Do you have confidence in yourself?

[Meryl_]

Well I had some thoughts and I would like to share them with you. It's kind of stupid but well. The more I'm getting older, the more I feel like I'll never achieve what I want. I'm at my last year at my university, and it's getting pretty hard. I did a lot of voluntary work in my field (PR/Marketing) and now I have a little job part-time. The thing is, it feels like I'm always thinking that there are better people out there and that I will never compete. So I'll always be one of the other's if you know what I mean.

What LP has taught me, is that you have to believe in yourself and work your ass of. If you do both of those things, you will get what you want. I do the second but the first one is pretty hard. And I have a lot of references, great ones, but I have this voice inside my head (ha!) that tells me that I just do not compete.

My question is: Do you have confidence in yourself? My post is about work but it can be about friends, love, etc too. If you don't, why? What are you trying to do to change your mind?

In the future, if I don't get my dream job, will it be because I'm not good enough or because I was just too afraid to try?

That's a pretty personal topic here, so guys be nice =)

[travz21]

I used to be extremely shy. By the time I hit 18 I started to have a lot of confidence in myself. Now that I'm 22, I haven't really thought about this subject since then. Once you start believing in yourself, all of your insecurities just sort of disappear.

[F-ck Casey]

Pre-2007: yes.
Post-2007: no.

[Meryl_]

I used to be extremely shy. By the time I hit 18 I started to have a lot of confidence in myself. Now that I'm 22, I haven't really thought about this subject since then. Once you start believing in yourself, all of your insecurities just sort of disappear.Did you just woke up one day, felt badass and all your insecurities went out? =)


Pre-2007: yes.
Post-2007: no.
I assume that if you don't say why it's because it's getting too personal.. You are welcome to share, if you don't want to, I totally understand...

[F-ck Casey]

There is something about being arrested and put in jail that breaks you down and completely strips you of your dignity. I don't know if you, or anyone here, has ever heard your close loved ones say with the most Earth shattering sincerity say that they don't want to speak to you again and are tremendously disappointed in you. I had knocked most of the walls within myself down and the flood gates were open, but after that, they're higher than ever.

Of course, last time I tried to talk about this, it was swiftly ignored in the "Got Something You Want to Let Out?" thread, and a girl's boyfriend troubles were put on a higher pedestal.

[Jayhov]

There is something about being arrested and put in jail that breaks you down and completely strips you of your dignity. I don't know if you, or anyone here, has ever heard your close loved ones say with the most Earth shattering sincerity say that they don't want to speak to you again and are tremendously disappointed in you. I had knocked most of the walls within myself down and the flood gates were open, but after that, they're higher than ever.

Of course, last time I tried to talk about this, it was swiftly ignored in the "Got Something You Want to Let Out?" thread, and a girl's boyfriend troubles were put on a higher pedestal.

Ouch man, I'm really sorry that happened.

[Abel]

I was extremely undoubtly shy. I still am, but now only around my girlfriend with her friends. Ever since I decided to start smiling and get out there, I started to see there were a lot of people who really like me but I never noticed. I need help with my girl's friends though, since they're all guys. And I'm extremely different from them. ._.

[SamohtCela]

I don't really have confidence in myself that much. I keep to myself most of the time in school and around my family. I don't open myself up that much anymore, I just always have a fear of being let down.

[Harlz]

None whatsoever. It makes things... difficult.

[travz21]

Did you just woke up one day, felt badass and all your insecurities went out? =)

It takes many years of being a pushover. Some may call it evolution. I adapted so my life wouldn't be miserable.

[iNuBBiN]

I was extremely undoubtly shy. I still am, but now only around my girlfriend with her friends. Ever since I decided to start smiling and get out there, I started to see there were a lot of people who really like me but I never noticed. I need help with my girl's friends though, since they're all guys. And I'm extremely different from them. ._.

I'm in the same boat. I am extremely shy sometimes with people. When I started smiling around people and stuff people started to like me a lot more. I was normally the quite weird asshole, but now people know I am still quite but am very sarcastic. I have a lot of guy friends who are nothing like me. I am really the only person in my group who doesn't party and be a asshole. So I am just that nice guy who wont hurt anyone

[Colonel Sanders]

A kingly, wise man once said that courage requires no excuse, because it is merely a decision. It is a critical element of your birthrights in free-will. Courage is doing the right thing regardless of how you feel, and on the other side you feel like a million bucks. We learn that investment usually brings good payoffs, and that is true in many respects here. If you aren't liking your situation then change it - you have control. If you like your situation then seek to explore it even further.

One of the best, and most courageous decisions you could make is joining a Toastmasters Club, where an abundance of people, including me, unite to better themselves through mutual character and maturity growth by practicing public speaking skills. Consider it a good thing to do, and if it can fit into your day then consider it the right thing to do. I remember taking that first step to speak in front of an audience. Granted, i've sung in front of more before, but in the light of the room it seemed like an awesome opportunity for growth. I have nothing but praise for Toastmasters, and the integrity i've seen the members demonstrated so far from club meetings to leadership institutes. Not only do mentors await you, but friends as well. There are TM clubs all over the world. Consider yourself lucky.

I am very proud of my friend taking a leap, coming with me to a club meeting, and deciding to LIVE it up.

I really love this quote as it is so inspirational:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
~ Theodore Roosevelt

I love helping people, and so I did this to help us all out! I've been down some dark roads in the past too, some very different from the ones explained above, but I still know what it was like. It sucks, but there are better days ahead if you choose to change the way things are.

[Meryl_]

There is something about being arrested and put in jail that breaks you down and completely strips you of your dignity. I don't know if you, or anyone here, has ever heard your close loved ones say with the most Earth shattering sincerity say that they don't want to speak to you again and are tremendously disappointed in you. I had knocked most of the walls within myself down and the flood gates were open, but after that, they're higher than ever.

Of course, last time I tried to talk about this, it was swiftly ignored in the "Got Something You Want to Let Out?" thread, and a girl's boyfriend troubles were put on a higher pedestal.

Wow I'm sorry. People judge other's quickly and unfortunately, our society doesn't forgive easily. I don't know what you have done, but my friend used to work with people who went in jail, and told me how it can break their confidence. More with people who passed most of their lives there, and don't know how society works anymore. She made me open my eyes on how people stay people, even if they make mistakes.


I was extremely undoubtly shy. I still am, but now only around my girlfriend with her friends. Ever since I decided to start smiling and get out there, I started to see there were a lot of people who really like me but I never noticed. I need help with my girl's friends though, since they're all guys. And I'm extremely different from them. ._.
I know right, the more we open to people the more we gave them the chance to know us and appreciate us. It's hard getting 'out there' so good job for you if you are working on that every day!


I don't really have confidence in myself that much. I keep to myself most of the time in school and around my family. I don't open myself up that much anymore, I just always have a fear of being let down.
Oh I know what you mean, one of my friend is the same... she says she doesn't want to open up cause she's afraid of getting hurt.. but it's like love, if you don't open yourself to love and getting hurt, you'll never find love in the first place.


None whatsoever. It makes things... difficult.
*Hugs*


It takes many years of being a pushover. Some may call it evolution. I adapted so my life wouldn't be miserable.
Yeah, that's why I need a pushover. But i'm lucky to have friends for that.


So I am just that nice guy who wont hurt anyoneI think it's great? No?


A kingly, wise man once said that courage requires no excuse, because it is merely a decision. It is a critical element of your birthrights in free-will. Courage is doing the right thing regardless of how you feel, and on the other side you feel like a million bucks. We learn that investment usually brings good payoffs, and that is true in many respects here. If you aren't liking your situation then change it - you have control. If you like your situation then seek to explore it even further.

One of the best, and most courageous decisions you could make is joining a Toastmasters Club, where an abundance of people, including me, unite to better themselves through mutual character and maturity growth by practicing public speaking skills. Consider it a good thing to do, and if it can fit into your day then consider it the right thing to do. I remember taking that first step to speak in front of an audience. Granted, i've sung in front of more before, but in the light of the room it seemed like an awesome opportunity for growth. I have nothing but praise for Toastmasters, and the integrity i've seen the members demonstrated so far from club meetings to leadership institutes. Not only do mentors await you, but friends as well. There are TM clubs all over the world. Consider yourself lucky.

I am very proud of my friend taking a leap, coming with me to a club meeting, and deciding to LIVE it up.

I really love this quote as it is so inspirational:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
~ Theodore Roosevelt

I love helping people, and so I did this to help us all out! I've been down some dark roads in the past too, some very different from the ones explained above, but I still know what it was like. It sucks, but there are better days ahead if you choose to change the way things are.

Wow both quotes are really inspirational. Thank you very much for that. Is the Toastmasters Club it's really name? it's kind of funny, is there something I don't get about the name because english is not my first langage? Is toast about what you do at a wedding for example? Ha, I love that name! I just checked the website, and there are tons of groups in my city, thank you!

[Dean]

I have a veneer of confidence I guess. Not that I hate myself, but my self-esteem isn't particularly high either when it comes down to it. I try my best, though.

[Ree]

I'm confident when I'm with people who are close to me. I'm pretty confident at going up to people I haven't met before and speaking to them. I think I’m pretty friendly and can be outgoing when I want to be. My close mates complain about how I never shut the fuck up :D but my work colleagues will probably say that I’m slightly reserved. My confidence level is different around different people.

One thing that has always been an issue for me is delivering presentations. That sucks because I'm at Law school and you have to be extremely confident and deliver coherent presentations and answers. I get so damn flustered. It’s more like a phobia I guess. It used to be worse though, around five years ago I literally wouldn’t have been able to stand up in front of class and give a presentation. So I guess I have improved.

Colonel Sanders – I think I might check out a Law Toastmasters class, I received an email about that last week :lol:

[Rocky]

I don't want to sound like an A-hole, but when I think of huge LP fans (especially ones from the old-school era), I think of folks that lack in confidence. I say that because plenty of those songs are about insecurities and we all know that we can all relate to a few songs from HT or Meteora.

To answer the question though....yes. Yes I do. But I think my confidence came from being a musician and people liking my music, which helped land me my girlfriend...and I'm in my first authentic non-fling kinda relationship. That was a confidence booster too...Some time after that I started noticing girls that know that I have a girlfriend would be all over me because I'm "so sweet" (confidence booster #3)...and now that I do paid shows, radio appearances, and have a bunch of songs about girls the "OMG HE'S SO CUTE I WANT HIS BABIES" level has risen. I have an awesome amount of confidence lol. Honestly though, I don't think it's a good thing that my confidence in myself stems solely through talent and women. It's a notch above no confidence though lol

[esaul17]

I'm confident at things I am good at. I am not confident at things I am not good at.

This is really how people should be. It is often said that being confident is a good thing, but this is only the case if it is actually justified confidence. If someone lacks confidence in an area they should probably try to have it objectively analyzed how likely it is that they really do just suck in that area before trying to find clever ways to boost their confidence while ignoring their shitty ability in the first place.

[travz21]

Honestly though, I don't think it's a good thing that my confidence in myself stems solely through talent and women.

I'm trying to see how that's bad haha. I just can't do it. That's like half of the reasons for a man to be confident. Talent, women, money, looks. So you basically have the two most important things. Well done.



I'm confident at things I am good at. I am not confident at things I am not good at.

This is really how people should be. It is often said that being confident is a good thing, but this is only the case if it is actually justified confidence. If someone lacks confidence in an area they should probably try to have it objectively analyzed how likely it is that they really do just suck in that area before trying to find clever ways to boost their confidence while ignoring their shitty ability in the first place.

You can know you lack certain abilities and still be confident in those areas. I suck at hockey, but if I mess up I could care less. I'm not going to get down on myself or get nervous about something I put zero time into. I'll just do my best with what I have. Losing confidence in yourself will just make you perform at a much lower level.

[minuteforce]

None whatsoever. It makes things... difficult.
This. ;/

I'm running into more and more situations where I really need to just be confident and just deal with what's happening and it doesn't happen for me

[esaul17]

You can know you lack certain abilities and still be confident in those areas. I suck at hockey, but if I mess up I could care less. I'm not going to get down on myself or get nervous about something I put zero time into. I'll just do my best with what I have. Losing confidence in yourself will just make you perform at a much lower level.

If someone says "Man, I suck at hockey!" I think that establishes the fact that they are not confident in their hockey-playing ability. It doesn't mean they have to sulk about it or be nervous or care about this whatsoever, nor does it mean they shouldn't do their best. It just means they accurately assessed their ability in the sport and became aware it was lacking. And consequently, are not confident in their abilities.

[Rocky]

I'm trying to see how that's bad haha. I just can't do it. That's like half of the reasons for a man to be confident. Talent, women, money, looks. So you basically have the two most important things. Well done.
hahaha I'm going to have to completely agree with that. You sir, are awesome

[F-ck Casey]

did someone just bring linkin park into a conversation about confidence in yourself? IE, a personal topic that has nothing to do with that band?

MOTHERFUC---------

[Derek The Infamous]

Perhaps the band, like with many other people on this board, helped give the person confidence? Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure this out.

I for one have Linkin Park to thank for my confidence, because if it wasn't for them this site wouldn't have been made, and if it wasn't for this site, I definitely wouldn't be half the person I am today.

Seriously, grow up Casey. Joking or not, your post was rude, and if it wouldn't result in your third infraction, I'd give you an infraction right now for being such a jerk. Show respect.

[Nick]

"I don't believe in myself, but I believe in what i'm doing."

[Abel]

Oh yeah, Linkin Park have been my BFFs everywhere I go x] they're in my iPod. xD but seriously LP helped a lot of people I know get past their shyness, problems, etc. I can prove it: LP got me to break out of my mold when A Thousand Suns released.

[Meryl_]

Perhaps the band, like with many other people on this board, helped give the person confidence? Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure this out.

I for one have Linkin Park to thank for my confidence, because if it wasn't for them this site wouldn't have been made, and if it wasn't for this site, I definitely wouldn't be half the person I am today.

Seriously, grow up Casey. Joking or not, your post was rude, and if it wouldn't result in your third infraction, I'd give you an infraction right now for being such a jerk. Show respect.

Thanks Derek, Casey is obviously trolling so if it wasn't for your reply, I wouldn't even put any attention to what he said.


I don't want to sound like an A-hole, but when I think of huge LP fans (especially ones from the old-school era), I think of folks that lack in confidence. I say that because plenty of those songs are about insecurities and we all know that we can all relate to a few songs from HT or Meteora.
Nah, you don't sound like an a- / Most of the 'fans' (Fans as not about only liking the sound but following the band) mostly got involved because there was more than just music, it resonated in our lives and struggling (not sure if I got that last word right)...




"I don't believe in myself, but I believe in what i'm doing."



Nick, I love that quote - thanks!

[Theazninvasion68]

I'm During high school? I was fairly confident. Nothing over the top, but nothing too little. But during college (or so far) I've never been so sure of myself than ever before.

I'm pretty confident in things I can do, and I'm pretty willing try new things. It's just the things I know I'm pretty shit at (e.g Flying a jet, professional basketball, skydiving...etc) that I'm not confident at hahaha.

What did they ever say about knowledge is power? Yeah.. pretty much ^_^.

[.Amanda.]

Interesting topic...

I suppose it really depends for me.
As far as the self-esteem/self-image aspect of "confidence" goes I'd say I'm a little below average for a 19 year old girl. I don't think I'm the prettiest person and I don't particularly see myself as anything special but when people compliment me I believe them. That kind of makes me sound like I fish for compliments but I don't. I normally keep my self-image to myself. It's not like I run around screaming "I'M FAT AND UGLY WAH" in hopes that someone will turn around and be like "awe, no you aren't". It's more just like I don't think highly of myself so when I get complimented I appreciate it that little bit more.

As far as work ethic goes, confidence is hit or miss. Some times I just KNOW I'm good at something and I have full belief in my ability to do that particular activity. Other times I'm a complete defeatist. It's actually a problem when it comes to University because if I start doing poorly in a class I'll usually give up and say "oh well... better luck next time" instead of attempting to resolve the problem and move past it. That's probably a big part of why I'm flunking two classes this semester.

[CM.]

music means a lot to me
so does linkin park; yes! <3

i dont care what other people say about it; its sad, your a loser blabla

who cares. as long as its important to me and i know i enjoy it then ill be just fine

linkin park is in my opinion one of the greatest bands EVER
their music really relax me or make me less sad
because a lot of times when i feel really depressed and i listen to them
i feel way more confident again, i dont know how or why, it is just like that.

i used to be a weak person that never open her mouth to others because i was scared
but since i turned 18 my personality totally changed
im not lettin people do things just like that, now i first open my mouth before anything goes further than it suppose to
every opinion counts...

[iamsatan]

Right now no, I'm funemployed, girlfriend of 3.5 years left me recently, no job opportunities in sight.

Slowly trying to get some confidence and put my life back together. I was inspired by GSP on the recent Ultimate Fighter season he said "Courage isn't about not being scared, it's about being scared and still doing it."

Hope things work out for everyone who's having problems right now.

[Gloomy Mushroom]

No I don't, to answer the question bluntly.

Some people tell I'm fat, some people tell I'm the perfect weight.

The last time I was the perfect weight, I was seriously under 50kgs bordering anorexia when I was 18. Because mental illness runs in my family and I am no exception. When I was living in Wagga, my ex use to screw my feelings around causing me to stop eating, slice my wrist and even tell my mother on the phone that I was going to kill myself. Trust me, the police were involved several times. I eventually took myself off the medication because it was making my depression worse. Then I had my father, whom I was living with, tell me that I was fat. I was 54 kgs, and I needed to be at least 75 kgs for my height to be considered healthy.

Put that aside for a minute and come to the present. I am bordering 90kgs at the moment, and I am being told by my doctor that I am bordering of being overweight and that's because of many factors effecting my lifestyle at the moment. When I was pregnant, they say you only put on 20 kgs or so. I put on about 12 kgs including baby weight because at the time and place I was living, my partner's (now ex) house mate was giving me so much shit I was afraid I was falling back into depression again and I only ate for Mia's sake. Although when she was born, she was a good healthy 3.5 kgs (7 pounds 11 ounces). So no. I've been through way too many rough patches in my life to consider myself of being confident about myself. I don't doubt my abilities (like getting into TAFE for an IT course) but my overall confidence.

[Rana LP Luvr]

Everyone should be having confidence in himself ,or will be let down . Well, we should believe in ourselves..

[Super Sonic]

It depends how im feeling.

[Timothy]

I'm confident in my abilities and intellect, but my self-esteem is another issue entirely. I vacillate between thinking I'm a good, generous person to thinking I'm a worthless piece of shit. Mostly the former, though. :P

[Darcy]

I'm not afraid of anything.

It's a problem.

[travz21]

I'm not afraid of anything.

It's a problem.

Same here. But it's not a problem.

[Colonel Sanders]

No, its not a problem. Right. There's a difference between feeling afraid of something and not doing anything about it, and feeling anxious yet doing something about it. It becomes a problem if one takes foolhardy risks then one may be faced with constraints, or for a more appropriate term, the unsolvable. See some jackass stunts. Moral of the story there is "don't try this...anywhere" lol Jackass is full of swagga temperament personalities that have sought out success from elaborate to illegal, mischievous stunts with the use of social connections. There's no sign of stopping these lucky guys, but its only a matter of time before karma comes back around. It's hilarious watching these guys take small steps to life-threatening stunts. Why? Because it's them taking the risk and not me. Stuntmen like Johnny Knoxville most likely get scared even from the smallest of acrobatic movements - they still do it. Why? Theres a chance for reward on the other end.

[Jeff]

If I had confidence in myself, I wouldn't be working at Kmart :lol:

[travz21]

No, its not a problem. Right. There's a difference between feeling afraid of something and not doing anything about it, and feeling anxious yet doing something about it. It becomes a problem if one takes foolhardy risks then one may be faced with constraints, or for a more appropriate term, the unsolvable. See some jackass stunts. Moral of the story there is "don't try this...anywhere" lol Jackass is full of swagga temperament personalities that have sought out success from elaborate to illegal, mischievous stunts with the use of social connections. There's no sign of stopping these lucky guys, but its only a matter of time before karma comes back around. It's hilarious watching these guys take small steps to life-threatening stunts. Why? Because it's them taking the risk and not me. Stuntmen like Johnny Knoxville most likely get scared even from the smallest of acrobatic movements - they still do it. Why? Theres a chance for reward on the other end.

You're confusing fearless with foolishness.

[Colonel Sanders]

No, please point out where exactly to back up your statement. Fearlessness can be viewed as a state of being/decision-making process in which minimal to no anxiety exists and only positive emotion (or possibly any kind of appropriate word for action-prone emotional energy) remains. Foolishness can be driven by any emotion but lacks morality at the heart of the matter. In my stream of consciousness post above all I was getting at is how some people live on the edge. Some experiments are not worth the risk. Yes, not being consciously afraid of anything is cool, but every one of us has instincts and reflexes designed to save our lives. Acknowledging that there will be times when we are going to be afraid whether we want it to happen or not is something I personally find empowering. To quote Johnny Knoxville "theres a fine line between bravery and stupidity." I would shit my pants if I saw a bull come at me in one of those rings. Given more context on that situation and a reward on the other end maybe I would still do something about it if I was thrown in. All jokes aside, all of us wouldnt enter a situation like that. Man we'd be bucked off! lol. The Jackass crew have already begun to capitalize on their attention and work as you know. It seems as though most of their stunts are fearless and foolish as the means to their end, but in a way it has some advantageous intelligence to it at this point with their latest offer in 3D.

You probably would agree with me that it isn't a problem to be consciously afraid of nothing, so as long as any unconscious anxiety is titrated into comfortable emotion. However, it is a problem when death can be a consequence. To commit to something like that would be a sign of foolishness. I was thinking about this the other day and thought when are we faced with life/death situations? For most average people its never. I do think that failure to take right action to prevent a life/death situation would be foolish.

*off soapbox* lol

[travz21]

Right, but you're making it sound like people who don't fear things also don't have any judgement. Just because I'm not afraid of heights doesn't mean I'm going to jump off a building. I'm not afraid of the dark, but I'm not going to walk down an alley downtown in the middle of the night. Not everyone is like the Jackass crew who do things for the rush/money/sex/fame, whatever the consequence. You can live with a fairly anxiety-free life while still making choices that will protect yourself from harm.

[esaul17]

If I walk in front of a car I will die. I am not afraid of this though, as I am confident in my ability to not walk in front of a car.

[Colonel Sanders]

No of course I wouldn't imply that there is lack of judgement. Our code of ethics needs to exist and to be flexible for us to thrive alive. Yes, avoiding those situations above is clearly the right thing to do. We don't have to prove things to people in a perverted fashion by jumping off a building or walking down a dark, sketchy alley. No. Doing so would be destructive to you and others at that time unless more context demands further exploration into the above cases. Yes, I agree 100 percent with ur last statement. were not all jackasses indeed. Lol

[Cookie Monster]

No. It's a really big problem for me. I'm working to be an actor, specifically musical theatre (say what you will), so this requires me to be able not only to act, but to sing and dance as well. I didn't start doing all of this until the end of my freshman year of high school. And these are skills that usually need to be started much earlier. I did a number of shows for the next two years, I am now a senior, and I just transferred to an arts school for my last year of high school. I am just now taking serious classes for acting and dancing. Singing has been a struggle. I went from the being one of the best at my regular school to one of the worst here at my new school. I can bearly keep up. My girlfriend goes to school with me and she is a phenomenal singer, and I wish I could connect with her in that aspect because it is a huge part of who she is. I'm having a hard time explaining this, sorry if it's hard to follow. Basically, I need to be better at what I do now, because I fear that I am out of time to get good enough at it. And I truly don't think I'm even close to being there. It's very frustrating.

[Blackee Dammet]

Yes. Too much damn confidence actually.

[Super Sonic]

If I walk in front of a car I will die. I am not afraid of this though, as I am confident in my ability to not walk in front of a car.

:lol:

[Rohit LP]

wel..i read this book...by dale carnegie..how to stop worrying and start living...

nothin out of d world in d book..just a plain simple book...stressing on things you already know..but..after just followin author's instructions confidence sure built up in me..

[ThaHandyman]

Confidence really isn't much of an issue for me, I know who I am, if i make a mistake, it's my duty to capitalize and do better next time. A mistake is an opportunity to capitalize and succeed next round.

I'm not sure why this is, because my brother is the opposite, but I've just always had lots of confidence, and I figure if I work hard and get A's I can only succeed.

[Omar]

No, but two of my best friends do: Jack Daniels and Jose Cuervo. Captain Morgan just brings me down, though...

Serious answer: depends on the situation. The more familiar I am with something -- or someone -- the more confident I'll be. I'm not usually one of those people who'll start up conversations with random strangers.

[[TDWP] Jacob]

Not right now but normally I'm pretty decent when it comes to confidence

[28thART]

Confidence it comes by experience in life, no one ins this earth is confidence on him self 100% ! simply because no one can say what happen in the future, no one know what we'll happen tomorrow, but when you have experience in life, you maybe confidence in your self, because you know how to deals with problems you'll face !
for me, sometimes i feel i'm confidence in my self, sometimes i don't, so i can say i'm 50-50% .
you need to be lucky about your decisions, and calculate the % of the failure, of any of them !
also i can say confidence its more about mathematics and calculation of all possibilities of success-failure, of your decisions, i believe ALL our life is controlled by numbers more than anything else, so i can say, the person who deals with mathematics well, he has the chance to be more confidence in him self (well :D just an idea).
but in the end i'll tell you something, be sure one day you'll fail, no one is perfect in this earth :), all of us will fail in our life more than one time, but the most important is to know how to deal with your situations and this will come from your experience in life, and how much problems you faced and how hard they were.

[TannerWolf]

I never did... Mainly because I was never accepted, I was bullied, harassed, torn to pieces by relationships, I cut, self esteem = non existent... I hate how I look, I have few friends... Though I shouldn't vent because I fear that it would be against the rules or something..

[Rebecca Black]

Ever since entering my middle school in grade 7, I've been looked down upon people like dirt.
Since then, I always think I'm inferior to everyone. :\

So the answer is no. Not at all.

[Sparrow]

I believe that confidence is both an attitude and a belief. There are not many certinaties in life, but one thing is for certain, life with ALWAYS hold its fair share of obsticals and hardships, no matter how well you adapt to any situation, conflict is unavoidable. What we do have control over is how we react and deal with situations. Do you really believe that there are people out there WITHOUT fear and any kind of insecurity about themselves? There is no such thing as a fearless person, but rather its how someone acts , inspite of that fear that constitutes true ambition and confidence, we have control over how we react to situations, that is the true test. So in regards to your thread question, dont be concerned about if there are better people out there than you at the job, rather focus on yourself on making yourself the best, cause that is all you actually have ANY kind of control over. You cant be in control over anything else. Its a simple human paradox, wanting to have control over every aspect of life, when the only control we have is over our own.