How...

[Tomi]

How do you ask a girl out? Yeah, I know. Odd question.

I'm slightly stuck here. I know she likes me [her friends have been telling me that, and she also did ask me to dance at the Halloween dance...] and I like her. But she's got a slight problem. Her friend's described it to me that her brain freezes up when she sees me, nervousness, so that leads to her usually not talking to me or ignoring me [we only see each other in tech ed and in the halls and outside]. But then I get nervous too somewhat because I don't know what to say, like how to ask her out... :blush:

If you could help me, it would extremely help me and probably others too embarressed to post a topic. lol.

Thanks. :hugz:

[Mark]

Be casual. Don't overthink. Try a "Hey, would you like to see a movie with me some time?". Rehearse it and repeat it to yourself if you feel nervous. Act confident, and look her in the eyes. Stumbling over your words doesn't look great.

[Vampire]

Oy vay.

Letter.
AIM.
Phone.
Msn.
Yahoo.
Text message.
Pigeon.
Shout from across the field.

[Sylar]

Originally posted by Mark@Dec 16 2004, 11:54 PM
Be casual. Don't overthink. Try a "Hey, would you like to see a movie with me some time?". Rehearse it and repeat it to yourself if you feel nervous. Act confident, and look her in the eyes. Stumbling over your words doesn't look great.
^
Great Advice. I've done it before, it helps.

[NickelNine]

haha.. i was in the same situation and i know exactly what ut talkin about.. just do anything to try to get her to talk even if ur shy.. u should just work on not being shy or whatever..

[Leslie]

Originally posted by Vampire@Dec 16 2004, 07:54 PM
Pigeon.
Shout from across the field.
:lol:

Mark's advise works... just talk to her casually and bring it up. I hope that helps. =)

[Doctor Manhattan]

Blackmail always works well.

[Tomi]

Originally posted by Mark@Dec 16 2004, 10:54 PM
Be casual. Don't overthink. Try a "Hey, would you like to see a movie with me some time?". Rehearse it and repeat it to yourself if you feel nervous. Act confident, and look her in the eyes. Stumbling over your words doesn't look great.
Thanks Mark. But I'm not worried about stumbling over words. I'm pretty confident, everyone's rooting me on to ask her so I will. I just don't know what to say.
She's been practically the only thing on my mind since she asked me to dance.
I just don't want to ask her infront of other people. Dunno why. Just don't.

Great advice Vampire. [sarcastic smilie]
Casey - hah. I know she'll say yes, so I don't think blackmail will be needed eh?

[Doctor Manhattan]

If you know she'll say yes, then you shouldn't need our help. If the two of you like each other, then it should naturally come up if the two of you talk.

[Tomi]

Originally posted by Casey@Dec 16 2004, 11:08 PM
If you know she'll say yes, then you shouldn't need our help. If the two of you like each other, then it should naturally come up if the two of you talk.
I hope you read my whole post. Note where I mentioned her getting brain-freeze?

[Doctor Manhattan]

I think that's why the phone or instant messaging programs were invented, fella.

[The Doctor]

Just do what I do. Just ask her if she's busy sometime. If she says yes, then say, "Well I was just wondering if youd wanna do something." Go from there. Its a pretty easy thing to do.

[Kate]

Rehearse.
Be casual.
Don't overdo it.
SMILE.
Call her by name. (Girls love that.)

[Evi]

Maybe MSN is the best way, she can't see how nervous you are.

[matttheskwirl14]

Originally posted by BuriedxTragedy+Dec 16 2004, 10:54 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (BuriedxTragedy @ Dec 16 2004, 10:54 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin--Mark@Dec 16 2004, 11:54 PM
Be casual. Don't overthink. Try a "Hey, would you like to see a movie with me some time?". Rehearse it and repeat it to yourself if you feel nervous. Act confident, and look her in the eyes. Stumbling over your words doesn't look great.
^
Great Advice. I've done it before, it helps. [/b][/quote]
it helped me too

[iamrighthereandnow]

if both of you are nervous about it, just get chatting, make her feel comfy with you, when you talk to her, see how your nervousness goes as you see yourself being good at what your doing.when you are more comfy with each other, say it. if you are afraid to ask her out in front of others, arrange situation that there arent any of them around. watch the scene, grab the situation. go for it.....

[Tomi]

Casey, fieke - errm, i'd rather ask her face-to-face

Nate - Thanks for the idea...i'll ask her what she's doing for the christmas break [we've got 2 weeks off of school]

fairladykate - What would I call her if then? "hey you" pfft, yeah right. Of course i'd call her by her name ;)

Just after school today I saw her at the lockers with everyone and said 'Hey Jen' and then she turn to me and said 'hey' and turned back. That's another example of her 'brain freeze'. But of course first her friend had to tell her 'Well say something, Jen!'. Meh, I'm used to it. I'll get her outta it once I ask her out.

One of my friends is getting everyone together to go tobogganing and other stuff during the holidays. Since I missed my chance at school, i'll ask her there.

Oh and just so you guys know. I'm barely nervous. I just don't know what to do. >_<.

[越南]

What if her friends didnt tell u that she like ya?
How would you know that she liked you?
Just a question that benefits for both of us . :D

[Neil]

If you can ever get her into a conversation and you're both enjoying the conversation, sporadically ask her. That's a good approach.

[adelleda]

As a girl who suffers from "brain freeze", I'd say that conversation is the best way. Make sure she has no way to leave because honestly, she'll regret it if she likes you and you'll regret it.

[Tomi]

DJHahn - Well, pretty obvious when she asked me to dance [of course she had to do this through her friends...] she like me. But if she never asked me to dance...I wouldn't know if she liked me or not. I just see her in tech ed and outta classes.

Neil - I've been trying. I always run into 2 walls. Either I can't find her or she just ignores me like usual. Or I hit another wall and don't know what to talk about.

adelleda - Corner her, right. :lol: I'm already regretting I haven't asked her yet. This is driving me insane. >_<

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[goso88]

I know this sounds corny and unreal, but the boyfriends of my friends asked them out by writing their special someone a poem or a rap or something.

It doesn't even have to be that great; the point is that it sets the mood, even relaxes things a bit.

I think one kid wrote,

"I think you're cool,
Because you're not a stool."

[FreeYourMind]

Walk over to her and kiss her. She will get the message right away/

[Messy Marj]

Originally posted by FreeYourMind@Dec 18 2004, 06:39 PM
Walk over to her and kiss her. She will get the message right away/
I wouldn't do that. That comes over as really pushy.

[Neil]

Originally posted by FreeYourMind@Dec 18 2004, 01:39 PM
Walk over to her and kiss her. She will get the message right away/
I wouldn't try that. She might become confused and get scared.

[Willstar]

Originally posted by FreeYourMind@Dec 18 2004, 02:39 PM
Walk over to her and kiss her. She will get the message right away/
That's the worst advice ever...

[Luke/Hellflame]

Originally posted by Casey@Dec 17 2004, 04:05 AM
Blackmail always works well.
:lol: You sick bastard

[Chris(tmas)]

"Hey there, do I know you from somewhere?"

"Did it hurt?"

She'll say what?

"When you fell from heaven"

Got it from the book Pimping for dummies :lol:

[Willstar]

Originally posted by Chris(tmas)@Dec 18 2004, 03:52 PM
"Hey there, do I know you from somewhere?"

"Did it hurt?"

She'll say what?

"When you fell from heaven"

Got it from the book Pimping for dummies :lol:
LOL.

Written by 50 Cent and Snoop Dogg. :lol:

[Mark]

Originally posted by Will+Dec 18 2004, 04:15 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Will @ Dec 18 2004, 04:15 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin--FreeYourMind@Dec 18 2004, 02:39 PM
Walk over to her and kiss her. She will get the message right away/
That's the worst advice ever... [/b][/quote]
Well said! :lol:

Note: If using my advice, make sure the girl isn't a jackass. ;)

[Chris(tmas)]

Originally posted by Will+Dec 18 2004, 08:54 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Will @ Dec 18 2004, 08:54 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin--Chris(tmas)@Dec 18 2004, 03:52 PM
"Hey there, do I know you from somewhere?"

"Did it hurt?"

She'll say what?

"When you fell from heaven"

Got it from the book Pimping for dummies :lol:
LOL.

Written by 50 Cent and Snoop Dogg. :lol: [/b][/quote]
:lol:

[Tomi]

FreeYourMind - You should tell that. Then tell me how much it hurt when you got sacked. ;)

Mark - I probably will take your advice. Converse with her then slip it in like that. But no, she's not a jackass.

Chris - :lol: :lol:

[Evil Angel]

hey just be fuckin cool and if you really like the girl and she likes you too then i don't think there should be a problem.Unless ofcourse she doesn't like you...... :lol:

[Kevin]

just let her ask you ^_^

[Tomi]

Originally posted by Kevin@Dec 20 2004, 12:59 PM
just let her ask you ^_^
It's been about 2 months already [yeah I know, I should of asked her sooner] and she hasn't asked me yet. So yeahh...I'm going to have to be the one asking.

I'm waiting till my friend organizes a tobogganing event or something like that where everyone's going to get together, she'll be there.

[The Modfather]

The best way to ask her out since she freezes up when you two cross paths, is to try and time it so that you sit next to her at lunch. Talk to her the whole time, not mentioning anything date related, and try to keep the conversation going if she freezes up. If she goes quiet ask her things about her favorite hobbies to keep the conversation running. If she plays sports ask her how good that's going for her, and maybe discuss upcoming events such as Christmas, or a school event you know she'd probably go to.

If you keep talking to her, she should start to feel a lot more comfortable around you by the time the lunch period is over. When it's time for her to get up that's when you tell her to wait, and ask her if she can meet you somewhere outside of school at the end of the day (could be at the doors, or anywhere). When she's out there and waiting for you (no matter how nervous she can be) that's when you pop the question. Say hey, and greet her by her name and then look her in the eyes and go "So, the reason I wanted to meet up with you after school is cause I thought I'd ask you a question." She'll be like "Yes?" and then that's when you go "I was wondering if you were free this weekend or something, so we could go see a movie..".

If she feels the way her friends tell you she feels she'll tell you if she's free, or give you a time when she can go a movie without any plans earlier on in the day. Ask her if you can have her number to call her on the day she's free, and see if she's still able to go. When the day comes, call her, have a casual conversation with her, once again keeping it alive if she falls shy, and then pick her up to see the movie when it's time to go. Be yourself on the date, and if she goes to hold your hand just let it be natural and don't pull back. The most important thing to a girl is that you be yourself for her, and don't be too shy. If you make an excellent impression on your first date, there should be no reason why she wont agree to more dates in the future.

Good luck dude, you already have this in the bag, just be yourself and be confident.

[iamrighthereandnow]

that is a cool advice to you, but i join this: if you make the conversation, dont make it look like you made it just for the sake of asking her a date, if you like her then its cool also for you to find out what she is really like as a person, then just ask her all those question just to open the door for dating. yes, for sure it will follow since you know she likes you, but if guys ask me all these questions and all i see is that they do it cos they want to get into my knickers they have no chance. its perfectly ok to feel that way, but girls like to know that they are respected as a person before they jump into it.

[Tomi]

Thanks alot Derek! That really helps. :) Except in my case I'll be at a huge snow hill with everyone next time I see her and we don't have a lunchroom in our school. Anyways, that really did help Derek.

iamrighthereandnow - Thanks for the advice :)

[Doctor Manhattan]

Originally posted by .Matt@Dec 21 2004, 04:29 PM
we don't have a lunchroom in our school.
w...w... what?!

[Tomi]

Originally posted by Casey+Dec 21 2004, 06:02 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Casey @ Dec 21 2004, 06:02 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin--.Matt@Dec 21 2004, 04:29 PM
we don't have a lunchroom in our school.
w...w... what?! [/b][/quote]
Nor do we have a cafeteria. Our school sucks, I know.
All our school is, is square shaped and in each corner we have these huge 'foyers'. Last year we were allowed to each lunch there [2-3 tables set up for the lunch hour in each foyer]. Pretty lame. I know.

[Friskey™]

I have no advice...Only the fact that i'm wishing you the best of luck!

If things do work out, make sure her parents and friends actually like you and enjoy your company! If they don't, it'll be a little harder...but i'm sure things can work out! Why i'm saying this, that's why my last relationship failed! Not trying to scare you or anything, to let you know!

[Tomi]

Originally posted by Twitch Fiorentino@Dec 21 2004, 09:49 PM
I have no advice...Only the fact that i'm wishing you the best of luck!

If things do work out, make sure her parents and friends actually like you and enjoy your company! If they don't, it'll be a little harder...but i'm sure things can work out! Why i'm saying this, that's why my last relationship failed! Not trying to scare you or anything, to let you know!
One of her friends was saying her dad might not like me but I
ll probably be able to make friends with him and the rest of the family. The only thing I'm worried about is her older brother...

[iamrighthereandnow]

don't be. he'll probably might be protective over his sis but if you treat her right, he aint gonna bother you. if he is gonna bother you, show him you wont be scared cos you wanna be with his sis and he can't fuck around with you without a cause. and even then, stand your ground whatever. agree to communication not his intimidation if he dares to do so.

[Friskey™]

Originally posted by .Matt+Dec 22 2004, 12:36 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (.Matt @ Dec 22 2004, 12:36 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin--Twitch Fiorentino@Dec 21 2004, 09:49 PM
I have no advice...Only the fact that i'm wishing you the best of luck!

If things do work out, make sure her parents and friends actually like you and enjoy your company! If they don't, it'll be a little harder...but i'm sure things can work out! Why i'm saying this, that's why my last relationship failed! Not trying to scare you or anything, to let you know!
One of her friends was saying her dad might not like me but I
ll probably be able to make friends with him and the rest of the family. The only thing I'm worried about is her older brother... [/b][/quote]
Trust me, if you do meet her folks, be mature to them! Plus dress nicely...the first time I met my ex's mom, I had a County Jail workshirt on with a Jack Daniels t-shirt...i think that was a bad idea! :lol:

[Tomi]

Originally posted by iamrighthereandnow@Dec 23 2004, 08:53 AM
don't be. he'll probably might be protective over his sis but if you treat her right, he aint gonna bother you. if he is gonna bother you, show him you wont be scared cos you wanna be with his sis and he can't fuck around with you without a cause. and even then, stand your ground whatever. agree to communication not his intimidation if he dares to do so.
Hm...He's about 17 I think, get's his sister into trouble [grounded] alot by making up fake stories, parents believe him. Err. Yeah.

Twitch - Thanks for the advice. I'll try to remember that when I go to visit her...

[Friskey™]

I mean, don't dress in a suit and tie for your parents! Dress responsibly...don't wear a shirt that says "I have the dick, so I make the rules" or something :lol:

[Tomi]

Originally posted by Twitch Fiorentino@Dec 23 2004, 02:59 PM
I mean, don't dress in a suit and tie for your parents! Dress responsibly...don't wear a shirt that says "I have the dick, so I make the rules" or something :lol:
lmao. That'd be the last thing I'd wear there. lol.

[Friskey™]

Originally posted by .Matt+Dec 23 2004, 03:47 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (.Matt @ Dec 23 2004, 03:47 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin--Twitch Fiorentino@Dec 23 2004, 02:59 PM
I mean, don't dress in a suit and tie for your parents! Dress responsibly...don't wear a shirt that says "I have the dick, so I make the rules" or something :lol:
lmao. That'd be the last thing I'd wear there. lol. [/b][/quote]
Good idea! :lol:

[NofxPants]

Be Yourself

[Tomi]

Originally posted by nofx_punk@Dec 23 2004, 05:22 PM
Be Yourself
...How many times has that been told to me now....5 I think. :lol: