Not attracted to the opposite sex?

[Creep]

Who here isn't sexually attracted to the opposite sex? I admit it. I am not. Although I wish I was because I feel as though I cannot grow up and live the life that I wanted to live. I won't have my own family. I won't have my own kids. If my parents knew they would be more crushed than they already are. I don't want to bitch but it is a bit tough knowing that if i admit it to those close to me they will never look at me the same again. They may still be my friends but never the same. I have currently informed my brother (which I actually did on Christmas yesterday) and one friend. I am going to tell another of my closest friends later today.

Please share with me anything you wish to say or any stories or confessions that you can.

[Ronin]

Who here isn't sexually attracted to the opposite sex? I admit it. I am not. Although I wish I was because I feel as though I cannot grow up and live the life that I wanted to live. I won't have my own family. I won't have my own kids. If my parents knew they would be more crushed than they already are. I don't want to bitch but it is a bit tough knowing that if i admit it to those close to me they will never look at me the same again. They may still be my friends but never the same. I have currently informed my brother (which I actually did on Christmas yesterday) and one friend. I am going to tell another of my closest friends later today.

Please share with me anything you wish to say or any stories or confessions that you can.


:surrender: I admit too. i have tried to become "normal", i just realized that i am not who everyone thinks I am. when i tried to talk to my family, they totally became people i never knew. they didnt accept it, and so now i hide again, until things calm down, or change. rock on creep. :headbang:

[Louis]

I am attracted to the opposite sex, but I respect the both of you for admitting this. And it's okay. It's hard to admit, I know, but it'll settle in over time.

[Holiday]

I'm attracted to both men and women. I personally think that women are prettier to look at. :P

Creep and DJ Ronin, it is very good that you guys can come to terms with that. Admitting it will allow you to be yoursleves and therefore live a much happier life. Admit, embrace, and live.

One of my friends could never admit that to his friends or family becuase they would literally kill him. :sad:

You guys just have to trust that people will accept this, and if they don't, they arn't really your friends. Family is a little harder to deal with, but I don't see how people can be so close-minded that they wouldn't accept who their childeren are.

[JJ]

got to admit i do like the opposite sex :)

girls are just fun

[rosanna]

there are a couple of times i thought about it, because guys are assholes. i almost got into a relationship with a girl. long before...um...11/14/03. seriously though, i know tons of girls that decided to not like guys because of the way they were treated by guys. and then they were fine in their relationships. honestly i don't care. i have been attracted to girls before. (especially carmen elecktra, omg she is BANGIN!!) but real girls, around here. idk, does that make me bi...cuz right now i am not exactly attracted to anyone...important at least.

[Nikki]

because guys are assholes

You really do need a good slapping. Wake up. Do you insist on jumping on every bandwagon you hear of?

As for Creep - it's great you can come to terms with how you feel. For that I salute you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with who you feel you wish to spend your life with. Some people do tend to be very narrow minded though, so just take care with how you deal with it

[Anya]

I look at girls all the time. I love girls, I like guys too but not as much. Only occasionally I'll find a guy that is cute and I don't mind dating any. I really would loove to date a girl though. I never have, yet I've been attracted to girls for so long. But yeah, I've never intended to tell my parents. They're heavily against homosexuals and so forth.. I'm afraid of what would happen.

I think Dj_Ronin's like the only guy on LPA that's not attracted to the opposite sex, awsomeness. <3 That's good that both of you accept yourselves though. I've accepted myself a long time ago, because I realized when I was a child I used to love girls as well in a way but never realized it. Like when I noticed Cameron Diaz in The Mask when she wore a red dress. O.o I used to think she was hot lol. Well, still do lmao.

But yeah, I accepted myself I think over two years ago. Never dated a girl yet though.

[Linja]

I'm not exactly sure, since I'm still young *cringe* I can't believe I said that. I like both guys and girls. I'm not looking to get into a relationship with a girl, but I can't rule that out in the future. DJ_Ronin and Creep, I really respect you both for actually being able to admit that.
Admit, embrace, and live.
Right on.

[rosanna]

read what i said: i almost got into a relationship with a girl BEFORE i realized that guys are assholes. i was 14. i was confused about my sexuality.

now i get emotionally attracted to guys. not physically. seriously. at all. i dont know why. maybe i am bi, i don't know, i'm trying to stay away from people these days so i may never know.

around here its accepted to be gay. only individual families are against it. people that have told their parents that they are gay generally did not have a bad reaction. not a good one either, but an acceptance that this is the way it is. too bad it can't be like that everywhere else.

[Nikki]

You're still saying guys are arseholes. You still need a good slapping

[Dean]

I'm heterosexual. I don't like the thought of men doing it with other men myself but then it's not my business. I can respect it. I don't let it affect my opinion of whether they're good people or not.

I don't mean to start anything but I can't say I've ever met a 'bisexual' who isn't just putting it on or confused due to adolescence. But if you're sure that you're one, fine. Good for you I guess.

[rosanna]

i had a friend once that said that bisexual people are greedy. i don't agree with that. i have a friend now, he's bi, and he's not an adolescent. it just doesn't matter to him who he is with. i guess. he's not blatantly bisexual, i mean i know he has sex with girls, but we'll watch tv and he'll talk about hot guys he sees. idk.

[Nikki]

That doesn't mean he's bi. I've kissed a girl. I've commented on how hot another girl may be but I'm not bi.

I swear to god I'm going to slap the silence mode over you..

[Dean]

Another lad came on to me once. ^_^

[.Amanda.]

but we'll watch tv and he'll talk about hot guys he sees. idk.

You're right, you really DON'T know.

That doesn't make him bi.

[The Doctor]

i had a friend once that said that bisexual people are greedy. i don't agree with that. i have a friend now, he's bi, and he's not an adolescent. it just doesn't matter to him who he is with. i guess. he's not blatantly bisexual, i mean i know he has sex with girls, but we'll watch tv and he'll talk about hot guys he sees. idk.

So.....what you're saying is because I say a guy is good-looking, that makes me bi? Well hand me a rainbow flag! I must be bi!

No, just no.

[.Amanda.]

So.....what you're saying is because I say a guy is good-looking, that makes me bi? Well hand me a rainbow flag! I must be bi!

No, just no.

*applauds*

[Darcy]

Rosanna: Saying that someone is attractive does not actually make you sexually attracted to them. It's just sharing the fact that you think they're pretty. If I said, "Wow, Kate Winslet is so hot." would that make me bisexual? I think not.

But back to the point of the topic: I have so much respect for anyone who is brave enough to tell their family and friends that they are attracted to the same sex. A lot of people wouldn't say it for fear of not being accepted. It makes me happy to see people who are open about the way they are. It's nice when people can be themselves.

[Ronin]

Im really glad alot of people here accept homosexuals. it makes me feel like i have people i can count on. hopefully, my family will feel the same way, but thats later on down the roads. believe me, telling the truth about such a subject as this is very hard, and noone knows everyones veiws on it. thank you everyone.

[Darcy]

Im really glad alot of people here accept homosexuals. it makes me feel like i have people i can count on. hopefully, my family will feel the same way, but thats later on down the roads. believe me, telling the truth about such a subject as this is very hard, and noone knows everyones veiws on it. thank you everyone.

Good luck with your family. I'm sure it will all work out in the end. Remember that people are always more understanding than you expect them to be.

[Michael]

Who here isn't sexually attracted to the opposite sex? I admit it. I am not. Although I wish I was because I feel as though I cannot grow up and live the life that I wanted to live. I won't have my own family. I won't have my own kids. If my parents knew they would be more crushed than they already are. I don't want to bitch but it is a bit tough knowing that if i admit it to those close to me they will never look at me the same again. They may still be my friends but never the same. I have currently informed my brother (which I actually did on Christmas yesterday) and one friend. I am going to tell another of my closest friends later today.

Please share with me anything you wish to say or any stories or confessions that you can.

I told mine i was bi sexual but i think hey realised, I was very camp on holiday when with my freind. Mainly they did try to question it and give reasons why wasnt. But over time they have been on about it. No need to tell them though straight away.

[User Name]

Rosanna, don't take this personally, but you should.. stop posting. It's for your own good. :)

[Detri]

It'd be great to be bisexual.

It would infinitely increase your chances of getting laid when walking into a bar.

[Creep]

Wow. All of you people are great :D Thank you all for your support. I can't picture the day that I tell my parents though. One day I will have to but I really don't want to. I told the close friend that I said I would tell. He is totally fine with it. My brother and him do tease me sometimes in a joking way though. They will calm over time :) There are a couple more people that I would like to tell but I don't know when I will get the courage.

Dj Ronin, I will only tell the people that I am sure would be fine with it. I would make sure that I know their views on the subject before telling. It definatly boosts confidence.

[Anya]

I never tell my close friends that are girls because I'm worried of their reaction. The first person I told about my Bisexuality was my best friend for nine whole years, we knew eachother since the 3rd grade. But she hurt my feelings about it. I was insecure about the idea at the time and she kinda just laughed jokingly, and I think she started shying away from me since then. She said she though I had a crush on her, which I never did, I just wanted to tell her how I felt. So I'm allways afraid of telling girls who are my friends, because I'm afraid they'll never look at me the same or treat me the same.

I was very sad at that time because I felt no one understood, esspecially my friends. I mostly tell guys now though.. my close guy friends, since most I know don't care about that sort of thing. So I'm happy now with myself, but until I feel ready I won't tell most of my friends who are girls.

[Cal]

People who feel they owe their life to a significant other need to realise they owe the gift of life to themselfs

[Sexy_Kittie_722]

i admit it i am bi

i find girls to be more sexier then guys but right now my boyfriend to me is sexy for now girls are hard to find where i live so i kinda put a break on looking for a girl

but i like porn and anime porn

but i told my mom and dad but i doubt my mom excepts it cause when i start to talk about she gets all well like upset and it drives me insane

but i am bi

[rosanna]

i don't understand why people think that if they are in the same room with someone who is gay or bi, then they are going to hit on them. do they think about that with people of the opposite sex? no. i mean, the bi or gay person probably thinks they are as ugly as the straight person. :D

seriously though, that bothers me. we are all people here and we should learn to accept each other. especially if they have known you for a while, like in anya's case. just because you tell your friend something like that does not make you a different person. you are the same. people need to understand that.

[Adam]

I don't mean to start anything but I can't say I've ever met a 'bisexual' who isn't just putting it on or confused due to adolescence. But if you're sure that you're one, fine. Good for you I guess.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

I am straight, though I have kissed a guy it was a dare in a game of spin the bottle. I also have no problem with homosexual or bisexuals and my best friend for like the last seven years is gay.

[Holiday]

I'm heterosexual. I don't like the thought of men doing it with other men myself but then it's not my business. I can respect it. I don't let it affect my opinion of whether they're good people or not.

I don't mean to start anything but I can't say I've ever met a 'bisexual' who isn't just putting it on or confused due to adolescence. But if you're sure that you're one, fine. Good for you I guess.
I know what you mean. There is proof that "bisexual" guys are actually homosexual and don't want to let go of what is "normal."

With girls it is a little different. I'm not exactly sure how, but medically there is a difference.

I'm more heterosexual than I am bisexual. I enjoy girls, but really, its only my best friend that I can see doing a lot of things with. Its fun to fool around with her, and I love her to death. I'm almost like a part of her and her bf's relationship. They each love me in their own way.

I have no problem at all making out with girls, in fact, its really fun. It is interesting to see how someone reacts. They have the same parts, and to see their little differences in rxn and dis/likes, it is really a learning exp. I'm picky with them though....I think I'm just a picky person in general, which is good. haha.

I feel as if sexuallity is something to be explored and boundaries tested. Sex is not something to be afraid of. People need to let go and find what they really like. Its sick that the media controls every aspect of our lives, even the stuff that goes on in the bed room.

[Messy Marj]

I'm Bi.
A females body is 10 times prettier than a males body in my opinion.
But I think I am more for men than for women though.
Holiday explains it allllll in the above post :)

I don't want to sound like a jerk, but I like Bisexual and Homosexual men more than Hetero men. Why? Maybe because they understand a woman better, I don't know.

[Ronin]

I'm Bi.


I don't want to sound like a jerk, but I like Bisexual and Homosexual men more than Hetero men. Why? Maybe because they understand a woman better, I don't know.


totally agree with you. alot of the straight guys i know tend to treat woman like crap, and it pisses me off when they do things they think is alright, when it kills the girl.

[Holiday]

I'm Bi.
A females body is 10 times prettier than a males body in my opinion.
But I think I am more for men than for women though.
Holiday explains it allllll in the above post :)

I don't want to sound like a jerk, but I like Bisexual and Homosexual men more than Hetero men. Why? Maybe because they understand a woman better, I don't know.
hehe, thank you and I totally agree. ^_^

It seems to me that bisexual and homosexual men are a lot more open in general(at least if they can be in their situation), not just with their sexuality. In no way am I saying that you have to be bi or gay to be open, I'm just noting a general trend. some of it has to do with brain chemistry and some has to do with shock factor. There is nothing more shocking and different than being yourself. If you want to make a statement, be you. It is the best way, I've discovered. It is these people that don't want to be shocking or be themselves that bother me. I like real, honest people, ones that aren't afraid to be themselves.

I'm kind of going off on a tangent, but I think I'm trying to get at the point that, no matter if you're homosexual, bisexual, or heterosexual, it is the open-ness, the freedom from these social norms of fear, and the empathetic thinking that I find attractive and what is so fun about more inclined people.

People aren't so afraid of homosexuality as an act, they are afraid of the connontations of the ideas in it's context to their society and people's reactions to it. They are afraid of other people being afraid and judging.

hehe, ok, I think I went a little over board, but I was on a roll. :P

[Tom]

It's good for all you to admit that you are gay or bi, it takes alot of courage.

P.S. rosanna just stop.

[Ether]

I.Am.Bisexual

And isn't the idea of a forum for people to share their veiws, opinions and feelings? If I'm wrong please correct me...but somehow I don't think I am. So could you please all lay off Rosanna. She has a right to post does she not? Consider yourself bullies if you may. Thanks.

[DIJ Metal]

I love to have sex with the opposite sex but every once in awhile I feel an attraction towards a guy. I'm not bi I just have little bi moments but I'd never go out with a guy or have sex with one.

[Creep]

I have a question, I'm not attracted to the opposite sex but I wish I was. I'm not proud of my sexuality at all. Will I be less happy than I could be later in life?

[Ronin]

I have a question, I'm not attracted to the opposite sex but I wish I was. I'm not proud of my sexuality at all. Will I be less happy than I could be later in life?

i have heard of many people who switched sides, and have become happier. i've tried this, but to no avail. there are books and seminars that may help, but its up to you. if you are determined and ready to face the challenge, then by all means go for it. if you are not able to, then maybe counsiling can help. im thinking of maybe getting help for me and my family, but not right now. theres too much drama at my house right now.

[Creep]

There is a fair bit of drama going on at my house at the moment too actually. The only counseling that I will get is counseling from my friends. We have decided that we will attempt to counsel each other if necesary. Things are going quite well in that department as of the present. I don't believe that one can just 'switch sides' through books and seminars though. Once someone is in this sort of frame of mind i imagine that is is very difficult, if not impossible to get them out of it.

[Ronin]

totally agree. i have my good friends to guide me, and vice versa. im glad to have open friends to talk to, and explain the problems and situations in life.

[Amanda]

I'm a lesbian. What can I say? I love females. And to the topic starter, you can still have children and live a normal life. There are a few ways you can have children. You can adopt or you can do it another way that I'm sure you know about. If you don't, you can ask me. I just don't want to go through explaining something if you already know about it.

[Dr. Faust]

i admire all of you for admiting what you have. i know what the people of today think of gays and bisexuals, and i love LPA for not letting people be homophobic, because i have gay friends, and i don't want thier lives to get harder. i am straight, but i treat gay people like any one else, and i am proud of it.

[dudeman_OG]

I am hetero, I am not afraid of gay men, but if they make a move on me, I am suddenly grossed out. But if I was a girl, i would probably be lesbien. I just like women's bodies. Men only have one sexy object, and that's not even too sexy. Women, on the other hand, have 4. Lots more fun.

[Amanda]

Well of couse, you being a heterosexual male, would say that if you were female you would be a lesbian. That's because you're thinking from your mind and point of view. If you were born female, I'm sure things would be a lot different. I'm not saying you wouldn't be a lesbian, I'm just saying there is a possibility that you could be straight.

[Doorway]

I am heterosexual.I like boys .Even right now I like one boy but he´ll never notice me.
Well I idon´t have nothing against bisexuals or homosexuals.
If my friend would be a lesbian I still would be her friend.

[mathew51b]

i sometimes wonder if im bisexual, ive never even considered boys, but recently i occasionally think more about boys sorta thing, but i dont think i could actually have a relationship with a boy...so yeh, i dunno whether its a phase or me just 'experimenting' with my thoughts or what...and i cant talk about it to anyone i know, not even my gay friend, coz i have a gf, and tis all confusing

[Seinfeld]

Well...I recenty found out that my best friend's gay...I don't know why people have to be so f***ing uptight about it...just because someon'es gay doesn't make them a different person...it just means you know something about them you didn't before...besides...it's kinda cool not having to be scared of someone you know falling in love with the same girl as you...so mainly...gay...hetero...patato-patahtoe...no big dif. ...

[Ether]

Ha ha.
My friends are calling me Homoflexible.
Tis funny.
I always thought I was bi..as I said before.
I have had boyfriends but couldnt ever get seriously intimate with them.
I dont think I could ever have a sexual relationship with a male.
But girls are different....
I have a girlfriend now and I think Im falling in love...
Would you still consider me Bi or do I fall under the lesbian label.
I dont really care, just wondered what you guys think?
ta.

[Holiday]

Ether, I think you've now been taken under the lable of lesbian.

Basically, the whole hertero/homosexual basis is on sexual preference. Since you couldn't have a sexual relationship with a male and you are happy in a relationship with a female, I think it's safe to say you're a fullfledged lesbian. :thumbsup:


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I kinda wish my friend Alissa would act more bi(with me)...

haha, I think I kind of bring out the bi-ness in girls. like...three now.
There is a new one at work, to if I spent more time with, I'm sure she'd experiment. :lol:

Is that a good or a bad thing?

[Ronin]

depends... some people are just going through a phase that most people go through. once its over, they go back to heterosexual lifes. others want to explore and see what they like, and interests them the most.

[Holiday]

oh, yes, that is very true... There is always a possibillity of change, always.

I mean, my friend's grandmother had a partner for a very long time, then all of a sudden, dumped her and went for a boy litterally half her age...it's really sad and kind of sick. She's 64 and he's 32. Her doing that almost killed her partner and she had to be taked to the institution and tried to commit suicide. :ermm:

[Ronin]

wow....thats really tough. yeah, ive seen people literally just change in a week. i guess something in their head clicks.

[Justmuse]

Well...um.yeah I'm "normal" We are all different in our sexual tastes but the idea is that our generation is much more understanding than our parents.I think this is the main problem.There's nothing to be shamed about.And to say about your children,that you afraid you wont have....you have to chose between your feelings and your own responsibility.

[Michael]

Who here isn't sexually attracted to the opposite sex? I admit it. I am not. Although I wish I was because I feel as though I cannot grow up and live the life that I wanted to live. I won't have my own family. I won't have my own kids. If my parents knew they would be more crushed than they already are. I don't want to bitch but it is a bit tough knowing that if i admit it to those close to me they will never look at me the same again. They may still be my friends but never the same. I have currently informed my brother (which I actually did on Christmas yesterday) and one friend. I am going to tell another of my closest friends later today.

Please share with me anything you wish to say or any stories or confessions that you can.

I am Bi-Sexual and proud about it, dont hide who you are. I find that coming out to your freinds and family is hard to do, yes it is very worrying, I was scared that my friends would reject me based on it. But to be honest most of them turned around and said "Finally, we always through you were". I wouldnt worry about coming out to your freinds, i know that family is a major worry and is the worst to tell. My parents said it was an adolsent phase, but as I do still have gf's they dont worry much.

If people dont accept you for who you are they are not worth knowing, you shouldnt have to change for people. That took me a long time to work out, and even know ims cared to show the real me inscase of rejection by a lot of people. But dont make the mistake i did, and that is listen to what some people will say because its not worth listening to. Ive been out for around 2 years now.

Good luck with telling them and hope it goes well.

[Creep]

Thank you for your input people :) Especially Michael. Nine people now know the truth. I agree that if people can't accept me then they aren't worth knowing. Telling parents is definately too tough for me to comprehend right now though. I have this one friend who I go to school with that I have informed. Unfortunatly it seems the the whole ordeal is constantly on his mind because he continually makes insider jokes about it that only him and I will understand. I told him that it bothers me but he does not stop. He has accepted the truth but because of his friendly teasing it makes me feel as though he acts differently around me. Should I be concerned?

[Michael]

Thank you for your input people :) Especially Michael. Nine people now know the truth. I agree that if people can't accept me then they aren't worth knowing. Telling parents is definately too tough for me to comprehend right now though. I have this one friend who I go to school with that I have informed. Unfortunatly it seems the the whole ordeal is constantly on his mind because he continually makes insider jokes about it that only him and I will understand. I told him that it bothers me but he does not stop. He has accepted the truth but because of his friendly teasing it makes me feel as though he acts differently around me. Should I be concerned?

My mates did it for a while, so yeah shouldnt be worried to much really. As long as you know he wont blab its ok. My mates did it for a while. Trick is to just ignore it.