Discussion in 'Serious Chat' started by Michele, Jul 24, 2015.
Hang in there, Chris.
I'm too generous of a person. People are hardly grateful for the things I do for them. Even giving away personal possessions that I've saved up months for, just to help them out. I don't care about myself but it's to the point where it becomes too detrimental to my own life. I think people take advantage of my generosity. And I let them get away with it because I have so much pity for everyone. I can never not feel sorry for someone. Maybe I should stop having so much sympathy.
Really not enjoying life at all
My family can be full of crap most of the time. This morning was no different.
I’ve floated along in my relationship with my gf for 12 years and 3 kids, and now realise we don’t really have much going for us.
I feel like I’ve missed the best years of my life(a part from my kids), by putting on hold my ambitions and dreams because that was what was best for the family. We were in our teens when we got together and I’m now 31 and wishing I’d done something years ago.
We are polar opposites in most ways, which was good early on, but now it is hard agreeing on anything. I’m tired. And I feel I’ve emotionally just left the relationship.
I’ve never had to break up a relationship of this magnitude before. Don’t even know where to start. Or if I should at all for the good of the kids. I cry alone whenever I think of their faces if I left. My boys are my life.
I don’t even know when things started to go wrong.
I'm sorry for all of this. My brother and his wife are kind of going through the same thing. It's gotten to the point where he's moved out and lives with us now. The kids are still too young to know what's going on (two and four years old). They haven't divorced or separated yet but I'm afraid it's inevitable. It's a fact that kids are emotionally traumatized by divorce at a young age, whether it's apparent right away or a gradual pain. But I also know that parents are still people and go through a lot of suffering in relationships. It's hard to know what the right thing to do is. I just hope for the best for you.
I get sad thinking about my nephews and it actually gives me anxiety. I don't want them to go through the pain of divorce and feeling like it's their fault or they're getting rejected by their parents. I don't want my nephews to have that voice in the back of their heads as they grow up. Sometimes things just don't work out though. Sorry for the long post. I feel for you. Be strong and pull through, whatever choice you make.
I can’t help but feel we’d both be liberated if we called it a day. I know she isn’t super happy herself, but im not sure she is aware to the extent that I’m at though.
I have every intention of being there for the kids and even her if it happens. And as there’s no malaise in this at all, I’d hope to remain friends and be able to still have outings as a family.
She’s a great girl, and has always done right by me and doesn’t deserve this. That said, I also feel nobody deserves to be stuck in something that is bringing them down. In her heart of hearts, she would admit its for the best too.
I don't want to wake up.
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