Teenage Pregnancy

[Almighty_Froggy]

My friend had a baby last year with her boyfriend on 2 years, but she was only 17. And Now theres a possibility I may be pregnate with my new boyfriend. I know that no matter what happens he will look after me but Im VERY scared!! Can neone give me some idea on what I should do??

[Luke]

My friend had a baby last year with her boyfriend on 2 years, but she was only 17. And Now theres a possibility I may be pregnate with my new boyfriend. I know that no matter what happens he will look after me but Im VERY scared!! Can neone give me some idea on what I should do??
Here in the UK we have the highest Teenage Pregnancy ratio in the entire EU. Me and my ex girlfriend were dumb enough to contribute to that over a year ago (I was only 14 and she was 15). The best thing to do is not to do what we did and go completly psycho and start freaking out about it. Just approach it calmly and whatver decision you both make I'm sure it will work out fine. :)

[mathew51b]

yeh i agree, you just gotta take it at is comes, make the decisions you both wanna make, not just what you think is best for one of you or anything.

[Almighty_Froggy]

Here in the UK we have the highest Teenage Pregnancy ratio in the entire EU. Me and my ex girlfriend were dumb enough to contribute to that over a year ago (I was only 14 and she was 15). The best thing to do is not to do what we did and go completly psycho and start freaking out about it. Just approach it calmly and whatver decision you both make I'm sure it will work out fine. :)
What did you end up doing?

[Snail]

First off, approach it calmly as someone had just stated here, and then you must obtain a pregnancy test, buy more than one! Next, take the test right away if you have to, and take it the week after again. I am not sure if where you live allows you to be able to go to a clinic where people will help you check if you are pregnant while keeping it confidential, but if so you should ask an adult about if there are any clinics like that available in your location. If you are too embarrassed or shy about it ask your boyfriend, it is his responsibility to do anything he can to assure for your needs. Goodluck, and I hope everything goes the way you want it to. I've been through this, and the most importnant thing is to not freak out. Goodluck!

[Mk_Spike]

I believe whatever decision u make it will be fine, but if you think it would be very hard and you wont be able to give the child a life it deseves i dont know how bad this sounds but would it be best to terminate the pregnancy?

[Seinfeld]

I believe whatever decision u make it will be fine, but if you think it would be very hard and you wont be able to give the child a life it deseves i dont know how bad this sounds but would it be best to terminate the pregnancy?

sry...but I have to agree...what if you want the child but would have to raise it poorly because you're not prepared enough...(I didn't put my point well...hope you still understand what I mean)

[JJ]

I believe whatever decision u make it will be fine, but if you think it would be very hard and you wont be able to give the child a life it deseves i dont know how bad this sounds but would it be best to terminate the pregnancy?
i think that too - this is a touchy subject, however if your not ready its probably for the best. life shoudnt be messed around with, just do what you thin is right

[Almighty_Froggy]

Yes. Ofcourse I understand your point. I know that if I am pregnate I would be able to give the baby what it needs. I know my boyfriend will help in all ways possible. One of the main things I dont know is how to do it exactally (if that makes ne sence?) And how would I go about telling my parents? I dont think I could do it without my mother. My father on the otherhand I couldnt care less about, I do fine with out him.. but what would I do w/o my mum????????
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH IM IN SUCH A MESS!!

[rosanna]

you need to find out if you are pregnant before you get anyone other than your boyfriend involved thinking that you are and all that stuff. if you think your mom will support you through the not-knowing stage, then talk to her, but if she's gonna flip out on you, it's not worth it until you know for sure. when i went through this, i couldn't talk to my mother, so i had a friend on my side.

and no matter what you decide to do, you will always have people to support you. this is a hard thing. just relax and don't worry about it until you are positive one way or the other.

[Luke]

What did you end up doing?
We both agreed that it was waaaaay too early to have a kid so she aborted it. There was virtually no other solution though, there was just no way we could be parents at 14 and 15.

But don't take this as influence on what you should do, it's yours and your boyfriends decision at the end of the day.

[Todd]

Condoms are cheaper than raising a kid, adoption lawyers or an abortion. Why don't you guys try using those?

[F-ck Casey]

Condoms also protect you from STDs, which she could have had (you never know). Personally I think condoms take away a little from the pleasure, but it's a small price to pay for protection from things like this and STDs.

I chalk up Hellflame and his ex not using a condom to just being horny and young. I might be wrong, but that's my guess.

[mathew51b]

Condoms also protect you from STDs, which she could have had (you never know). Personally I think condoms take away a little from the pleasure, but it's a small price to pay for protection from things like this and STDs.

I chalk up Hellflame and his ex not using a condom to just being horny and young. I might be wrong, but that's my guess.

i dont know if its necessarily being young as such, just more in the moment, you choose not to listen to your education sorta thing. hmm, but yeh, protection will turn out a lot cheaper, but if its happened its happened, and yeh,

[Luke]

I chalk up Hellflame and his ex not using a condom to just being horny and young. I might be wrong, but that's my guess.
:lol:

I find it histerical that everyone is still quick to jump to conclusions on what actualy happened...for atleast 2 months straight I was told shit like that how we ignored all the sex-ed stuff and how we were just two stupid kids who didn't know what we were doing.

Heres the facts:

-We thought it through for a long time before we did it
-I did pay attention in sex-ed, I dunno if she did but I think she was intelligent enough to know how important that shit is
-The condom split, we didn't realise until it ended
-True, we probably were a couple of horney kids and probably still are however I don't like these assumptions that our hormones got the better of us etc. I dunno if it was ''love'' or whatever you wanna call it but it wasn't just a quick fuck for the hell of it
-I don't regret a single second of it because It's not like we had any control over the damn thing splitting

Let this be a little pointer to the next person who wants to jump one motherfucker of a conclusion. I'm not pissed off or anything but please Casey, don't post something you obviously don't know much about ;)

[mathew51b]

sorry man, didnt mean it to sound like what it did,

[Luke]

sorry man, didnt mean it to sound like what it did,
No no no, my fellow Londoner, it wasn't you who I was adressing :lol:. I was adressing anyone who jumped to a conclusion over what happened e.g. Casey :lol:

[F-ck Casey]

I was just guessing on the matter. No need to get an attitude.

[Luke]

I was just guessing on the matter. No need to get an attitude.

I'm not pissed off or anything but please Casey, don't post something you obviously don't know much about ;)

Look man I'm sorry if I came on with an attitude or something but it wasn't intended. However next time don't just take a shot in the dark about someone else's life.

[Ronin]

funny this subject was started.. we watched a video in school bout 2 days ago about teenage pregnancy... unfortunatly, our school is too late for it. we have about 9-11 girls pregnant in our school that are keeping it. alot have had abortions, ad its really kinda disturbing. not th abortions, just the amount of kids stupid not to use protection and make foolish desicions all for 3 minutes of pleasure...

[Almighty_Froggy]

Condoms also protect you from STDs, which she could have had (you never know).

For your information neither of us have STDs. How do I know that? Cause we have been friends for a VERY long time. And we have talked about if we are clean or not and so on. I know when he is lieing and I know he wasnt lieing when he told me he was clean.

[Todd]

For your information neither of us have STDs. How do I know that? Cause we have been friends for a VERY long time. And we have talked about if we are clean or not and so on. I know when he is lieing and I know he wasnt lieing when he told me he was clean.

And the fact you would believe something as important as that without second-guessing it tells me you're certainly not mature enough to have a kid.

[Louis]

Condoms don't always protect you from Sexually Transmitted Diseases and pregnancy. Condoms break, you know. So if someone gets pregnant or an STD, don't blame it on the person you had sex with (unless you didn't use a condom), blame it on the condom itself. It's not necessarily safe sex. It's safer sex. But not safe altogether.

For the thread starter, get tested for an STD. Don't just guess. Your friend might be your best, how do you know for sure? It takes one time, and one time alone to get an STD. You can't go into the bedroom and think, "Oh, I've known this person for a long time, he won't give me an STD." No, and you can't expect him to be right unless he was tested and you know so.

And as Todd said, second-guessing like that basically gives away that you're not mature enough to have a child for your own.

[Glenn]

I suppose if anybody wants to have sex and doesn't want to have a kid, they should either use a condom or pull out before...well you know.

[Seinfeld]

And the fact you would believe something as important as that without second-guessing it tells me you're certainly not mature enough to have a kid.


don't wanna start fighting...but...how do you want to know she's not ready to take care of a child?...you're judging by something she wrote here as a thread?...that doesn't prove anything...know someone first...

[Todd]

don't wanna start fighting...but...how do you want to know she's not ready to take care of a child?...you're judging by something she wrote here as a thread?...that doesn't prove anything...know someone first...

How do I know she's not ready to take care of a child? This was her 4th (at least 4, I can't remember all of them) account on the LPA that she registered after the being banned under the others. If she's not mature enough to stay away from a forum where she's not welcome, she's not mature enough to be a parent.

[rosanna]

i live in maryland, where they have this new thing (they just found a baby in a river in the middle of town and they don't want this to happen again) called safe haven, where you can go to a church, police station, or hospital and give your baby to them without running the risk of being arrested as long as the baby is 3 days old or less. and if you want it back later, you can go through social services. i don't know if that's anywhere else, but i learned about it today when i was at the hospital.

[Evil Angel]

My girlfriend and i have decided to take it slow for a while.I mean i am 17 and shez 18 so i don't think we are mature enongh to have a baby

[Chris(tmas)]

I'd put it up for adoption or abortion.

[Kilo Lee]

"Dont Be Silly, Wrap Your Willy." I'd freak the hell out if my girl had a baby....i'd go insane...lol....i would offer you advice, but i wouldn't know what to say...

[Luke]

"Dont Be Silly, Wrap Your Willy." I'd freak the hell out if my girl had a baby....i'd go insane...lol....i would offer you advice, but i wouldn't know what to say...
Okay, now would you like to explain what exactly the purpose of that post was?

[Messy Marj]

If I would get pregnant, I would never ever get an abortion. I think I would go and live in the same appartment as my boyfriend. If I'm honest, I dislike children alot, but I know it's different when it's the child of yourself.

[Kilo Lee]

i was commenting on the given topic.......um...why

[Michael]

I made the mistake not to use a condom with a girl because she was on the pill. Now i know the pill isnt gaurnteed but i havent heard anything yet. Maybe because i havent contacted her. She didnt want me to use one, I wanted to but i gave in.

Now I havnet been the doctors, but I am sure that im clean and have nothing. I am with a new gf and its the longest runnning now. I should probably go soon. But mine was a quick fuck, nothing special. I regret that. I think you should go for whatever decision you and your bf come to. Because it oviously means a lot, and you didnt do it for the hell of it.

[Zak]

they should either use a condom or pull out before...well you know.

Precum?

[rosanna]

If I would get pregnant, I would never ever get an abortion. I think I would go and live in the same appartment as my boyfriend. If I'm honest, I dislike children alot, but I know it's different when it's the child of yourself.

what if your boyfriend leaves you? not you as in YOU, but i am positive that there are people that have thought that and then their boyfriends left them, and they are not able to support the baby by themselves. sometimes people don't have a choic to raise the child themselves. not that i think they should get an abortion, because i am against it, (and when it came down to it i really was) but they would have to give the baby up for adoption or something. sometimes things don't work out.

[Holiday]

Precum?
Exactly! Precum has just as many sperm as in the end release.

What the hell happened to sex ed?!

The entire fertilization process is incredibly complicated.

This is my biology lecture on reproduction. (http://unr.edu/homepage/zehd/courses/bio191/lecture23/lecture23.pdf) It's interesting.

[lpboarder]

3 words: morning after pill.


Sorry, its late and I've had a few to drink.

[rosanna]

someone i know took one and it didn't work.