viewpoint. I've said the same things that you have said and then years later I've been cheated on, cheated, and have been "the other guy". Nothing was malicious, douchey behavior unless you feel that having a suck-ass self-esteem and fear of being alone makes you a douche. IMO, it makes you a pussy. Purposely hurting someone's feelings because you can't come to grips with the fact that you are a pussy? That, I would call a douche...and the people who get caught on CHEATERS who say "It's your fault I'm doing this!!!!"..they are douches.

[Ryo Hazuki]

I know people who have pretty casual relationships, and they aren't exclusive and they've been like that for a few years.

Cheating is not okay, I agree but there could be circumstances that would be very hard to handle.

1 scenario, if you have a family (not bro-sis wise but wife-kids-husband wise) and are in a job and other jobs are scarce and your boss is trying to power grip you and threaten to fire you if you do not have a fling, you might have a very specific talent or jobs can be extremely scarce and let's face it right now, they are. What can you do about this if it were to happen?

You can say fuck off and lose you job, putting your family in financial struggle
You can try to press charges but you have to have evidence and that can be hard to come by
*especially where I live where you have to have a persons consent to record them and tell them for what purpose you are doing so
what person is going to agree to that when they are doing something wrong?

You could record them anyway but it wouldn't be able to be used in a court of law and you may even get fined for it.
Which would also put you in financial struggle.

You can resort to physical violence but everyone involved may end up in jail and temporarily or permanently loses their child (in some cases)

Not saying it's the right thing to do but in those circumstances I would find it difficult to blame a person, especially when it seems they're backed against four walls and no door with a 50" ceiling. Seems there's no way out sometimes.

Everything in life is not always black and white, ask yourself this "Would I ever kill anyone?" "If it's self-defense?" Okay you end up killing someone to keep yourself alive, does it make anyone less dead? It makes you less dead, but a life is still lost in the end.

If you say you would not purposely do it, even in self-defense do you value everyone elses life more so than your own? You value a proven murderer more than you do your own life? I only have one life, I'm going to keep it as long as possible. (btw, I 100% disagree with the death penalty, only when you are in immediate danger should you take such an action)

personally don't agree with Rocky, I think if it's a 97% relationship and that's not good enough for you to find someone else without cheating. Be friends first, get to know a person and let it be known at the start of a relationship what you expect from your partner and if they do not provide what you need then find someone else who does not have a problem with them. It's not good to take a chance and hurt people you're suppose to care about. That's not to say I don't see where he's coming from, it's just not something I agree with.

[Puresque]

Your posts in this thread have pretty much been like "wtf? what are you guys thinking?" to people who do not share your same viewpoint and I quote, "Btw, acting like a douche has nothing to do with psychology. Be in a relationship and be faithful, or break up. It's simple as that." "...and if my partner would tell me he was lonely I would just send him to hell even faster"

I really find it hard to believe that you've studied psychology.

I'm not here to judge or belittle anybody, just here to give a different viewpoint. I've said the same things that you have said and then years later I've been cheated on, cheated, and have been "the other guy". Nothing was malicious, douchey behavior unless you feel that having a suck-ass self-esteem and fear of being alone makes you a douche. IMO, it makes you a pussy. Purposely hurting someone's feelings because you can't come to grips with the fact that you are a pussy? That, I would call a douche...and the people who get caught on CHEATERS who say "It's your fault I'm doing this!!!!"..they are douches.

Believe what you want. For me, it has nothing to do with psychology, call me a liar or whatever. I can't imagine a single situation that would make cheating understandable or even acceptable. "Oh, I've been lonely, sorry honey"? I don't see how a relationship has a future, if one partner feels THAT lonely that he goes to someone else. There's something like conversation - just talk to your partner. If you are in a hard situation - okay, sucks, but just TALK with the one you're with. There's no reason just to go and cheat. For me, it is simple as being faithful. I don't know why anyone would be in a relationship, if you can't be faithful to your partner. I don't get what it has to do with psychology, if I say "I wouldn't stay with someone who cheat's on me just because he claims to be lonely". If you're lonely, let your partner help you. And if you don't trust him enough to do so, maybe he's not the one.

It's okay, if you have a different point of view - but maybe try to accept, that other people won't agree with you. No reason to call them a liar, this is kind of really rude actually.

However - I don't think it makes cheating acceptable just because someone is a "pussy", as you call it. Again - just try to talk. I know it might be hard to talk about stuff like that, believe me I do. But I'm just tired of people claiming "Sorry, I just have a horrible self-esteem, I didn't know what to do other than cheating" and then thinking this would be an apology. You can't blame people to be too hurt and proud to accept such explanations.

[Gloomy Mushroom]

Wow. What a tangent this thread has suddenly taken.

[Dean]

Your posts in this thread have pretty much been like "wtf? what are you guys thinking?" to people who do not share your same viewpoint and I quote, "Btw, acting like a douche has nothing to do with psychology. Be in a relationship and be faithful, or break up. It's simple as that." "...and if my partner would tell me he was lonely I would just send him to hell even faster"

I really find it hard to believe that you've studied psychology.

I'm not here to judge or belittle anybody, just here to give a different viewpoint. I've said the same things that you have said and then years later I've been cheated on, cheated, and have been "the other guy". Nothing was malicious, douchey behavior unless you feel that having a suck-ass self-esteem and fear of being alone makes you a douche. IMO, it makes you a pussy. Purposely hurting someone's feelings because you can't come to grips with the fact that you are a pussy? That, I would call a douche...and the people who get caught on CHEATERS who say "It's your fault I'm doing this!!!!"..they are douches.
The way I'm reading your posts here is like "it's okay to do it... but it's not okay... but it is okay". I don't see what point you're trying to make.

And about being a pussy or being a douche, I don't know what the distinction is for. It's still a flaw either way.

[Timothy]

"Pussies don't like dicks because pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also fuck assholes."

I don't know where douches fit into the equation.

[D-rock]

Simply put, you cheat when you're unhappy. It doesnt have to be an aspect relating to the relationship you're in. It could be any small factor in your life. I could go on forever with a web where it could of derived and where it can just be the route of several factors. Thats usually what causes peeps to cheat. Ive been on both sides. I know it sucks. But I have learned that if they cheat, they cheat. Suck it up and move on.

[deftonesfan867]

I don't get it either lol.

And threesomes never ever work out. One or both members of the relationship will feel resentment, and if you don't, it's a fucked up relationship that won't last anyways.

Just random, lol.

Oh and having involved in such things there was never resentment.

Like I said it HAS to be a strong relationship for it to be viable.

[travz21]

So you're still with your partner and you consider it a healthy relationship?

[deftonesfan867]

So you're still with your partner and you consider it a healthy relationship?

I'm not with the person I did that with because they died in car accident...

[travz21]

I'm sorry, man. I feel bad now.

[deftonesfan867]

I'm sorry, man. I feel bad now.

You're fine, you didn't know.

[Dean]

"Pussies don't like dicks because pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also fuck assholes."

I don't know where douches fit into the equation.
I think douches and dicks are analoguous here.

[Gloomy Mushroom]

Ok sorry to post back in here after a long time but I have a question to add to this thread.

Does it make you a better person to admit to cheating and telling your partner that you have done wrong compared to just keeping it a secret?

[travz21]

I don't think it makes you a better person. I think it only relieves you of guilt. That's the only reason people tell. "I think you should know that..." is never really about them. It's about you not being able to bear the secret anymore or you want to tell them so you break up. If you love the person, you know they love you, and you won't cheat on them again, what's the point of telling them? Ignorance is bliss.

But if you are in the process of cheating, it should definitely be talked about because you're unhappy being in that relationship. Why stay?

[Star Scream]

i think in your teenage years singleness is then best thing ever, the reason why because at the end of the day the person you are with will just "try to take the best of you"

[[TDWP] Jacob]

Been cheated on by my "first love." Was depressed for several months. Got over it and entered another BAD relationship lol. It is what it is. At least I learned what type of person she was before things got MORE serious then they were before.